my problem is that my son is know 20 and his father owes thousands of $ know this man was good to our son then he did some time in jail know he has 8 kids with mine is the oldest ,I feel as if there is no way that he can pay 20 years off andhe has 7 other younger kids even my husband before we got married, had to pay support right after we got married he wonted me to go and tell childsupport that we were married and get childsdupport off of him . i think that it,s not fair to hod 93 thousand dollars over this mans head that i know he, will never be able to pay beside he would still have to pay the state of mich.back my husband feels as if me takeing the support off is wrong he did not feel that way when it was him.
2007-01-07 13:01:53 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he could not support them, he should have gotten a vasectomy!
2007-01-07 13:06:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Makes no difference how old the child is. If you were getting aid from the state then he owes the state not you or the child.
As long as there is a balance owed to the state he will have to pay it off just like any other debt. And most states also add on interest to the balance.
Even if the father files for bankrupcy child support is still owed. That is one debt that can NOT be cleared by filing. Even the IRS will hold any returns that the father would normally get and turn them over to the state.
If he was in jail it is still adding up and if he can't afford it after he got out, and had more kids then he should have thought of that before he had the other kids.
2007-01-07 13:10:00 · answer #2 · answered by trollwzrd 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know the law of child support in your area. But where I live if the ex owes back support and the kid is over 18 and not in full time school. Then the ex has 10 yrs to pay it off but if it isn't then he doesn't have too. Trying to get support for your child is not a easy thing and the states don't back up with the things they say they will do to the one that doesn't pay! I should know, I have been back and forth on trying to get support for the last 4 yrs. The ex only went to jail for 5 days and that's it! The state keeps letting go. Good luck!
2007-01-07 14:11:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i understand you correctly you collected money from the state through some type of state funded program and now the state will offset that from any money collected from child support, correct? Because your x was suppose to pay child support and didn't so you were able to qualify based on income for a state funded program but now they want their money through child support if he pays. If he owes the state the money you can't forgive the debt, if he doesn't owe the state the money but owes you directly then you can.
2007-01-08 16:11:09 · answer #4 · answered by tink3610 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since your son is now 20 years old YOU wouldn't be able to collect the child support owed anyway. The only person who would have a leg to stand on in order to collect would be your son. It is up to HIM whether HE wants to go after the back support owed, but he'd better do so before he turns 21, because once he hits 21 all child support orders become null and void.
2007-01-07 14:55:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is your decision if you want to drop the charges and let it go, but your right he would have to pay the state back if he owes them anything. My son was 21 when i started getting support from my ex, I could have dropped it but didn't (but my son was his only child) 8 children that's alot but he should have thought about supporting them before he had them. Its your call, good luck!
2007-01-07 14:10:02 · answer #6 · answered by chemky1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't write off that child support. The fact is that even though your son is now grown he still owes that money to you both. If you feel that you don't need the money, fine...use it to help your son pay for college or start a life of his own. Don't sell yourself short....
2007-01-07 13:19:39 · answer #7 · answered by Bek 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're right, write it off. You've raised your son and now he has seven other children to worry about. You said that he was a good father to your son, then let it be. Stuff happens, give the man a break. I raised my son without one dime of child support. Way to go MOM!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-07 13:29:00 · answer #8 · answered by Cheryl 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
did you collect the child support from the state, that must be repayed. If you did not collect it, and can forgive it, then do so. If he has been providing support in any manner then the courts need to know.
2007-01-07 13:43:01 · answer #9 · answered by brp_13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
child support should be paid for the child as he is growing up. if you collected money from michigan, he owes the state of michigan. he is not any different than any other man who, for some reason, got in arrears.
2007-01-07 13:26:32 · answer #10 · answered by sinned 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he was man enough to get a child then he should be man enough to take care of them my suggestion is he better get a very good job
2007-01-07 13:15:17 · answer #11 · answered by poptart 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋