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I have been with my bf for a year and half but no matter what i do i cant seem to shake my feelings for my ex.f who i feel like i am still in love with?I have tried very hard and i care for my bf very much but do not feel what i think i should for him but i dont want to hurt him.I agreed to marry him because it seemed the natural progression of things in the relationship and i thought my feelings would work themselves out but that has not happened and i feel really depressed i just dont love him.I mean my bf is the perfect guy that my parents always wanted for me he went to Harvard and is a lawyer.I could not seem to call of the wedding so i moved out when he was not home and left a note.

2007-01-07 14:27:00 · 22 answers · asked by amalia R 1 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

I dont know what to say to him its just when i tried he did not listen .

2007-01-07 14:31:07 · update #1

Reason for my break up with my ex. bf was my parents who thought i could do better and threatened to stop paying my college tuition.

2007-01-07 14:42:17 · update #2

22 answers

dont call just get the hell out. you deserve it

2007-01-07 14:29:58 · answer #1 · answered by Mariah 1 · 1 0

passion and true love are different you need to ask your self what do you want out of the rest of you life. I really do not think fire works last forever but true love for one another dose. What happened with the ex? if he was unfaithful or did not put you first you are in a whole different question. Is this relationship to good to be true and no challenge? Us girls do like a challenge yet not one that lasts a lifetime. Parents threatened you there has got to be a reason even if it was not a good one for you, you need to think about that would you disown your parents for this one man, don't do it they do love you and that would break them, be brave it seems like you went from one extreme to another?

Good luck
One educated gentleman for the rest of us
would you be upset if he moved on and found someone else?

2007-01-07 14:38:27 · answer #2 · answered by Katie 3 · 0 0

You need to tell him exactly what you wrote here. Explain you think he is a wonderful guy but that it's not fair to him to be with someone who doesn't feel the same way about him. Tell him you still have feelings for your ex bf that you cannot deny, and it tears you up to know that your current bf is a good guy but you can't love him the way he should be loved. Tell him you are sorry for any hurt you've caused him. He'll probably be mad, hurt, angry, upset. Let him say what he needs to say. But just be truthful in what you say to him. I wish you the very best of luck.

2007-01-07 14:35:41 · answer #3 · answered by jerkygirl 3 · 0 0

That wasnt very nice to do. You need to tell him straight up how you feel. You will just end up hurting him over and over. If your ex has moved on and there isnt any hope then you need to let those feelings go. Dont get back with your fiance if you dont love him. I am sure you will find someone else eventually. Give your self some time.

2007-01-07 14:32:40 · answer #4 · answered by chemky1 3 · 1 0

Do not call him, but do write to him and tell him the reason or reasons why- very detailed and logically meaningful.For by experience a girl did me that way and to this day, I have no idea what happened and for years I was depressed. The only thing she ever did was about 5 yrs later she called me when I was on my death bed and thanked me. I still till this day do not no why for that either. I was 22 when she left me, I'm now 47

2007-01-07 14:44:58 · answer #5 · answered by pa 2 · 0 1

You'll hurt way fewer people if you tell the truth. God is Truth.

I would not be able to live with myself if I occupied the space that someone who REALLY loved my wife could occupy- if that was the case.

I have asked my wife if I am keeping her from being happy, because I would never want to do that.

I would never want her to cling onto me for the sake of marriage, even if there were no love shared there.

Love conquers ALL!

Jesus is Love.

2007-01-07 14:51:10 · answer #6 · answered by Lion J 3 · 0 0

Don't get married under these circumstances. That won't help anything. Get a grip on yourself and your life. No one can force you to do anything against your will. You shouldn't need anyone else to "complete you". You need to be without a boyfriend for awhile so that you can figure out who YOU are. How can you commit to a marriage when you're this screwed up? That will only make your life more of a living hell once he realizes that you're not committed to him. Time to get real, lady.

2007-01-07 14:30:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

in consumer-friendly words ingredient i'll assert is that i might want to be more effective straightforward with my father and mom. i might want to assert"i'm no longer satisfied right here and also you're literally not assisting my difficulty. thanks for putting a good head on my shoulders and that i'll confer with you anytime I see you". walk out the door the end of the driveway(or in case you extremely don't have a rigidity tell him to park a block over so as that they don't see the colour or registration code). some thing that i have realized about my father and mom is they in consumer-friendly words pick the suitable for me, yet they raised me to make those judgements. So once i become eighteen I grew to grow to be an human being to them. Your father and mom may basically be psycho's who are not in fantastic condition to advance you anymore. both way I desire you success in life. would you be triumphant in all you do.

2016-12-28 08:55:47 · answer #8 · answered by banegas 4 · 0 0

Be honest and tell him how you feel. I know it takes a lot of courage but imagine if you let this be and then both of you would be unhappy. Good thing that you are not married yet, he will find someone else that will love him, pray for him, he's going to be heartbroken. God bless!

2007-01-07 14:36:25 · answer #9 · answered by Miss k 3 · 0 0

Not unusual to feel ambivalent and torn between two lovers and that is what you have two lovers. The problem is not easy to resolve because you care for and want them both. Unless you're gonna have them both in your harem to gang bang you're gonna have to make a mature decision, pick one and dedicate yourself to making the relationship work. Otherwise one or both of them will oepn their eyes to see that they really don't have a loving relationship just a confused hoochie who sows her oats and feel guilty about it. So stop beating yourself up, decide if you want one of them or both of them then try something new in your relationship; be open and honest with them and let them decided for themselves...

2007-01-07 14:34:18 · answer #10 · answered by ralegas 2 · 0 0

Honey, You need to go rent the movie the notebook !
You need to be true to yourself.
Your parents where wrong to treat you this way.
Please get that movie & wath it.................you will make the correct choice after you do.
Then when you break it off w/bf & are back w/true love send your parent a copy of the movie.

2007-01-07 14:58:11 · answer #11 · answered by LCee 5 · 0 0

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