At 14, I started losing my hair. My parents never bothered to take me to a specialist. When I was old enough to seek my own med advice, too late.The follicles in my top scalp were dead.There were always people who had to make comments. I couldn't date. I was afraid to let anyone get too close.3 years ago I got a hair transplant. My hair is still not thick, but I can style it the way I want.The years have been kind to me. I kept myself slender, never smoked or drank. I'm 44 but people assume I'm in my 20s. No kidding! 9 months ago I met a handsome pediatrician, Jeff. We married 3 weeks later, and I am now 3 months pregnant with my 1st baby. I'm so happy! But, again the comments by people at work who know my age. "arent you a little old?" "Your FIRST? are you joking?" This is the first chance for me, because all these yrs I was too afraid! And AGE is another thing people use to judge you by. Some of us don't have a perfect plan for our lives early on because of things we can't control.
2007-01-07 15:54:24 · 32 answers · asked by Elizabeth S 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
My personal feeling is that 44 is pretty old for a first baby. But that is just my personal opinion. I take care of 40 something new moms all the time so it doesn't bother me at all. And I do understand things happen and something it just works out that way.
I recommend if it's someone you like (friends, family, coworkers) that you react with humor such as "Guess I just forgot about conceiving, glad I finally got to it!" or "I was just waiting for the perfect man! Glad he finally arrived while my equipment was still working!"
If it's someone you don't like (strangers, rude acquaintances and family) be curt and a bit snippy and say something like, "When I want your opinion I'll ask for it, I really only care about what my husband and I think" or "I'm not sure why you think my gestational timetable is any of your business"
You don't need their approval to be happy. Glad things are working out and congratulations on your baby (and new husband).
2007-01-07 16:18:47 · answer #1 · answered by BabyRN 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Ok, first of all I want to say CONGRATS!!!! Honey, never feel bad about something so precious and dear!!! Who really cares what these ppls opinions are...they most likely don't know what you have had to go through in your life, and from an individual with experience, not particularity with hair, I do know how it feels to have had an issue from childhood that the parents never felt important enough to address...
ok, having said that, I seriously hope everything goes well for you, it sounds like you have found yourself a GREAT guy, so be happy!!! And a baby is a blessing, don't worry that you're 44, this is something so fantastic and fun that you'll not only look like you're in your 20's, you're gonna feel like it!!! I mean it, I have two kids and I just turned 30, but it really does change you, it makes you so much more aware of the world because it's not you that you live for anymore....good luck, and I truly wish you a happy, healthy pregnancy!!!
If you ever want someone to talk baby stuff with, please feel free to email me....once again congrats!!! Babies are precious hun!!! They're like a God-given second chance to give the best of yourself!!!
2007-01-07 16:03:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Maybe I don't get it, but how can your current fetus be the husband of your daughter? Is this a case of a marriage arranged quite early? Or are you saying that your current pregnancy is the result of a sexual union between you and the husband of your daughter? If that's the case, then it seems you have a peck of trouble on your hands. If you choose not to tell, you'll always have the weight hanging over your head that she will somehow find out and ruin your relationship. If you do tell, you might be estranged for the remainder of your life. In the words of one great martial artist: "Best way to not get hit is to not be there." All of the choices we make have consequences; some good, some bad. Dealing with them with dignity is the challenge we all face.
2016-05-23 07:23:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The world always judges and always makes snide remarks. But you shouldn't care. My mother had me at 40 (and that was 23 years ago) and you're reliving her pregnancy. Many mentioned how I might be born with some mental or health defects and she spent most of her time worrying about me. Well, I'm a recent graduate from a great college and graduated at the top of my class. So much for that. Don't let it bother you and just try to raise your child as best as you can. They don't matter anyways. No one will ever love your child more than you, so no one will ever know how right it is to have a child at any age.
2007-01-07 16:06:42 · answer #4 · answered by keonli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's YOUR LIFE Jeez
It's A Blessing That You've Finally Got Some Confidence
Got Married And Now You're Expecting.
Be Proud And Pray For The Best.
Don't Let Noone Get To You.
2007-01-07 16:00:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Most people try to live other peoples lives for them because they did not do such a good job with their own. Remember opinions are like belly buttons, everyone has one, but most of them stink. Seriously! Just live life one day at a time. That is all any one can really handle. Yesterday was history and no longer can be controlled by us. Tomorrow is a dream, and also is out of our control. But today is a gift, that is why they call it the "present." Just take this one day at a time. Do not try to please anyone but yourself. You have already had obsticles in your life most of your contemporaries have not had the courage to deal with as you have. There is no one out there who can give you any advise that will truly make a difference in your life, so why try to analyse what they are saying? Just enjoy this incredible gift and begin to nuture what grows so lovinly inside you. You are truly completing your womanhood and it must be an incredible feeling to have life sping forth from inside your very being. Let it fill you with an exquisite joy that so few of us can truly treasure. It may never happen in your life again. Do not waste the psychic energy worrying about what others have said. Instead go inside and nuture that growing life with everything that has made your life what it is. Assure that growing life that you will be there for it and you will never let it down as you may feel you were let down by those who cared for you. I did not have a father as he died when I was 5. I made it my business to be a father to my 4 kids and I revel in the fact that they believe I was the best father I could be, although I made so many mistakes as we all do. That is all anyone can ask of themselves. Enjoy this baby!!!
2007-01-07 16:29:53 · answer #6 · answered by arnp4u 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Well first of all, congrats on the pregnancy and on the new hubby. I think it's wonderful that you guys want to have a family. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you being pregnant at your age, and it's rediculous that people make comments like that. As long as you are seeking great prenatal care (since women in their 40's are at higher risk for having babies with down-syndrome and other problems) and taking good care of yourself, then go for it! You have to remind them of your "real age" which is younger than 44... since you haven't smoked/drank and are in great overall health. I am very happy for you, sounds like you will make a great mom!
2007-01-07 16:31:39 · answer #7 · answered by Lindsay M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont bother about what people say, just blow them off cause its your life. really.. the only thing that people might be real worried and kinda seem ify about is its dangerous to have a baby over the age of 40, anymore doctors see a lot of pregnancy complications, and even harmful things to the mother or baby. so that might be where people are getting ify bout this all..
but if i was you just say that your happy with having a baby and you wanted to wait till the right time for this to happen, and your glad it happened now, dont stress, and think only the best..
i hope things go well for you.
2007-01-07 16:03:08 · answer #8 · answered by Michila Noell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of all the people out there that have kids easily and don't deserve them. Remind your friends how much love you have to give a child and that you have plenty of years left to raise it! By the time your baby is 20 - you'll only be 64 - most people think that is retirement age and the beginning of life! Perfect for you! Stand proud momma!
2007-01-07 16:01:17 · answer #9 · answered by amy23 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have many friends who are trying to have their first baby at 40+ & they would be very excited to hear your news. You are having a baby & nothing in life is more exciting than that so congratulations & at 44 you'll be a wonderful mother. If as you say you have looked after yourself then the age of your body would probably equal that of a 30yo. Well done!
2007-01-07 16:00:35 · answer #10 · answered by Mishell 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋