ok i'm not a perfect wife and john has been a perfect husband and father except for his cheating."sue" and old gf emailed john last spring he told her he was married with a child.i'm not sure what happened after that but last fall he told me a he had cheated on me again with sue and was leaving me.he told me he was not seeing her anymore but a week after he left i went to her house late and sure enough he was there.when i calmly went to the door and asked john to come out to talk he refused,sue was screaming/swearing like a truck driver(she put a restraining order on me after that)i gave up and left.sue has been in and out of johns life for the last 15 yrs.why does he keep going back to her but never stays with her?i just found out from his sister john is cheating on sue with a coworker but she does not know.john has been great paying child support(gives me more than he has too) and seeing his child.why would a great dad/person cheat so much on someone they say they love?
2007-01-07 14:02:53 · 19 answers · asked by jennysmith768 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
this is not the 1st time he cheated in our marrage he also cheated 2 yrs ago with a friend at work
2007-01-07 14:03:58 · update #1
some people will never be able to be faithful. It is just not them, the best thing for you to do is get divorced from him and stay out of any kind of relationship with him except for when he has to pick up/ drop off your son..
2007-01-07 14:07:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geeez you take a long time to say next to nothing, hon. The guy has been cheating on you for the whole of your marriage and you are still there?????? What the f(luck) are you thinking???? Why are you still there? Do you like being a door mat?? Hon you must really love pain, big time.
I guess your question is how can a great guy be such a rat? And the answer is: Who he is and what you want him to be just aren't the same. It is often said that people see what they want to see, and this story is sure enough a prime example of it. He's a rat, hon: Stay if you like that kind of treatment, because it will be all you will get from this guy, or leave, clean up your act, get yourself together, get some counseling, get a job, get yourself in the hands of a great beautician, have your hair and make-up done, get some polish on those rough edges, and find yourself a guy worth you. LIfe is way too short to spend it in hassles, cheating husbands, his raunchy girl friends and the dramatic scenes. Marriage should be Admiration, Respect, Passion and Trust. You ain't got nuttin' like that with this dude!!!!!!!! You have no relationship, just a hassle, hon. Get into a few session of some counseling to find out why you accept this behavior.... Life should be fun, not what you have....
2007-01-07 15:28:34 · answer #2 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry you are having to endure this. First of all, as hard as it is, I would seriously consider a divorce. Have you ever heard the phrase "Once a cheater, always a cheater"? If he is cheating on you, he could bring diseases home to you if yall got back together. Then your baby might get left alone.
I can't say that he doesn't love you, but it doesn't sound like he knows what commitment means and/or is not able to commit himself to your relationship. This is a scary thing to go through, my husband of almost 7 years just up and left me a lil over a month ago, alone with 2 special needs children. He sees the kids and he gives good child support, and now he's trying to get back together. But you see he is verbally abusive and emotionally abusive.
Your husband, by cheating on you, is emotionally abusive to you dear. You deserve better. Dating again is scary, but you can take all the time you need before diving into that barrel. Just take care of you and your child. He's the one who is losing, he's doing you a favor by leaving. It doesn't feel like it, and I know you hurt. Believe me I know. But you can do this. Prayer, faith, and a support network of friends and/or family can help you get through this. I wish you and your lil 3 year old the best of luck. May God bless you as you go through this awful process.
If you need a friend you can im me anytime. - Val
2007-01-07 15:17:57 · answer #3 · answered by QuestionQueen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because some men (and women) can't get enough. Maybe he's a sexaholic. Or he isn't adult enough to settle down with just one person. You are better off without him. Kudos to him for being a good father. But as a husband he's a total scum bag. I kicked my husband out when I found out he was cheating and I had 2 small babies at the time and no job. But you know what? I'm soo much better off now! He's immature and he'll get what's coming to him. Good luck girl.
2016-05-23 06:58:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men do things like that. Your best bet is to not concern yourself with him and Sue and his other woman. Let Sue find out like you did. As long as he he is being a great dad, then that should be your only concern. Try to move on and find a man who wont cheat. Good luck! Love shouldnt hurt!
2007-01-07 14:28:08 · answer #5 · answered by chemky1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bartender give me something strong!!!!! I'll take some dignity with a pinch of faith oh and leave out the olive---your life---- he's ruining your life!!! Let's make some better decisions in the future that don't include losers and dragdowns!! My new Year's resolution was my dad's favorite saying "cut the bullsht!!!! In the first 7 days of 2007 I accomplished more than the whole year of 2006, That's what I'm talking about!!!!!
2007-01-07 14:13:06 · answer #6 · answered by sheree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell John to keep walking, he might be a good dad but he has no respect for you. You don't need a guy like that in your life. I always believe what goes around comes around. Look at what happen to Sue, loser. She deserves what she gets. Trust me, one day he realized he had it all and you are no longer in his life. This will kill him and you will be with a better guy.
2007-01-07 15:20:10 · answer #7 · answered by Paul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to tell you this but you all are better off with out him. My ex-husband cheated on me I don't know how many times. I got to thinking about how real AIDS is and how some one can have it and not even know it and came to the conclusion that we were better off without him. Please let him go if he has already done it he will keep doing it.
2007-01-07 14:18:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he has a problem. I say take the money and run. If he is willing to do that to you, the mother of his child, he will not hesitate to do the same thing to her. And if she forgives him he will do it again. A good rule of thumb, once a cheater, always a cheater.
2007-01-11 13:38:51 · answer #9 · answered by Kim B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
John sounds like a real winner.
He is probably a good dad because he loves his kids.
he is probably cheating on you because he does NOT love you
2007-01-07 15:33:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋