he hardly sleeps wqith me he rather stay up on computer and when i wake in the middle of the nighthe cloes all windows. i found so many movies in his desk top . it makes me sick. he says not to make a big deal ,, but it hurts.
2007-01-07 15:11:17 · 27 answers · asked by jennifer m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Can u say addiction? If this is a fairly new habit than it should be easy to nip...but DON"T let any of these other foolio's tell you it's OK for him to be behaving this way...1. he's not being honest, and there are no excuses for this...2. as exciting as porn may be, it should never take the place of your partner, NEVER! I noticed that some of the readers here seem to think that because he's embarrassed and your pressuring him that it excuses his behavior...IT DOES NOT!!! Not in any way shape or form! You are in NO way responsible for this!!! Sexual addiction is real and it's as easy to get hooked on as a drug. (If he was addicted to Meth, and he was to lie about it...would it be your fault? Don't let the words from those readers in....they are either very ignorant or just plain stupid. Good luck! PS: He may not be out at the bar cheating, but isn't he cheating the relationship by ignoring it?
2007-01-07 15:43:28 · answer #1 · answered by knrsits 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It either means that your frigid and you give him that age old line, "Not tonight,I've got a headache" or maybe its just that you are not seducing him enough, and on a regular basis. If he's watching porn every night, evidently he's not being satisfied and has to get off some other way. Try a nice romantic meal, followed by an adult orientated movie and a little caressing, this may lead both of you to bed for a little fun. Otherwise turn the tables on him, when he's doing something else click on a site and start viewing males who are better looking than him, and also much more endowed. Then maybe he'll get the picture.
2007-01-07 15:55:33 · answer #2 · answered by olegrayman1@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yeah...definitely addicted to porn. He is probably into alot more than you know about. I really don't know what to say about this one. Does he still have sex with you? This would be a big deal to me as well. I would really have him seek some sort of counseling. Does he have a webcam? Some guys like go all out and show there stuff online. It's sick. Not even right. I don't know what I would do. Good luck on this.
2007-01-07 15:18:05 · answer #3 · answered by jessteal2001 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He's probably addicted to it. You would do good to let him know how it makes you feel and hopefully he will stop doing it or seek help.
Once you break the porn obsession or addiction or whatever it is, it will be time to perhaps get counseling or otherwise re-evaluate your relationship to determine what prompted him to get so heavily into porn in the first place. Be aware that you may not like what you learn when you start asking questions, though.
2007-01-07 15:28:48 · answer #4 · answered by Leroy 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Men are visual beings. Would you rather he go to a strip club and blow $100 a night? So what, he looks at porn. Drop 20 pounds, wear something besides sweat pants, stop watching TV in bed.
You can do some things to help the situation too. I would say looking at porn is similar getting yourself off. NO ONE will admit doing it but everyone does. And if you don't, you are the weirdo.
2007-01-07 16:15:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Some of the respondents on here are rude and crude when they say what they say. Yes, your husband is addicted to porn. That seems obvious, but the question should be WHY?
I'm not going to be rude and crude, but as bad as this may sound you need to take some of that blame. He is seeking on the net what he cannot get at home. Do you play hard to get? Are you too busy sexually for him? Have you let your looks go? Are you unkept, overweight, do you reject him often? If the answer to any of these is yes, then you need to compete for his attention. If he is happy with you sexually, then he has no reason to be on the Internet. But, if he is missing what he sees on line, then you need to take some of that blame.
I hope you don't think I'm being too hard on you, I'm just giving you a piece of the real world according to men.
2007-01-07 16:09:59 · answer #6 · answered by txguy8800 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Rainfog has it right.... as an addict, he is already in a relationship, it just isn't with you... and it won't ever be...not today, not tomorrow, not ever, and not with anyone else for very long..... Porn addiction is never curable, and barely treatable, not ever. It is easier to get off of alcohol, or gambling, or heroin. Porn addicts don't make much in the ways of a companion (as you already know) but---ask any therapist... So, hon, he ain't your man...... he's already taken.
2007-01-07 15:36:17 · answer #7 · answered by April 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
females mm nicely i'd classification my self as being one and hay i dont have a difficulty declaring i watch porn and prefer it all the way down to the bone. there are various women obtainable that watch dont you difficulty about that and that i wager there close friends now to. We have a tendency now to not be so open about it as maximum undeniable boring human beings imagine that it incorrect an same those who bypass on and on about gays,bisexual and lesbians etc what do u imagine ?????????
2016-10-17 00:13:24 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many men watch porn, especially now in the internet era. I don't think it generally to be a problem; however, if he hardly sleeps with you, that's not good.
Try to approach it that way, that it hurts that he rather watch that stuff than be with you. Ask him what you could do to spice up your sex life?
2007-01-07 15:19:59 · answer #9 · answered by avechm 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Autumns Destany and Pablo are idiots.
It means that he has unfulfilled sexual desires - maybe a fetish that he is ashamed of.
What is the common theme of the porns?
Are there homosexual acts among men? He could secretly have desires or curiosities about what another guy feels like to touch.
Are they all "buttfu##ing movies? Well, do you ever have anal sex with ime?
Do they have an interracial theme? Maybe he secretly admires women of another color, and wants to try that...
Are there alot of movies with fat women / young women / whatever type of woman? Maybe he has a fetish for that type... What type are you? Have you gained alot of weight? Are you as attractive as you once were to him? DO YOU STILL HAVE SEX WITH HIM AS OFTEN AS HE LIKES?
And if not - why not? Did HE gain alot of weight, and then can't understand why you aren't interested in him?
Do the movies portray a particular fetish? Bondage / Restraints / Food / Feet / large or small breasts / butts / "*** showers"? Would you let him tie you up / play with food during sex / pay extra attention to your breasts or butt / let him *** all over you?
Be intelligent about this - there is alot that can be learned from the porn a man watches.
Why don't you stay up and watch it with him??? Surprise the crap out of him, and maybe you'll just find out what a turnon porn is. My woman is the one who buys all of our porn. We watch it together. She particularly enjoys girl/girl action, because she "knows how good it feels to be licked" - and there is ALOT of licking in girl/girl porn. It's a turnon to her - and you may find his porn to be a turnon to you - or that it will give you new ideas to spice up your love life..
Stop being such a prude, and join in on him in his fantasy life - and save your marriage - and - better yet - make it better than anything he could possibly find outside your home!
You start joining him, and encouraging him in his fantasies, and you'll be amazed at how he suddenly will start caring for and about you and your love for one another.
Why are so many women ignorant to what their men want?
Why are so many men ignorant of what their women want??
COMMUNICATE - COMMUNICATE - COMMUNICATE!!!!!
2007-01-07 20:52:27 · answer #10 · answered by Michael, Count de Berçon 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋