I really want a baby shower, but i'm giving my baby up for adoption. I just don't know if i should have one or not. i need some advice.
2007-01-07 15:13:41 · 19 answers · asked by Kayla I 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
wow i guess i shouldn't, i didn't know those things were so important. i thought if i had one that i would send all the gifts with the baby when he left. help the parents out, ya know?
2007-01-07 15:38:03 · update #1
I think it would be terribly hard on you to see all the newborn clothes, sockies, caps, and accesories....and then know that you would not get the chance to use these items on your child. You will be creating a memory that will only break your heart in the future....if you do give the baby up. It would also be hard for other people....who care about you....to know that they are buying items for a baby you aren't keeping. These people want you to be happy and probably totally support your decision. However, they wouldn't want to bring you sadness....and they would probably be at a loss as to what to purchase for this baby.
Make sure this is what you want to do, in your heart. I do not know anything about you, your station in life, or your ability to care for a newborn. But....I do know that having a child is one of the most miraculous things that can happen in someone's life. Wanting to share that joy with a couple that cannot have a child of their own is amazing....but it will be very hard. You cannot possibly prepare for the moment of seeing your child for the first time....it is undescribable. Likewise, I can't imagine what it will be like for you to let that child go. I am tearing up just thinking about what that may be like for you. PLEASE make sure you want to do this.....and have support and love around you when this difficult time comes.
My heart is with you.....I wish you the very best!
2007-01-07 18:21:52 · answer #1 · answered by diapercakesbybecca 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People have baby showers to celebrate their baby and you get "Showered" with gifts for the baby. If you are not going to keep the baby, it would be the adoptive parents that would have a shower or celebration. If it is an open adoption and you know the adoptive parents, you could always ask if you could be a part of the shower to help them celebrate their baby.
2007-01-07 15:24:47 · answer #2 · answered by imalwysrite 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think you should have a baby shower because you will not be needing any of the gifts, but you could have a themed party like getting sexy back. Or you could still have a shower and send the gifts with the baby. You're call, but have some kind of fun. Good luck!
2007-01-07 15:30:35 · answer #3 · answered by aimeeme_g 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-03 17:55:02 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO you shouldn't
Why would you?
The baby shower is to receive gifts to help you out with the baby.
Don't get me wrong i also think its about celebrating a baby.
I also think it would be pain full to receive gifts for something your not going to be able to have.
If you want to celebrate being pregnant, then why don't you have a little get together with your friends/relatives......just don't call it a baby shower.
Wait until your ready to have a child......Then have the baby shower. I don't know anything about your personal situation, But i think when you are ready to have a child, and you do have a baby shower, you wouldn't want to have the memories of this one. I think it would be pain full.
2007-01-07 15:28:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF you are giving up the baby for adoption i would say no unless u know the parents that will be adopting the baby then u might have one and give all the baby gifts to the other parents . other than that i say No .
2007-01-07 15:23:20 · answer #6 · answered by a_lara0304 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why in the world would you have a baby shower? Don't you understand that a baby shower is a time when people "shower" the mother with gifts for the baby...things she will need to raise that baby. There is absolutely no reason for you to have a shower if you're giving the baby up for adoption...what are people supposed to do there, or bring to you?
2007-01-07 15:22:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
why would you need a baby shower, a shower is to get things for the baby from relatives and friends, if you know the mother who is adopting your baby maybe you should throw one for her and get her friends and family there so that she has help but you should not have one if your not keeping the babe
2007-01-07 15:19:09 · answer #8 · answered by <3 mykiddos,mylife <3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u dont get a baby shower. the couple that is adopting your baby get to have it.
sorry, but thats what happends when u dont keep the baby
and if u arent keeping the baby for good reasons-your young/cant afford it/stuff like that, than i applaude you. youre doing the right thing by letting your child have a better life.
2007-01-07 15:17:38 · answer #9 · answered by hilwiesemann 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you're not keeping your baby I highly recommend not having a baby shower. By the sounds of it, you are a little too attached already!
It will just be harder for you to part when the time comes!
2007-01-07 15:20:39 · answer #10 · answered by missjewl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋