shoul i do this or what?

Question

my mom want to adopt my kids and they want her to be there mommy to and me but i want what my kids want i love them i just don't want them to be my sisters and my mom said that when they are older she will let me adopt them back i said hell no and now my kids have been crying for 4 dayz now and they scream they hate me and stuff like that should i let my mom adopt them cause i want what they want but they are kids they don't know what they want yet should i give them to her

Answer 1

Have been thru this before myself in my younger days. My parents wanted to adopt my kids, I said no also. Then I was not sure if I had made the right decision. I found out from a friend that you can have a legal "Temporary Custody Agreement" drawn up by a lawyer. This agreement is for one year and specifies who will take care of all the kids needs. It does not need a judge's signature, just you, your parents and a witness. It can be extended for up to 5 years on a yearly basis. That is in case you decide that you don't want your kids staying with your parents. Make sure that there is a clause for no further attempts to adopt or gain full custody or your parents loose all legal rights to the kids (it will come in handy if there are any disputes). My kids were with my parents for the first year then came home to me. Two of my kids still hold resentment against me for not getting them back sooner. The other two were fine with it all. They all love me as their Dad now. Hope this Helps.
I now have 11 grandkids and don't have to raise any of them - I get to spoil them and send them home.

Answer 2

You should not give your kids to your mom, if you are perfectly capable to raise them, then that is your job not your moms.
I am speaking from experience, I raised 4 children of my own 3 girls and 1 boy, now I have 9 grandchildren. My youngest daughter had her first baby at 16 years old and was not willing to give up her party life to take care of her baby, I have been raising this baby since the day she was born, my daughter is very selfish and immature, she is also bipolar, I feel that she will never be able to care or support a child or herself. She moved to another state to live with my mother, got herself arrested for robbery and is on probation, she keeps saying that she has changed and all that bull, but she keeps on stealing my moms credit cards a buying expensive items for her friends,not just a little bit but alot, the first time was 24,000. and this last time this past september 26,000. she has not seen her daughter since October 2004 she calls but really has nothing to say, but she can't hold a job and junk. so in my situation is a little different then yours..But if you love your children, can support them, and you are a good mother, why give them up??
If your kids are young they do not have the capability to make that decision. and your mom may not let you adopt them back later.
also your kids will never be considered your siblings....
Always ask God for guidance in this situation, he only gives you what you can handle....Good luck to you, and please think and pray real hard before you choose to give your kids to your mom.

Answer 3

It sounds like your Mom may be telling the kids what to say to you to upset you. If you can take care of and provide for your kids then do so. If you are unable to provide love & support then it may be better to let them be adopted. The kids are probably too young to know what grandma is asking of you. Please do not be fooled into believing that your mom will let you adopt them back. I have seen many grandparents not hold up their end of the deal. If you do let your mom adopt them then please first seek legal advice. Good Luck!

Answer 4

How old are your children? Why on earth are they in the middle of this? Why does your mom want to adopt them? You are their mother. You and your mom need to see a counselor. Then bring your children into counseling. You are all going to be confused if you change roles. Especially if you plan to once again change back to you being the mom. You know, I don't know what is going on and I surely don't need to know but God gave you those children. I think He wants you to take care of them. Kids need a mom and a grandma. Good luck.

Answer 5

I am a grandmother raising one of my 4 grand kids who is disabled and my daughter is on drugs, 2 of her children are with their other grandmother and 1 is with her dad. If you are on drugs and it sounds like maybe you are, or else you are just not taking care of your children in a loving, safe, nurturing way, then give them to her before they get put in foster care and you never see them again.

It sounds like you also need to go to parenting class's and learn how to be a good parent. And then don't have any more children.

I am not being sarcastic I am very serious. You are their Mother you need to act like it. There is a reason they want to go live with her. What is it? When you figure that out you'll know what you need to do as not to lose your kids. The way you treat them when they are young is going to determine how they treat you when you are old..Think about it.

Answer 6

Well, I don't know the situation as to why she want to adopt them, or why they want her to. But, I think as their mother you should do whatever will be in the best interest of your children, whether it is keeping them, or letting her adopt them.

Answer 7

Give them to her.

Answer 8

Yes, you should.