A few weeks ago my neice and one of her friends came over to my house to go swimming. I can see the pool area from my kitchen. I had just got back from picking up a pizza, and as I came into the kitcken I could see my neice and her friend sitting topless kissing on the edge of the pool. They didn't know I saw them, so I made some noise in the house and hollered out the pizza was here.I didn't say anything. I was wondering if I should ask her about it. She is 17 and a straight A student and really doesn't give her mom, my sister any problems.
2007-01-07 14:57:26 · 35 answers · asked by barefootinkelly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Either talk to her or talk to her mom. She is a child.
2007-01-10 15:58:52 · answer #1 · answered by Carl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i imagine that you may help her no be counted what her mom says. She can be a lesbian, yet that does no longer advise that the devil is after her. She loves a lady and by no ability a guy, so what??? supply this youthful woman help, she needs it. Her isn't giving it to her and that i'm particular that she is amazingly lost. She needs someone that she will be able to open as a lot as. And if that someone is you, then take the duty. let her mom comprehend besides. try reasoning consisting of her mom on behalf of her. you'd be needing to inform her mom, if she is lesbian/gay or instantly, she continues to be her daughter and which will by no ability change. Remind her mom she her daughter continues to be an identical. She has no longer replaced. She continues to be an identical little woman that she once loved and cared for. She continues to be a human being that merits love and recognize no be counted what. good success, you're a good human being.
2016-12-28 09:01:00 · answer #2 · answered by mclevy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frankly it is nun-ya. Unless you are a devout Christian, Jew or Muslim and this is absolutely against your religious beliefs then stay out of it. Many girls of that age are what is politely called Bi Curious. If she was 12 or so then it might be someones business other than hers but at 17 she is so close to over the line into adulthood it is way past time to be able to say anything. You know your sister and from what you wrote she would not handle it well. so do not go there!
2007-01-07 15:04:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She didn't tell you and you saw something you probably should not have seen so as tempting as it is, it's not your place to say anything. Especially if she is happy and in control of her life.
She may have just been doing it for fun or they may have known you were watching really and were doing it as a practical joke.
Either way, I'd steer clear completely of this situation. These things don't stay hidden forever, eventually you'll find out what's going on without having to interfere.
You know what happened to the messenger!?
2007-01-08 03:33:19 · answer #4 · answered by How many questions can there be? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, she's 17 , a straight A student and a good kid,but just because she's experimenting with her sexuality it makes you wonder what? will you love her less if she is lesbian? will you forbid her to come to your house if she is lesbian? will you make it a point not to go to her house or any family get togethers if she is a lesbian?
it sounds to me like she's a pretty down-to-earth kid and thats not going to change. unless this is a religious problem for you than i would just pretend it never happened and enjoy your neice for who you "know" that she is.
2007-01-07 15:10:41 · answer #5 · answered by angel1 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well being a lesbian don't sound like that is the problem, sounds like shes a little fast. Don't say anything. She is going to be who she is going to be. If shes a good kid than being gay is not going to stop that. At least you know she wont get pregnant, joking. If it is bothering you talk to her let her know that you seen them, but don't judge her. Let her be who she is and she will let everyone know when she is ready. She may be experimenting too, so do be upset let her figure out who she is. She will.
2007-01-07 15:11:17 · answer #6 · answered by betterwithage 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Let it be. If she wants people to know, she'll kiss her friend topless in the pool so you can see. Oh wait...
No, I'd just let it go. She'll probably come out sometime, but when she's ready.
2007-01-07 15:00:31 · answer #7 · answered by Mickey Mouse Spears 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh no! how embarassing. if you are going to ask her bout it, dont be criticising. just because shes 17 and a straight A student doesnt mean she can't be gay. if thats the way she flows, then let her be. the teenage years are the years of experiments. but the question is are you against it?
2007-01-07 15:01:29 · answer #8 · answered by blob888 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's her choice. Stay out of it. Chances are she is experimenting and will either go back to being straight or well you got a lezzie for a neice.
2007-01-07 15:01:21 · answer #9 · answered by pro1fit1 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
YES, I would confront her about it!
And tell her she needs to tell her mother!
Can you imagine how devistated her mom will be when she finds out, but it's better coming from her own daughter than some
neighbour or an aquaintance.
You know how gossip spreads when 'someone' else finds out the truth, so tell your neice that you know, and convince her to tell her mom.
If she refuses to tell her mom, then let her know you will tell her.
After all, her mom is your sister and you have 'every' right to
inform her of what you saw.
2007-01-07 15:18:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Ask, but be supportive...it is her life. If she is confused about her sexuality, being judgmental isn't going to help matters. Let her be the one to go to her parents with this...it'll be hard enough when it comes out in the open as it is. Let her figure things out on her own.
2007-01-07 15:05:07 · answer #11 · answered by momofatsc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋