I have had complete custody of my son since he has been 8 months old,his mother walked out on him, knowing that he had fetal alcohol syndrom,I have been married now to a wonderful women for 5 years now and my son has always has called her mom,he hasnt seen his biological mom for over a year now, we dont get any child support either, she was suppose to pay $11.00 a week, but who needs it
2007-01-07 13:10:20 · 18 answers · asked by dabigdoggy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just as soon as you put in the paperwork, OLD MOMMY will show up on the scene to protest it. (you heard it hear first)
I would think that if you choose not to do this (and it is my opinion that you should) PLEASE have a will in place that she has parental rights to him should something happen to you!
Put this in your will YESTERDAY!
You can write a will on a piece of toliet paper if you need to but please do it. YOur beautiful son might have to go and live with her if something should happen to you and you would be flipping in your grave if that were the case!
Do talk to an attorney if you can. The first step might be to terminate parental rights to bio mom before your wife can adopt him.She is already is mom, she might as well have the offical title too!
KISS YOUR WIFE she sounds like a wonderful woman
2007-01-07 13:20:14 · answer #1 · answered by lisa s 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If a real mother can not or will not pay 11.00 a week in child support then she's not much of a mother anyways. Sure she might have had problems but you said your son's 6 years old and you've had him since he was 8 months old so I'd say the real mother had plenty of time to get her act together and obviously she has not. So as I see it yes if your new wife wants to adopt your son I'd defiantly check into it. ;o) good luck to you
2007-01-07 13:28:40 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would let her if there was no chance that his birth mother were ever going to be a real mother to him.. has she ever shown signs of redemption? even the slightest glow of hope? if so, there is a chance that she can get clean, and may want to become a part of his life at some point... she is after all, the one who gave birth to him, but if you choose to, let your wife know that you want your son to be taught the good about her(his biological mother), and the bad things about her shouldn't be explained to him until he's a bit older...there must be something good you saw in this woman, other wise you wouldn't have been attracted to her in the first place,right?
2007-01-07 14:32:13 · answer #3 · answered by sickofstupidazzpeople 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm style of interior an identical difficulty that you're. My boyfriend has a 13 three hundred and sixty 5 days previous son and we get him the different weekend, the lads mom has made particular that he receives to work out his son. She has never tried to take that remote from him. I believe my boyfriend and that i comprehend he received't cheat on me. it truly is no longer in his nature to objective this, he's rather straightforward and unswerving to me. He does see his ex even as he options up his son or drops him off in spite of the undeniable fact that it doesn't trouble me because I believe him and that i comprehend he received't go lower back to her. It sounds to me like you've some believe topics consisting of your husband. i might want to objective what others have stated and get to understand his ex, make a chum out of her and then perchance you received't project a lot.
2016-12-28 08:46:42 · answer #4 · answered by kostyk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the mother doesn't sign away parental rights there is no way your current wife CAN adopt your son. It doesn't matter than your ex wife left or didn't pay support etc. HER name is on that birth certificate and she doesn't HAVE to sign away parental rights. All that you can do is to ask if she will if she says no then that's it.
2007-01-07 14:49:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your present wife is really this boy's mommy. The other posters are right that you need to get son's mom's parental rights terminated IF your wife wants to adopt him. I do think your wife should adopt him, and make legal what has been in her heart all these years.
2007-01-07 13:24:34 · answer #6 · answered by Cris O 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure your new wife can adopt the child unless you have written permission from the mother, I don't think enough time has lapsed for you claim abandonment.
Good Luck!
2007-01-07 13:24:46 · answer #7 · answered by Ŗεŋεε 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
But she is the mother of your son, she is alive, maybe when she will be cured she wants to see her son, and explain to him that she was ill, maybe your son will complain your decision, wait until you can tell him what happened to his biological mother and if he wants to be adopted by your wife.
2007-01-07 13:14:37 · answer #8 · answered by pelancha 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It sounds like you are a lucky dad and your new ife is very lucky to have you in his life. She doesn't have to adopt him, it's a package deal. He is already her son. enjoy!
2007-01-07 15:30:54 · answer #9 · answered by Paul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is something for you and her to decide. no one else can answer that question for you. I mean, if you two are both wanting that then sure go for it although, It depends on what the two of you want.
2007-01-07 13:45:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋