What so so wrong with it?

Question

A little while ago I ask a question about coming out
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I got people telling me that at 13 I was not suposed to sleep with my girlfriend. What is the big problem with two girl having sex at 13. It not like we're going to get pregnant or anything its not realy much more than masterbating if you think about it. We've done it before and will do it again. Why is there a problem simply because were 13. Like i said its not like were going to have babies or anything so why the big deal

Saying too young isn't the answer, I want to know why people think its wrong, not just that it is.
I'm still going to do it regardless I just can't understand why people think it's wrong.

I see good resons why i shouldn't stop having sex with my girlfriend but I still don't see any really good answers to why it is wrong for two 13 year old girls to have sex with each other. Some say disease but anyone can get a disease if they are niot carefull. some say its because your 13, as if we are people that shouldnt like orgasams. so what i like orgasams, just like anyone. i see people telling me things that are not true like its illegal, its not.
What i see is alot of people saying 13 year old girls shouldn't have sex with each other just because they think its wrong but can't explain why.
just like every 13 year old i like the orgasams that come when youo masterbate and why i shouldn't i be able to share that with my girlfriend.

I still havent' figured out how sex that wont make you pregnant can ruin your childhood

Answer 1

If your both 13 , then its not illegal.
You would think the glbt community would not be so judgmental.

Answer 2

honey, sex is more than just a physical thing. it's the emotions involved.. you may not realize this now, but 13 is too young to truly know what love is. it takes years to develop true love.

i can't speak from experience, but many of my friends tell me they regret the sex they had as a teen and wish they waited til they were older.

as great as your relationship may seem, you'll probably date tons of different girls and/or boys before you settle down and get married in life.. and to have tons of expartners in your past will take away from what makes love and marriage all that more special.

i am 33 and i didn't even touch anyone sexually until i was 25, and i am so glad i waited for the right person..

i guess there's nothing i can say or do to change your mind.. you're just gonna have to live your life as you see fit to do so.

but i just can't expect that at 13, this really is a serious loving relationship..

the more sex you have as a teen, and the more partners you have it with, the less you will appreciate it when you get older..

i just don't want you to look back and regret the things you are doing now..

the fact that you are comparing sex with masturbating is a sign that it is only about the physical things that matter.. not the emotional things..

you know, there's part of me that wishes i coulda had sex when i was a teen, but i know i would have regretted it..

not really sure what else to say. i just don't want you to get hurt and don't want you to look back and regret it. .i also don't want you to take sex for granted..

Answer 3

Well society seems to think that 13 is to young to have sex, to me I personally dont care what you do, but you can still spread diseases, so if you are going to have sex at least do some things that will be 'cleaner', but yet having sex at a young age does tend to ruin your childhood, I am 17 and I am all ready yearning for my childhood back, but I will never get the chance again, so just live life the way you want to, but be aware of the choices you make cause some of them can lead to disastrous results.

Answer 4

Hi- I am a 27 year old lesbian...it is a big deal because of your age. At 13 you should not be sharing your body with anyone- boy or girl. While it's true you cannot get pregnant, you still can spread diseases to each other. Anytime body fluid mixes you are exposing your body to potential diseases. Wait a little longer and just figure out your body on your own for now.

Answer 5

At 13 you are supposed to be enjoying your childhood, not being sexually involved with anyone. Don't be in such a hurry to grow up, it will happen soon enough and you will yearn for those chilhood days.

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Humans grow on 4 different levels: Physical, emotional, social, and mental. All people grow at different rates of these levels. For example; an eighteen y.o. boy may be physically an adult but emotionally he may be much younger and socially, younger yet...or a 13 y.o. girl may be socially an adult but emotionally unable to understand the dynamics of a sexual relationship. The odds are that this new world of sexuality you are experiencing may take a toll on both you and your friend's social and emotional growth.

I'll give you my experience. My (now ex) wife and I used to be swingers (we shared our marital sex with others). It was all good and fun during the time but eventually led to some social and emotional issues we could not see coming until it was too late. Now I can look back and see the problems with our "sexual arrangement" that I could not (or refused) to see during the time we were satisfying our "urges".

Good luck to you

Answer 6

I'm not going to tell you to quit doing it because you won't. I was 14 my first time and now I'm 19 and I regret my first time because it was someone that had me thinking that I loved them. When I got older I fell in love for real and wished that I could have gave the girl I fell in love with the special gift that she deserved but I couldn't. So what I'm going to say to you is make sure that you won't regret it in the future. It's something that you can never get back. I know that you may possibly be in love now and I'm not going to tell you ain't because you are if you are. Just know that there are different levels of love. If you are in love now it may just be on the first level or maybe it's on the top level. Think about it and if it ain't the top level of love then when you get older and look back on your past then it may not be worth it to do something that is very special with someone that you are not on the top level of love with. If you do decide that it is worth it then be safe and use protection.

Answer 7

Because your brains and bodies are not fully developed. There are a lot of ramifications to this act. What if she "dumped" and decided she was straight and told abotu your personal moments together etc. You would be devestated because you obviously care for her. Secondly, where would you get the toys to help stimulate once masterbating wasn't enough...you have to be 18 to hit up the porn shop.

This is why its a big deal for anyone to have any type of sexual realtionship at 13. Includes 2 girls, 2 guys, or one of each.

Answer 8

hi.
well first of all in your case it is wrong simply because you are 13. y ou shouldn't be thinking of sex at this age yet maybe when you are 17-18 you should have other things on your mind like having fun going on camping trilps, parks hanging out not masturbating with your homegirl!

Answer 9

Whoa.... I'm not gonna tell you off here, but during my first time (16), I had almost no idea what was going on... I just knew it felt good.

There's bnothing wrong with it per se, except that it's illegal.... and you'll understand potentiaklly regretting it when you're 16

Answer 10

For most of us 13 seems way too young to be having sex let alone being very comfortable about it and sharing about it.

Answer 11

Sex is sex. No matter if it brings about a pregnancy or not. No matter if it is between a man and a woman or two men or to women. Sex is sex.

And sex is for people who are mature... both in body and in mind. There is no 13 year old in our society who is mature both in body and mind.

So........what is so wrong with it is.............you are too young to have sex. Period.