my husband of 5 years simply didn't love me yet at the same time didn't want to leave me.he'd stay out past 3 in the morning. He felt like he shouldnt have to take me on dates, or get me anything on birthdays or holidays, he'd make me take our 3 children every where i went, he'd never watch them, and sex was on his terms only. etc... i couldn't take it anymore, there is nothing worse than loving someone who won't love you back, so I finally made him leave, tonight and i dont feel bad, actually i'm relieved, should i be? and will my decison hurt later on??
2007-01-07 13:45:04 · 21 answers · asked by Chava 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
time heals all wounds you done the right thing life is to short to put up with the loser. good luck...
2007-01-07 13:49:10 · answer #1 · answered by hurts so good 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on your frame of mind later. When a person makes a life changing decision like that there's always second thoughts and all kinds of things that run through the mind later. What really matters is if you gave your decision carefull thought and weighed out all the pros and cons about the relationship. Once that was done and you came to a logical, not emotinal, resolution then you know you made the right decision for your happiness.
2007-01-07 22:27:51 · answer #2 · answered by Lord Victorious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you did the right thing why be with someone who doesnt love you, the kids can see him when he is free or if he wants to see them if not oh well for him make him pay you child support for the 3 of them and find someone who will love you and want to take you out and buy you something on your birthday anniversary and treat you like a queen girl you deserve to be happy and have a wonderful life with someone who is truly there for you when you need them and someone who you can count on and trust with your children you shouldnt have to settled for anything less
2007-01-07 21:54:39 · answer #3 · answered by ~Lisa~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you talk to him first and ask him if he still loved you and tell him how you felt? If you dont feel bad maybe you are ready to end it. Wait and see how you feel after a little time has passed. Maybe he will miss you and the kids and want to come back and want to more loving. If not, then it is better you end it now. But stay civil for the kids. Good luck!
2007-01-07 21:50:27 · answer #4 · answered by chemky1 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sounds like you have had enough of his behavior. I've been there and never looked back. I have no regrets, it was the best thing I could have done for me and my kids. I have met the man of my dreams and am truly happy. You too deserve someone to love you back.
2007-01-11 21:33:05 · answer #5 · answered by Kim B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be relieved. He wasn't a husband, he wasn't really committed to you. Whatever you do, stick to your guns and don't let him back when he inevitably comes crawling to you, begging for another chance.
When you're lonely, you may hurt over this good decision, but tell yourself that your children deserve better, and so do you.
2007-01-07 21:49:13 · answer #6 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, be relieved!! You might regret it later, but only because of the loneliness factor. But there are ways to get over that!! Way to stand your ground, don't let him come crawling back, he doesn't deserve you and your love, there are men out there who are not complete *** holes if you can believe that!!
2007-01-07 21:51:10 · answer #7 · answered by melody g 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you show or do what you expect from him. If you say no then there may be problems later. If he calls back ask him to come and join after discussing the matters.
2007-01-07 22:41:53 · answer #8 · answered by VINIE J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will probably regret it in some ways and in some ways you will be happy, financially it could be a problem and feeling that you have failed, looking after the children is just about all yours now but at least you don't have him coming home at 3am now every thing in life is a trade off
2007-01-07 22:07:11 · answer #9 · answered by Gavin T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good for you hunny
time heals all wounds
you have children and its ok to care about him but you cant make some one love you it only pushes them farther away.
the best thing you could do for you and the kids is let him go he only is dragging you down and making you feel bad about yourself. the more confident you are with your decision the faster the healing process will be
2007-01-07 21:52:49 · answer #10 · answered by Type O' 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well since you put your own selfish needs before your childrens need to have a family and father, what could anyone possibly say to you. sounds like you want to be romanced. you should realize that when the kids come along the romance is over. a new guy will probably not romance you either. he might until he gets what he wants and then the romance will be gone also.
2007-01-07 21:51:54 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋