my dating life sucks,thanx to the "monster" ,i have lost a few friends to aids,i have a brother dying of aids currently,i am so afraid of contracting hiv so to avoid it i have devoted my life to my kids and job,i have no sexual life and seriously?i'm kinda bored and lonely.what should i do,and please dont say the obvious(psych) there are other ways of dealing with this i'm sure.
2007-01-07 14:53:09 · 5 answers · asked by knowingisbeautiful 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
For 8 years, I have volunteered with a group called Camp Sunrise. it's a summer camp for kids impacted by HIV and AIDS. About half of the kids are HIV positive. The other half of the kids are living in a household with someone who is HIV positive.
The vast majority of these kids have lost a parent or sibling within the last five years.
I have learned two things from working with these kids.
1) You can die from AIDS, but it is not the boogey-man that it is made out to be. It's a horrible disease that, if properly treated and adapted to, can be lived with.
2) No matter how bad life seems to get - even if I one day (Goddess forbid) become HIV positive - I will not have a live as bad as most of these children.
My advice to you is twofold:
1) Research as much as you can about the disease. Knowledge is power. Protect yourself. Protect your partner. Follow safer-sex guidelines. And teach others (including your children) how to follow safer-sex guidelines.
2) Realize that, even should you (goddess forbid) one day become HIV positive, it is not the end of the world. That you will have those around you to protect and love you.
Check out Camp Sunrise's website:
www.sunrisekids.org
It's a great program. These kids could teach you a lot.
Quill.
2007-01-07 15:22:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
HIV/AIDS affects about 1-2% of the population. There are tests for it. You can have safer sex, or you can engage in sexual activities that don't expose you to HIV at all, like touching and caressing. You know you can get therapy for this, and you make the choice not to. That suggests that maybe having this obsession is doing something positive for you. Maybe the real messages are that you haven't dealt with your grief over your brother and your friends, or that you haven't dealt with the loss of the relationship(s) that gave you your kids. So, your meta-message in all this is to deal with the other stuff, and then you'll be able to find a relationship where you feel safe and trusting enough to rely on the other person not cheating on you and getting an AIDS test.
2007-01-08 03:43:50 · answer #2 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your fears are real, I've lost several friends and a brother to AIDS. You really are doing the right thing devoting your life to your kids and your job. In time, maybe you'll meet someone. You don't need a psychologist, your on the right track.Maybe you should learn to play golf, that's how I met my husband. Men who play golf usually have character.Don't knock it, golf is very relaxing, with just the sounds of nature.
2007-01-07 23:16:41 · answer #3 · answered by Cheryl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have the disease, right?
Stop living like you have the disease. Choose to have a great life, and have safe sex.
2007-01-08 01:14:25 · answer #4 · answered by justbeingher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a trusted friend about your fears, or try a counselor. Your fears are justified though, you have to be very careful out there anymore.
2007-01-07 22:59:05 · answer #5 · answered by Just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋