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Now married for two years my wife to be a 5 week holiday to Germany and France two months before we got married. She showed me pictures in the past and noticed her with friends and other guys. I never thought much of it as just seen she was having a good time. The other day we were talking about holidays in general she mention "awell my trip to Europe was my time before we were married". This comment felt me un easy but she won't talk about it anymore. I now feel a little diffrent towards her and perhaps even lost some love towards her. Should I just forget about it and get on with it as nothing has happened?

2007-01-07 14:06:06 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

26 answers

Forget it and move on, it was in the past

2007-01-07 14:07:43 · answer #1 · answered by Lottalady 4 · 2 0

It was a swell trip she took before the two of you were married. That statement could be as simple as an explanation why you weren't in the pictures. Have you heard the statement when taking tests to be careful and not overthink the question because you will think yourself into a wrong answer? Apply that philsophy here. I would not concentrate on the past but on that baby the two of you are about to have and all the things that the three of you have to look forward to. A good long marriage with lots of love is a difficult thing and a lot of work. She is committed to you. Give it up.

2007-01-07 22:16:34 · answer #2 · answered by towanda 7 · 0 0

You need to tell her that, because of what happened, you are having some negative feelings. Let her respond. If she insists that there is nothing to be concerned about, then you will have to settle for that. You cant make her talk about something that she will not talk about, and besides, there may not be any reason for concern. The big issue is for you to get rid of those negative feelings towards her and ask her to help you, otherwise, those negative feelings could turn into something bigger and cause jealousy or suspicion which could really be a problem. Talk to her! Don't hold those feelings in, they will grow. Hope this helps. :)

2007-01-07 22:29:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

There are many excellent answers here.

Remember we all have a past. There may be things in your past that you do not wish to share with her as well. Do not be too hard on her as she did choose and marry you.

Be happy with what you have. You can talk with her and tell her how the comment made you feel, but it is up to her as to whether or not she will tell you more.

Respect her privacy as I am sure you would like it respected.

Love her and have a happy life together.

2007-01-07 22:30:59 · answer #4 · answered by o_s_c_c 3 · 0 0

She was trying to tell you that she wants another big holiday, I see nothing wrong with her comment, she may have been with others during that time, or maybe not. Why didn't it bother you then. To much time has gone by to worry about it now. Try and plan a nice vacation for the two of you.

2007-01-07 22:11:58 · answer #5 · answered by brp_13 4 · 1 0

You need to put it behind you and work towards the future with your wife. Because honestly there are only the people she went to Europe with and her that really knows what happened over there. Over time she'll either come out with what happemed or she won't. Plus the Lord knows also so when her time comes she'll have to pay up. It won't do you any good to dwell on it.

2007-01-07 22:57:22 · answer #6 · answered by lana1meyer 2 · 0 0

I personally can't believe everyone just wants you to forget about it, like it wasn't important because you weren't married yet. I have been married for 2 years, but before that we dated for 8! If I found out he had wronged me so close to our wedding, I'd be furious. I loved my husband so much before we were married and always felt married before the "legal" vows. It always pizzed me off when people thought we weren't such an item just because we were in grad school and not married, because we would have been married at that time had we decided to just get a bachelors and not go to grad school like everyone else, so why did everyone look at our relationship like we weren't as serious as they were? If you two were so serious as to having been engaged, then you would expect her to remain faithful and loyal despite the fact that you hadn't taken your vows yet. There's a reason why she gets pizzed when you pressure her for info. Either she is mad because she is innocent and you are accusing her, or she is guilty and deflecting your questions with anger. It's not worth ruining your relationship; however, but should be at least worked out, not ignored.

2007-01-07 22:36:53 · answer #7 · answered by emm 4 · 0 0

if u love her, and she has been a good wife, and never given u reason to doubt her, than don't Doudt her now. don't ruin your marriage, over things u just think happened. our imaginations can really get carried away, our ego's can sometimes work against us. forget it, it is all in the past. don't buy trouble if there isn't any,let it go and be careful of the things u are telling your self that may not even be true.

2007-01-07 22:38:22 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0 0

If it was before your time then I'd say forget it. Let bygones be bygones. If your 2 years have been absolutely wonderful and she has done nothing but be supportive and loving, then you have nothing to worry about. What happened on that trip is in the past---if it mattered that much to her, she still wouldn't be married to you.

2007-01-07 22:09:46 · answer #9 · answered by JH 2 · 2 0

If it was BEFORE you married her then its none of your business and you should only concern yourself with the day you married her and look forward and be happy.....stop fishing and looking for for trouble or you just might find it. I don't think its fair to hold something against her that may or not have happened before she was TRUELY your wife. Life began for the both of you the day you said I DO....Move on.

2007-01-07 22:11:53 · answer #10 · answered by jupitor 3 · 0 0

you know she did have a life before you! Yes! You have to stop being so insecure..its you she married right? Not the guy in the picture. you are an adult...act like one and not some 16 year old with his first girlfriend.

2007-01-07 22:11:31 · answer #11 · answered by blondie34 1 · 2 0

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