I know I keep asking these types of ?'s, but I really need other people's opinions so I'll know whether I'm freaking out too much or not. This guy in my class really makes me uncomfortable. He has said some really inappropriate, sexual comments to me before. He made this squeezing gesture w/ his hand the other day, I don't know how to interpret it... Anyway, he also sits facing me in one of my classes and he spreads his legs apart, he opened and closed his legs really fast - not a pretty sight. Wouldn't it be considered sexual harassment, or at least harassment, if what he is doing makes me uncomfortable? Well I know I'm probably gonna get some really strange answers, but thanks!
2007-01-07 14:00:54 · 23 answers · asked by 77684 3 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Number one, you are watching him work his legs, and he notices he is getting attention with that. Number two, have you brought it to the attention of other classmates so when you do tell the teacher or instructor you have back up of what he is doing. Number three, move your seat when he is doing it and if the teacher or instructor asks why you are moving? You simply say, I am tired of being demeanored as a woman by then say his name, and I will not continue to put up with it. Chances are if he has made you feel uncomfortable, he has made others feel the same. Sounds like this scoundral is doing this for attention, if you find that your the only one that notices his behavior, then you are giving him too much of your attention by watching his behavior.
2007-01-07 14:12:33 · answer #1 · answered by hbuckmeister 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please DOCUMENT each incident, the date and time and what he did. Talk to the instructors and see if you can be moved away from his line of sight AND go to your Dean, principal, or other authority figure to see what can be done. DO NOT continue to tolerate this behavior. He may just think he is God's Gift or he may be actually dangerous. If it makes YOU uncomfortable then it IS harassment! Also, If you decide to give him the "warning" as was suggested, then have someone with you to witness that you did tell him to cease with what he is doing. IF you can find some other person he is also behaving like this with, then you may have a case that could be taken up with the schools Interdisciplinary Board. But it MUST stop! And you are NOT to blame in any of this. EVERYONE deserves to be able to get an education (or work) without having to be victim to this kind of juvenile behavior.
2007-01-07 14:17:00 · answer #2 · answered by Stuart W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From your descriptions, I cannot tell if it is sexual harassment or not.
Inappropriate comments made to you, yes. That is.... but rest of the gestures can be interpreted in number of different ways, which some of them can be interpreted as sexual.
What you can do is this. Make your teacher aware of your discomfort. Make the guidance counseller aware of your discomfort. Make your parents aware of your discomfort. Make people who sit around you of your discomfort. After all, you will need collaboration with others.
Make an arrangement with your teacher that if you give a certain sign, he will come over by you and observe. Ask your freinds to boserve. Then let your teacher deal with this guy. It is entirely possible, he is trying to intimidate you, or just being a jerk. The solution may be as simple as him getting caught in the act and be spoken to. Or- it could be nothing at all.
Are you sure those gestures are meant for you? If so, you may ask him what it means. Depending on his answer, it may just give you an ammunition to go directly to the guidance counselor and file a claim.
Remember, your safety first. Make as many people as possible aware of your problem.
2007-01-07 14:16:54 · answer #3 · answered by tkquestion 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a few of the answers state "It is not harassment until you tell him to stop, and have a witness" is not necessarily correct. Sexual harassment is anything that makes you feel uncomfortable in a normal situation.
If you are in high school or college you need to have at least one witness to you telling him it makes you uncomfortable and a witness to the offending act or acts before you can make an official report.
In High School the penalties will not be as severe as in college.
At college level the individual can be expelled from college and the reason will be on the transcript permanently.
One option you can use is to talk to your instructor and inform him/her of the situation and enlist their help in catching the individual because the instructors word will carry more weight than yours (just plain fact).
2007-01-07 16:05:19 · answer #4 · answered by Lance D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes but, if you're able to muster up the courage, you should tell him he's making you uncomfortable before reporting him. One of the first things that administrators will ask you is if HE knows he's making you feel that way. A lot of times people will get away with harassment by claiming that they didn't know you didn't like what they were doing. The guy sounds like scum by the way.
2007-01-07 14:31:18 · answer #5 · answered by Joan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that this is definitely sexual harassment if he is targeting you. Before you go reporting anything and ruining his reputation I suggest that you tell him to stop because it makes you uncomfortable and tell him that you are not intrested in him. Ask him why he is doing these things. If he doesn't listen and keeps doing it then you should report it. If you need proof try showing your friends and ask them what they think you can use them as witnesses. If you have a camera phone try to record him doing these things and then go tell somone and show them the video.
2007-01-11 09:46:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sexual Harassment Panda should lie in front of the bus and get run over.
2016-05-23 06:56:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not considered any sort of harassment until you say no. My old school's security advisor told us that ANYTHING is harassment if someone says no or expresses through words that they don't like/want it to continue.
Say no to him in front of other people. If he continues tell the school security and have witnesses.
2007-01-07 14:42:26 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, definitely sexual harassment. every chance you get you keep staring at his crotch. you need to turn off the computer and the television and pick up a book. maybe you could pay attention in class and do a little homework...aren't you just the little princess!!!!!
2007-01-08 05:43:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you close enough to him that when he opens and closes his legs you could give him a quick kick in the nuts? That will cure him, he will keep his legs closed, I guarantee.
Yes, he is harassing you, turn him in.
2007-01-07 14:25:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋