My wife regrets everything in her past. She says she hates her life, says she never wanted children. She told me that she don't want to be married but she don't want a divorce. She don't want to see anyone else but she don't want to be alone either. She also says that she don't want to move with me to a new place because she thinks she will make me misserable but she wants to go because things may be better. One last thing she says she's not sure if she loves me that she feels nothing. But I am still very much in love with her.
2007-01-07 14:08:05 · 21 answers · asked by alone again 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm going to disagree with everyone here so far. Don't give her space. I think she is considering an affair and can't tell you so.
I could be wrong of course, but I behaved just this way once when another man was showing me much attention and it confused me. I didn't really want to have an affair but the attention was absolutely intoxicating.
Try to get to the bottom of what she is feeling. Ask her if there is someone else. I honestly think if my husband would have pushed, I could have told him the truth.
In my case I worked it out on my own. Nothing happened but you may not be so lucky. She may actually hope you will push.
2007-01-07 14:28:59 · answer #1 · answered by outdone 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How long have the two of you been married ?? Your wife seems to be in a very depressed state at the moment. Has anything happened recently that has upset her very badly ?? I honestly feel that she should get some help, she obviously has very low self esteem and it could be dangerous. I would advise you to get her to a doctor asap before her frame of mind gets any worse. It sounds to me that she is at rock bottom at the moment for some reason and desperately needs help. She may be pushing you away but l think it is her way of crying out for attention and help.Get her some right now. I wish you and your wife the best of luck. I have been where she is now and you feel like ending it all, anything to stop the hurt you are going through. Please help her now !! Good luck
2007-01-07 14:34:41 · answer #2 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, thats a hard desision. I think there isnt really a solution here. The only thing you can do is give her a lot of space and hope for the best (whatever that may turn out to be) Before you give her too much space, express that how you feel about her, she needs to know that. Maybe it will help. I hope you can get through this with her. Good luck to you both.
2007-01-07 14:13:58 · answer #3 · answered by ~jenn~ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been through this before. Easier said than done, right now she needs you to be as understanding as possible. I know it hurts to hear her talk like this and go through this, but if you're not there for her at this important time then things will only get worse. Try putting yourself in her shoes the best way you can and be more of a friend right now to her than anything else. With your love and support everything will turn out beautiful.
2007-01-07 14:13:29 · answer #4 · answered by Lord Victorious 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds possibly like menopause. Be supportive. Really sounds like she is having a hard time right now. depending on her age, are any of the children graduating. Does she has a job. Could she possibly be going through menopause and just having mood swings. IF so the good news is most women are settled within a few years-10 years. It is a hard road, but if we made it through mom's menopause and believe me we were ready to commit the rest of the family until she was settled. You can make it to. Be supportive.
2007-01-07 14:56:01 · answer #5 · answered by cheoli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's just all around depressed. If it's affecting her life badly, and her relationships, she needs professional advice and probably some drugs. The best thing you can do is to try and be supportive without pushing her or getting angry... and then try balancing that without being an a.s.shole. It's difficult. Insist she get help somewhere. Otherwise, you two will never move forward and you'll truly be miserable.
2007-01-07 14:12:22 · answer #6 · answered by buffy s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It maybe hard right now but give her some space. My mom goes through fazes like this. Most likely if she can work on making her future where she thought she should be she will come around. Every time my pops starts doing the things around the house these fits lay low and pass.
2007-01-07 14:14:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is suffering depression not a mid life crisis. She needs the help of her doctor to find out the source of the problem and possibly get medications to control it.
2007-01-07 14:29:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a menopausal thing going on with your wife.Her emotions and hormones are doing this to her.Get her to see a doctor for a checkup.You didn't mention her age here,but sure does sound like pre-menopause to me.Once she finds out what is wrong with her hormones,the doctor can give her medication that will help her be her old self again...You just need to be patient with her.It could be what is happening to her.I know,I went through similar symptoms but never told hubby I didn't love him or want my children. I did have mood swings that even I couldn't stand my self..It effects women differently.Go to www.dukehealth.com and look it up.Hope it helps..
2007-01-07 14:27:09 · answer #9 · answered by ladybug 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Return to the times when you first fell in love with each other.
Remember the things you did to win her over. Then...
DO IT.
massage her back.
rub her feet.
take her to dinner or walk.
do the little things, hold the door open for her.
reminisce.
get the old pictures out of the attic.
you should get the point now.
2007-01-07 14:13:33 · answer #10 · answered by n9wff 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋