When I had my first baby, I fould out my pelvis is screwed up and I have to have c-sections. It was suggested that I not have another baby. Five years later we decided that we just had to take the risk. We had a healthy baby after a full pregnancy of bedrest, but this time my bladder needed repair. The first c-section screwed it all up. The bladder was repaired, but I was told that if I want another one, I have to keep in mind that my bladder could rupture, it could be nicked during the delivery, or it could stretch too much and bleed too much during the pregnancy. I have no idea why, but all I can think about is having another baby! My second baby is only a year old and every month I hope that my period doesn't come! My husband thinks two is just fine. I feel a little empty inside for some reason. I hate to think about what I would have to go through if I was pregnant, but something inside tells me that it does not matter. I have a really huge feeling that I HAVE TO have have a baby??
2007-01-07 14:22:26 · 15 answers · asked by jess l 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I'm in kind of the same situation. My uterus is deformed (bicornuate) and I'm not suppsoed to have anymore kids. At this point I'm ok with it, however I did just have a baby 3 months ago. I know that someday I'll want another baby, but for me life is more important. If I were to risk it I could lose another baby, or my life or both and I just don't want to risk that and leave my living children without a mother.
Ultimately you just have to suck it up, do you want another baby or do you want to be around to raise the ones you have. I think that we'll either adopt or foster when our own children are a bit older. Maybe that's an option for you too.
It's hard not to hope though. My dh will be getting a vasectomy so that there will not be any chance of an oops.
After my daughter was born I had a bad complication and was advised not to have anymore children. I got pregnant accidentally when she was 9 months old and had the same complication, my OB said that if I were to have another I'd either have a hysterectomy or bleed out and die. Before I got pg this last time I really felt that everything would be ok, that the complication wouldn't happen again. And then I got pg and I was totally freaked, in the beginning I told myself not to think about it and taht it was a long ways away. That worked until my induction time came and I freaked again and for good reason because it did happen again.
If the doctors say no more you should really take their advise, as hard as it is to swallow. It's the best thing you can do for yourself and you family. I don't think that wanting another baby will ever go away, but hopefully it'll fade some.
2007-01-07 17:22:12 · answer #1 · answered by Wanting a Ferret 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That feeling is just your body doing what it was programmed to do-that's one reason some women end up with 11 kids. What you are feeling is real and it is powerful but I suggest you wait a little while before you decide anything.
This urge is often strongest in reproducing women, but if you can hold off you'll find that as time goes on, it subsides-never completely, but it goes from a scream to an occasional whisper.
According to my mother, it will get stronger again when your children become young adults-she was considering having more children until she found out that my baby sister was pregnant and she shifted into grandmother mode.
It is a real risk, and keeping you healthy so you can be there for the 2 you have is #1 : )
2007-01-07 14:55:16 · answer #2 · answered by samiam 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think its just natural for you to feel this way. Shortly after I had my third son I had surgery on my cervix and the doctors told me I would never be able to have another baby. My husband and I decided before this surgery that we were done at 3 anyway so you would have thought it wouldn't be a big deal. Six months later it consumed me that I would never have another baby. After almost 4 years I actually by the grace of god did get pregnant again and am expecting a little girl in May!! I think you should give it some time in a couple of years if you still feel this way then get a different doctors opinion, after all doctors are not god they are human and humans aren't always right are they??
2007-01-07 14:34:17 · answer #3 · answered by got all I need 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you and your husband decided you must have another baby, why not adopt? You have a responsibility to your children and husband to do your very best to maintain your health. Always tell your doctor how you are feeling. There may be a physical reason for this huge feeling or at least he can help you deal with your feelings. Also consider helping one of the many children stuck in the system that will never be adopted. Many children go through their entire life without a family. Giving to someone else may help you deal.
2007-01-07 14:53:43 · answer #4 · answered by towanda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think every mother feels that after they have a there first child, i only have one
(no problems either except for an emergancy csection) and i feel that i need to have another one and you know something funny before i got pregnant with my son i always said my whole life that i was never ever going to have kids, i wasnt even going to adopt or anything, but if you are having problems i think you shouldnt thats putting you at big risk of losing you life and then you wont even be with your other two kids then and that would be even more crappy then just wanting another baby, id go to your doc ask for your tubes tied and ask you husband if adopting an infant would be an option because you dont want to lose your life or even put that at risk good luck hun i hope you do the right thing
2007-01-07 14:34:12 · answer #5 · answered by <3 mykiddos,mylife <3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I consider if he fairly desired to have yet another chld with you he could have married you by means of now. You have a 2-12 months ancient in combination! He demands to **** or get off the pot. It appears like he's simply going by way of the motions, and now not fairly committing both manner. Until he says that he's capable, I could return at the tablet, or reduce off the intercourse until you're legally married. He's now not going to shop for the cow if he can get the milk without spending a dime, so do not permit him take you with no consideration.
2016-09-03 17:52:11 · answer #6 · answered by adamek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your biological drive, it is instinct for women to have as many babies as they can. I really think that maybe you should be happy with the two you have, you don't want anything to go wrong that you wouldn't be around for any of your children. If you really can't resist the urge, there are always children who are in need of loving parents in the world that are already born. You could adopt, or be part of foster care, taking care of children who are desperate for love and affection. What ever you decide, I wish you luck.
2007-01-07 14:28:32 · answer #7 · answered by gypsyiiiis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can answer that question for you. You need to think about the risks involved and what those risks may mean for your children. Have you ever thought about adoption? There are so many children in this world that need a loving parent such as yourself.
2007-01-07 14:27:20 · answer #8 · answered by suz' 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, if I was at a high risk and it's recommended to NOT have another baby.. I wouldn't. You have 2 children, what if something goes wrong? What if you die? What if those 2 have to grow up without their mother? I say be greatful for what you have.
2007-01-07 14:25:08 · answer #9 · answered by ~*Isabel*~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would go get several different opinions from different doctors. Make sure they are pro-life because a lot of doctors will just say things to support their own personal beliefs of whatever it is they want to believe.
Also talk to the doctors that you are feeling strongly about having more children.
I don't think God tells us to get pregnant. He is the creator after all. God speaks to me quietly. Usually if they are strong urges it is myself or Satan Speaking
2007-01-07 15:58:37 · answer #10 · answered by Peggy Pirate 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋