house payed for and nice savings,but dont want to lose it all. We love and live together, but her health is failing.
2007-01-07 14:44:41 · 19 answers · asked by sammy 1 in Health ➔ General Health Care ➔ Other - General Health Care
She will still get half of all that you own jointly, and if you have a retirement savings, she is entitled to half of that too. Either way, you will pay for or contribute to her nursing costs. You are selfish for thinking that way.
2007-01-07 14:48:11 · answer #1 · answered by dragonkisses 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well-I hope somehow that the Angel of Justice lead your wife to know of your question and Your Intentions so she can take legal action to protect herself. I'm sure you know that the wife is also on the deed of the house and that she is also entitld by law to her share of the savings and if you divorce and wish to keep the house then you must pay her 1/2the value and if it is so ordered by the court it may,unless you can pay cash(from the savings but only from YOUR 1/2 of it)be necessary the house be sold and then the profit is split between you and your wife. It may be wiser of you and more financially BEneficial to YOU to check into Extended Care---Nursing Home,Assissted Living,In-home Nursing Care etc.----- Health Insurance-check your policy for may some already and may need to get secondary or extend present to get more benefits. If she is or when she reaches 65 then she will also get Medicare to help with these expenses BUT INsurance will still be needed.If she has serious health conditions that may prevent getting additional insurance then check into those thaat do not require Health Exam like Globe or go through AARP-the 55 and older Magazine-which helps inform Insurance,Investments -all the issues that affect 55 and older and Nursing Care. You state "you love and live together..." are you perhaps forgetting about the love and since when does love come AFTER "Money"? Remeber too that there is Life after Death and I don't think you're getting points with God and its He who determines where you'll be for eternity by what you do here and dumping a wife because of failing health gets you a HOT Place down Yonder in your Permanent Retirement. I mean really where is your Heart.
2007-01-07 15:02:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her and don't really want a divorce, just deed your property to the kids or someone you trust completely. Also, the kid's name needs to be on bank accounts. Lots of people do this to avoid nursing homes from getting all their property in old age. I think there's a time that you have to do it before any skilled nursing care is needed. I heard 3 years, although I'm not positive about this. It is a shame that in such a rich country people have to resort to this. The cost of healthcare is ridiculous.
2007-01-07 14:55:52 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a friend of mine's husband had crohns disease. They got a divorce for the same reason.They decided when he first got sick.In their divorce it states the bills in his name will belong to him. His medical bills were in the millions. In the divorce he gave her the house the car and everything else. The even had to declare custody of their kid. When he started to get better and no longer racking up the hospital bills he filed bankrupsy and it went all on him and not on her. I would check with social security to see what they pay. this might affect it. and make sure any insurance policy's are in your name in just in case. They decided to do this together. They still lived together like husband and wife. I would never do it behind her back that is just not right.
2007-01-07 14:55:16 · answer #4 · answered by ht98 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look into long term care insurance if at all possible, and pray the Democrats get us decent universal health care that make things like this unnecessary.
Speak to a legal aid lawyer before you act to see what laws apply in your state. There might be other solutions like deeding her share of the house to you or setting up a living trust.
2007-01-07 14:48:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on what state you live in, you may still have to pay for it. But most states won't make you lose everything you have.
Talk to a lawyer about your options on taking care of her properly.
Why would you want to do that to your wife? Would you expect her to take care of you or dump you off at a nursing home and take everything you both worked for all your lives?
2007-01-07 14:48:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a nurse. You could do this, but one question can you live with yourself after wards? Stick by her and don't put her through this, the timing is off. Support her and seek other options. I' m a Christian and I will be praying for you and your family. Look at this movie and may it give you strength during this time in your life. www.mayyoubeblessedmovie.com
2007-01-07 14:49:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably. But why would you? You're a jerk! You should take responibilty for everything that comes with your wife if you love her. If I was your wife and you divorced me not avoid paying for nursing home bills. I would be paying for funeral bills real soon afterwards.
2007-01-07 14:48:28 · answer #8 · answered by honey bunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-18 00:24:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pitiful that for some this is an option even though the two of you love each other. Please talk with an attorney. It is awful in this country for something like this to be happening, but it happens all the time. Best of luck to you and your wife.
2007-01-07 14:53:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋