But nothing has ever happened between us(LIKE THAT) but she doesn't want to accept that he has a female friend that is that close. But we went thru something like this before. My husband and best friend hated each other and was always saying I shouldn't be with the other. But I got them to talk and they finally got to be friends. Like some talking and hang out. But how can I do something like that with his wife when she won't give me the chance to show that I am not interested in her husband. Only as someone that is like a brother.
2007-01-07 13:57:24 · 8 answers · asked by pullersgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I understand backing off but we live on different side of the country and I would like to keep in touch like once or twice a month. My husband is close to me as a best friend but he's more. My best friend is like my brother and you would never want to lose a brother. (In some cases)
2007-01-07 14:05:21 · update #1
Respect her decision. If you were really a friend you would back off. Make your husband your best friend.
How about expressing those toughts to her wife? Win her friendship and tell her you see her as your sis-in-law. I hope this works out...it really sounds like you really see him as a brother. Good luck!
2007-01-07 14:01:11 · answer #1 · answered by Miss k 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Like it or not, insecurity occurs with most women at some point or another. Can you blame us? Most everyone has been cheated on a time or two, at this point I think most women expect it to happen. You really have to view the situation from a different perspective, while you see it as harmless, the wife feels threatened. It may be uncalled for but everywhere you go you here about so and so cheating on this one and it didn't mean to happen. If you truly want to stay in touch with this man and be his friend, you might consider seeing them as a couple, not just him. My boyfriend had a female friend for a while that wanted to hang out with him and I didn't so much mind him having a female friend, but she told him she was uncomfortable with the idea of hanging out with him with me around. Well how the heck do you think it made me feel, the idea of my bf out with another girl. Lucky for me my bf agreed with me and told her that if she truly wanted to be his friend then I was part of the package...she no longer wanted to see him. I believe your partner's needs should be priority, so I think it is really his decision to make. If he choses to keep in touch with you and not try to find a compromise with his wife, it's really on him and it's his relationship with her that is at stake. Good luck to all of you.
2007-01-07 15:38:33 · answer #2 · answered by aprilfools1979 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Typical contrite women...
How about you AND your husband talk to the woman? Or go visit "your best friend" TOGETHER - as a couple - and invite the friend AND his wife out to a nice restaurant...
Now - if this is not something you are comfortable with - for ANY reason at all - you should sever contact to the man completely! Because it means that either you are not being honest with yourself and your feelings/desires, or you are not being honest with your husband about who the man is to you.
2007-01-07 20:14:32 · answer #3 · answered by Michael, Count de Berçon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try so hard. If you are a good friend you would state you will be there for him and won't judge. If he needs someone to speak to for support you will always be there for him. A strong friendship will survive the distance. Respect for your friend and his wife will strengthen all relationships involved. Hopefully his wife will see your willingness to back off as your true intention NOT to be involved with him. When she feels more secure in herself and her marriage she should come around.
2007-01-07 14:06:58 · answer #4 · answered by Marjery B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should try talking to his wife, or suggesting that the 2 of you go out sometime...and really TALK.
You should all get together... you & your hubby and He & his wife, to all hang out as a couple. It would most likely be a lot of fun!
Honestly, it probably is a bit inappropriate to not include your spouses in your relationship.
Best of lick...and always remember that communication is alwys the best thing to maintain healthy relationships all around.
2007-01-07 14:15:36 · answer #5 · answered by Ladysmith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got better things to do with your time then spend them with a married man. No doubt you wish you were with him otherwise you wouldn't waste your time. His marriage is in real trouble if he is spending any time with you without his wife around. Why don't you move on because this can't end well the way its headed.
2007-01-07 14:02:06 · answer #6 · answered by ima_averagejoe 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you really care about your buddy you'll respect his wife's wishes and hope that some day she'll understand.
2007-01-07 15:30:28 · answer #7 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
us women cant trust other women! cant you see that with all the "my husband cheated on me" comments on here?
2007-01-07 14:02:59 · answer #8 · answered by *never give up* 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋