I have seen this happen with other people, and I want to know what would happen if this was in your shoes.
Let's say that your significant other cheated on you with another woman for nearly a year, and then dumped her once you caught him. And then you forgave him and took him back. You try to work things out but then you also notice that he's missing the other woman. What would you do?
Personally I would leave the guy (who obviously fits into "loser" category in relationships), but I want to hear from other people who have actually done through this.
2007-01-07 15:49:55 · 12 answers · asked by purringout 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
this is the reason i chose not to take my ex back and to divorce him as soon as i found out he was cheating and the affair had gone on over a year. knew there was always a chance he would leave again if i forgave and let him come back since the relationship had gone on so long. always knew that once an affair starts that they may come home to us, but not be able to leave the other woman so easy. so rather than set myself up for more hurt and pain, even though i still loved him i made the choice to let him go with no options or chance of ever reconciling. i found it alot easier to divorce him, and move on immediately rather than believe he still loved me and wanted me, as if they truly loved u in the first place, there never would have been the other woman in the first place, he never would have betrayed u that first time. it is not so hard to forgive someone what is more difficult is what u can't see, what is in his heart. so who wants to take another chance at it, and just get hurt again, better to move on when it happens, than to set your self up for more heartbreak.
2007-01-07 16:04:47 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not stick around. How can you sit there with that person and even kiss or hug or anything with them knowing their mind is someplace else and wants to be somewhere else besides with you. If you had any respect for yourself you should move on. In my opinion I honestly would've never taken them back after they cheated on me. I just feel like "once a cheater always a cheater" that's just my opinion though. I just don't tolerate any of that. You deserve respect from a man and if sex is all that matters to him obviously he's not the one for you unless that's all you're looking for too. I wish you the best of luck with this and I hope that you will know that you are worth more than that and should find someone that devotes himself to you and only you.
2007-01-07 15:55:40 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well ive never been thru the cheating part, but i do know that my husband dosnt miss his ex wife one bit.. she was a controlling b**tch who had him on a tight leash for 14 years and he was so glad to find me and get rid of her.. on the other hand tho.. i was in a very close relationship with someone for 5 years, no cheating, and totally in love.. about 10 days before our 5 year anniversary he fell sick, and never recouperated and passed away the day before our anniversary.. my husband knows everything that happended and knows how close we were and he knows how much i miss him, and he is there with a shoulder to lean and cry on when i need it.. its been almost 4 years since he has passed but i still miss him just as much as the day he died.. my husband is the most caring and understanding person i know.. this is prob way off track of what you were asking about and im sorry if i threw off the thread of the question..
2007-01-07 15:59:27 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, My story is kinda in that way and then changed. I was the other woman when i started out. He was dating someone else as a long distance relationship, when i showed up. when he confessed to her that he was dating other women "me" . I knew all along he was with her, he was the one who told me. Well she had dumped him and stared dating me, and there are times when hes told me he misses her and once even called but since the beginning hes been honest and for the most part has been, and we are going on 5 years now this march. Id say keep it honest and talk to him when you notice see if he wants to tell you, with time he opened up to me told me how they talked what they did its to the point where we joke about it. But when he want to talk to me he come right to me and tells me everything . Makes me love him more for it .
2007-01-07 16:11:50 · answer #4 · answered by Mel N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if he were cheating on me even once, I would throw him out to the curb, so having done it for a year, he would have to find a place to stay that night. He wouldn't have to worry about missing her, only about missing me.
2007-01-07 15:59:01 · answer #5 · answered by rainthatwalks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would divorce her/him after a 1 year adulterous relationship..
A one time or week-end fling is forgivable but 1 year is not.
2007-01-07 16:10:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make someone love you. I have self-respect and wouldn't stay with someone like that. I'd move on and wish 'em luck.
2007-01-07 15:52:48 · answer #7 · answered by fuzzums 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him go....he was seeing her for a year. He can't turn his feeling off just like that. He'll always have his memories of her.
2007-01-07 15:58:38 · answer #8 · answered by michelle a 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'll just let him go... i don't want to be in a relationship where it's like a tug-of-war....will hurt me a lot but it will hurt me more to see that his heart is somewhere else even if he is with me physically.
2007-01-07 15:55:53 · answer #9 · answered by toffee-ettes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave, Because its a waste if you want a real relationship.
2007-01-07 15:57:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋