Something happened that I didnt do but he believes that I did do and wants to break up. But we love each other like we have never loved anyone. Is there any hope that love will conquer all?
2007-01-07 13:35:36 · 22 answers · asked by bev7227 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If he doesn't trust you, what do you have? Trust is everything in a relationship.
2007-01-07 13:39:55 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is something you need in a relationship. It's the key to a successful relationship along with other things. He has to have trust and faith in you, if he dosent it just wont work. Have you given him reason to believe otherwise? If so, then that may be the cause.But if you havent given him any reason to not believe you then you guys definitely lack trust. You can work on this by TALKING.Communication is also a very IMPORTANT part of a successful relationship.Communication is what gives understanding.If you understand someone and know what they are all about...somewhere along the line, you guys start trusting each other. If you guys havent loved anyone and you're first timers(like you said) it's alittle unusual and hard to manage a first love. It's not easy.You dont know(or atleast you feel like you dont know) what you're doing. You dont know how to react to certain things! It's normal.It's just how you learn and gain experience.Talk about all the things you want to work on together.The key is working on things together.Working through a problem TOGETHER! If he cant do this, then you guys arent going to last.Even though I wish you the best of luck! Love conquers so much! Love will find it's way through if its meant to be. Good Luck ;)
2007-01-07 13:51:25 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ Loving My Babyboy ;) ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication will conquer all. Tell him that your relationship is important to you, and you want to work it out.
http://www.teenrelationships.org
There is good advice on here:
http://www.mentalhelp.net
Read "Intimate Connections" by Dr. David Burns.
http://www.feelinggood.com
Talk with his friends, too.
Relationships take work. Communications is a big part of it. And don't just say it. Act like it.
Good luck!! Occaisionally you have to apologise even when you are not wrong. Not often, but sometimes.
Only you know.
Some woman in his past may have messed him over, something innocent to you reminded him of that. You have to let him know that you do not do what the other woman did.
I had a gf who constantly mixed me up in her head with an old bf. It is tough.
2007-01-07 13:47:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what did you do??... anyway trust is the main thing about a relationship without trust there is no relationship at all. If he know that you would not do something like that then why would he think you did it (that means that he don't trust you) a relationship has to be 50/50 if not then it does not make any sense in having a relationship...
Good Luck!!!
2007-01-07 13:39:47 · answer #4 · answered by anita_06_05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love does not conquer all. If trust is broken, it usually cannot be won back. He probably WANTS to believe that you lied/did whatever he thinks you did. Keep going and it will mean more pain later. Your relationship is done, accept that now and move on. Tough as that may be. :-(
2007-01-07 13:38:33 · answer #5 · answered by r s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well , my first thought is how old are you? Because if I am right, you sound a little bit younger. So I would say that lots more opportunity for love will come along. What we feel now may not be what we feel in a year. Ask him what it would take to prove that you didnt do it. If you think there may be a way to prove him wrong.
2007-01-07 13:41:02 · answer #6 · answered by Miss Green 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put yourself in his shoes. would you think that he did it? relationships are built on trust and if he cant trust you then its a pretty bad sign but you can work on building trust back up. the fact that he wants to break up with you would suggest that he doesnt feel the same way about you as you do about him. how could he love you as much as you love him and still want to break up? only your boyf can decide whether he wants to break up with you but then you have to ask yourself whether the relationship is what you really want when the basic trust is gone.
hope for your sake that things work out for you pet.
2007-01-07 13:42:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Well by nwait it depends what he think happened. What you can do is tell him that you love him and did not do what he thinks and say that's all I have to say. Give him a chance to think by saying we'll talk when your ready to hear me. Surprize with some thing a whole day later and ask him "do you want to talk now?". let him get his frustations out, and reasure him of how you feel again.But if your a flirt you better stop for awhile!
2007-01-07 13:44:49 · answer #8 · answered by Antione E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well tell him you love him and he needs to belive you didnt do what he thinks you did and if he loves you he will trust you and that you still love him and dont want to break up and you do have hope
2007-01-07 13:39:45 · answer #9 · answered by 15-0 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love = trust , if he doesn't trust you, he doesn't love you. people play too many games in relationships, make sure he isn't gaming you. some guys get a nut watching a girl sweat it out, they use that to gauge what they can get away with, if you show you are desperate, he will use your love and desperation against you, ask you to endure things you normally wouldn't. make sure you aren't getting gamed.
2007-01-07 13:40:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is tough. You see, if you don't have sex with a guy before marriage - that really builds trust but alot of guys just aren't mature enough to understand that. If you have sex with a guy before marriage and were easy as it were, then he might think you had sex with some other guy even if you're just friends. You need a fresh start.
2007-01-07 13:40:15 · answer #11 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋