Why is it that i can help people, but not myself?

Question

When other people are depressed im able to help them get through, but when i am depressed i cant help myself..

Answer 1

It is often easier to help others in such situations than to help oneself. It is difficult to be objective about our own situation. Sometimes the best way to help ourselves is to ask for help from someone else.

Answer 2

People that rely on you for comfort know they can look to you for support and that's all it is...Support. If they were really depressed they would need medical help not yours. I think you already know that fact.

More interesting is your own diagnoses. When you are feeling down, can't get up in the morning, don't want to talk to anyone or feel life itself is collapsing on you, there is only one thing you can personally do to help yourself. You have to take it one step at a time.

Life has so much to offer and we have a tenancy to think if things do not go exactly right for us then everything is wrong. Fact is: We generally cause our own down time by our own down thinking. When you realize that the thought process you go through is looking at the negative side of issues you can start looking at a fix. That would be to start thinking about the opposite side of negative. That would be a start for correcting your life of depressed feelings. If you don't do this, you can expect to spend the rest of your life feeling crummy! My personal suggestion and one that I've given out many times is; start taking care of yourself. Make yourself better in all ways imaginable. When you do this others seem to gravitate in a positive way. Friends, relationships, work and much more will begin to improve with your personal improvement.

Answer 3

OMGOSH I am the same, like when there is a question someone asked about depression I can answer it so quickly with out evenly thinking!!! But I am always depresse and stressed with things and have to tell other ppl how I feel and when they give me advice it still really doesnt help me!!
I guess alot of people are like that and are too lazy too change (that would be me!) Sorry dont know that answer!

Answer 4

You're not alone with this one, bro. I'm a graduate psych student in college and I habg around psychologists and therapists all the time, and many of them, while they are excellent in helping others, have social lives that are a mess. And some of them are more than a little nutty. LOL. I think the reaosn for this is that, when we help others, we are outside of their problems and not immersed in them, so we can look at them objectively and without bias, and thus give sound advice. But with ourselves, we are too wrapped up in our own emotions, we can't get "outside the box" in order to look at our problems from a distance and see the whole picture. It's like the saying you can't see the forest because of the trees.

Answer 5

Maybe you just need to develop self-confident? Sometimes you're not able to help yourself because of this but you are able to help other people at the same time because you think they're deserve more help than your unworthy self. That happens to me once. Who knows?

Or maybe you're depressed because of different reasons. Some people are good in solving some type of problems but totally out of clue to solve others. For me? I'm a total moron in practicality(no kidding, it makes me depressed sometimes especially when I'm arranging things in my room!).

Answer 6

Because, we are the kind of people who like to be in control and sometimes do know better than others. However, we are constantly enthralled in our own theory that we are exempt after telling someone else what to do. We are usually blind to what is obvious when we help others because our emotions, which we can deal with for other people's problems. Thank you fellow answerer.

~Scholar~

Answer 7

Very interesting question. I have the same problem myself. I have good advice for others, but when it comes to me, I simple don't care.

I guess it stems from self esteem. I care for others, but I really don't care that much for myself. I'm hoping when I get depressed - somebody will jump in and play "me" - but nobody ever does.

Best advice - stop giving advice to others and use it all for yourself - be selfish. I dunno.

Answer 8

It's easy to see other people's problems and help them deal with them than to look into ourselves and fix our own lives.

Answer 9

No one can always solve his/her own problems. We all need help and input from others, the collective knowledge is greater than single-sightedness within ourselves.

Answer 10

Well you should start practicing the advice that you are giving to people whom you were helping.