How to become fearless or not be insecure?

Question

I walked into a gas station tonight, and there was a drunk dude at the counter, talkin to his friends (guy who worked there), and he started kinda hassling me a little bit, made me feel kinda bad. When I was leaving he was like "have a good night!" and I said "you too" and then he started laughing/joking....my question is how can I become totally secure with myself, my looks, and my complete attitude. I hate it when people think of me as weird or evil...I try to be as nice as possible, and I have a TON of friends at my work (who are all good people..since we rid out the *******), but when out in public or in college, I feel totally insecure about stuff...how can one become fearless? I guess I just wanna be liked by everyone..and not be considered weird or be out of place

Answer 1

What is it that you're insecure about? Appearance, personality, hygeine? The main thing to understand in this case is that the guy was drunk. No matter what he said or did, he was drunk, and therefore an idiot.

In other situations, again, don't worry about what people think unless you fear physical abuse or rejection. Besides, anyone who thinks so negatively about someone they don't even know is an ignorant person, why should you care?

Answer 2

look mate, if people had the answer to that there would be alot less problems in the world. no one can tell you how to feel. it's something you have to work out for yourself.

think about the young teenage girls with anorexia who are so self conscious and insecure when there's nothing even wrong with them physically. it's a mental disorder. and since it's mental there's nothing you can do physically to fix it. do you think if all the anorexics lost weight they'd suddenly feel happy and good about themselves? ofcourse not because they never stop wanting to lose weight because they'll always think of themselves as not good enough.
sorry i compared you to an anorexic, but it's the same type of thing. it's all in your head. there's nothing that makes one person better than another. to make yourself a better person you need to feel it and work it out for yourself.

and also, if you're not liked by someone don't let it bother you. if you actually are a good guy then the problem is most likely with the other person. it's not that big of a deal. in the long run just establish your good friends and maintain great relationships with them aswell as your family and you should stay happy. they'll make you feel confident enough and happy with yourself. you shouldn't have to change just to make someone like you.

Answer 3

I go though life with an attitude that,
" I don't care ".I never said it, but I didn't.
Only what mattered.
I may like what I'm wearing, but I don't care if no
one else does.
In the movie " Ridgemont High ", Samoans character
tells his friend " To act like, where you are,
is the place to be ".
Works for me. LOL
I liked myself, and I was nice to everyone.
If they think you are weird, and evil, that's what their
mind is into. You know the truth, and you're not.
Finish College, get a good job, and maybe you
will see the Losers again. Be like me, keep some
change on hand, so you can drop a dollar in their cup. ;-)

Answer 4

i have had the same problem as u are having now and buddy let me tell u it sucks!

i look at it this way, i don't want to start no crap so i watch my mouth, but other than that I'm the whip diggity!!! u halfto tell your self that it really don't matter what other people thing, friends think, or what co-workers think! when u get this into your head it all comes easy after that! now i am still a little shy and i still do care sometimes what people think, but that is just implanted into our heads from childhood. i think it is one of Americas biggest problems coming out of public schools! i know that's where i got my insecurity's at! u just halfto erase what u have written already in your head and replace it!!!

i don't know if this helps but i hope it did! that's how i did it!

Answer 5

You answered your own question, kinda. It's not about being "fearless", but about being secure with yourself.The next time someone starts hassling you about anything look at them like "what is with YOU"? and remember it is with THEM not you! It doesn't matter what people we don't know or care about emotionally, says to us or about us. They mean NOTHING to us and neither does anything they have to say. What someone like that says about you DOES NOT change who you really are (unless you let it). So remember that the next time starts giving you a hard time...pity them, they're losers!

Answer 6

A man has to test himself to learn what his limits are. Of course, those limits can always be expanded with training or education, but know what you can do and learn to feel confident in your abilities. Fearless? No such animal. Medal of Honor recipients will tell you they didn't have time to feel fear, or they managed to attain the objective in spite of the fear. That latter part of the statement is the definition of bravery. He/she does what has to be done even though they're scared spitless.