My "sort" of friend is getting married in march and i would not like to attend how can i say NO sorry? The reason i don't want to go is she is not a friend at all she asked me to be a brides maid then didn't contact me for months about it then told me she has her brides maids. I don't here from her for months at a time and i don't have her number as her Boy friend doesn't like me. what can i say and to and to make it worse she has asked for money only for a wedding gift (i know its for drugs and alcohol) We have known each other about 7 years but i feel i don't know her at all.
2007-01-07 15:08:05 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Im a wimp and cant really say no to anyone
2007-01-07 15:12:57 · update #1
Just politely tell her you have other plans. Get her a few towels. If she complains about the towels, then tell her you're offended and to flubber off.
2007-01-07 15:10:12 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer F 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If this person is not truly a friend and has let you down many times then just don't go. If she is not respectful enough to call you and removed you as a brides maid then you should feel no loyalty to show up at the wedding.
Just because you have known this person for 7 years does not make it a good friendship. Like a egg salad sandwich at the back of the fridge, somethings don't get better with age.
The best answer is to tell her how you feel. If you don't think you can do that, then don't go to the wedding and avoid her calls.
2007-01-15 05:39:41 · answer #2 · answered by Mike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe when you get the invitation you could send an inability to attend card, but I know what you mean by not being able to say no to someone as I'm a big wimp and hate hurting peoples feelings, but if you really don't want to go and don't mind not having her as a friend then just don't accept the invitation, you had other plans, turn on your answering machine so you can screen the calls and lay low until after the wedding.
2007-01-07 15:28:54 · answer #3 · answered by bec 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just send a RSVP saying no you cannot attend.
you don't have to explain yourself to the person. be good to yourself and don't go. certainly don't give a present, ie money as that isn't what the day or the ceremony is about.
saying 'no' is one of the hardest things for some of us but be strong and do it by mail. if she phones (though sounds unlikely) tell her you already have a commitment as with the long breaks in communication you had no idea when it was on blah blah if you need to make something up but personally I would just say you are not into going ...stretch the truth tell her you don't like weddings ... some bs - she is an acquaintance not a friend in my view.
2007-01-13 14:04:32 · answer #4 · answered by pixie_proof 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's sounds like she's not a real friend anyway, so I would just send a polite note saying "I'm sorry but due to other obligations, I will not be able to attend." That should cover it..
A wedding gift is a choice the giver decides.. So, if you want to send something other than money (or nothing at all) that's your choice.
2007-01-07 15:16:10 · answer #5 · answered by LittleBitOfSugar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't say no, make yourself unavailable or become a better liar. Tell her you have to wax your dog, or you have to attend your best friend's funeral . . . again. Or just go to the damned wedding, don't bring a gift, eat and drink and pick up on the maid of honor, then puke all over the cake. I'll bet NO ONE will ask you to another wedding, eh?
2007-01-15 13:35:32 · answer #6 · answered by csunharleyrider@yahoo.com 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you don't like this sort of friend anyways - so you shouldn't care whether or not she is offended or not. Just say that you can't attend, or don't say anything at all. She should have sent out the reservation requests that you can either not send back or decline it. If she asks, just say that something else came up and you had to change your plans.
2007-01-07 15:12:41 · answer #7 · answered by jenniferrnew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the standard way out would be to make up an excuse. Find out the exact date of the wedding, and say you'll be gone that whole week on a business trip, or vacation, or retreat to a Buddhist temple.
2007-01-07 15:10:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either tell her you can't go and put up with being talked into going or say you are going and make an excuse last minute. She sounds really rude. Often brides are SO into themselves, she probably won't notice if you aren't there. Tell her, "I sent a cheque, was it lost in the mail?"
2007-01-07 15:43:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just get a card & tell her you can't go & say you are going away etc
or just tell her the truth & say there is no point because your future man doesn't like you & that will cause problems so we may as well end our friendship now & send her well wishes etc
2007-01-12 15:40:44 · answer #10 · answered by ausblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say you have to go to your cousin "_____'s" funeral! And send her the present.
But if you feel guilty about it, just go to the wedding and ask her if it is not to late to back out from being the brides maid!!
2007-01-15 14:22:01 · answer #11 · answered by MKroX2202 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋