I am 4 weeks pregnant and this was a freak acceident we were totally protected but I guess things happen, well the anti abortion guy I was dating has turned into I think it might be best the minute he found out. He says he will be there no matter what but that having a baby is the wrong time right now. We have not been to gther long, and I have a 5 year old he is 30 and I am almost 25. I have gone back and forth about this for days and I feel absolutely sick. I would say f him and do it alone, but I know how tuff things are for me now with 1. Anyways, I was looking on the internet reading about abortion and found some pictures of aborted babies, as well as ultra sound pics the aborted pics made me horribly sad and I can not imagine doing that. Would it be wrong to show him the pictures as well and ask if he could really live with himself if we did that to our child? Or is that a low blow? I am really hoping he would change his mind and get excited about the baby.
2007-01-07 12:56:25 · 14 answers · asked by dontknow 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
show him the pictures. if he wants you to get an abortion, he should see what exactly he wants you to do.. good luck
2007-01-07 12:59:12 · answer #1 · answered by smokingstonersweetheart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had 3 abortions and I am almost 25. I currently have a 2 year old son who is the light of my life. I am still with the father, we have been together for 6 years. I personally would never get another abortion. But the resons that I had done them in the past is I knew in my heart that it just wasnt the right time in any of our lives to have a child.
You really have to think if you can provide everything for the child, everything. Having a child already, you know what it takes. Can you do it? And if he decided not to stay with you, then could you do it alone? It is a very tough decision.
Do you have family to lean on? I hope so. About the pictures, I dont think it would hurt, but do it in a nice way if possible. He might take like you are pressuring him, and sometimes it is good to hear it from other people.
Good Luck.
Ali
2007-01-07 13:06:50 · answer #2 · answered by haynespitbulls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe a woman should do whatever she feels is right. I'm married 5 years and I have a 4 year old. We just got a house and are now almost 3 months prego. The first month, my husband was pushing me for an abortion. I was so sad that he wanted that but he said now was not the best time. I was afraid he would leave me if I kept it. But its not his decision its mine, and even though I know its hard to raise 2 kids by yourself, you can always get by and I could not bare the fact of killing my child. So now, everything is ok, and he is excited for this baby.
When women find out they are pregnant, they are usually excited and going through emotions, but Men always go through a state of fear. they get scared of the fact of raising a child, finances, and support to the woman. But they get over it. And if your man says he'll be there, then trust him and give him time.
Good luck!
2007-01-07 13:03:24 · answer #3 · answered by Laurellamags 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't blame you for feeling sad about those pictures for abortion I think if it's a medical problem then you really have no choice but if you want this baby then he'll have to get over it and he will probably come around once he's used to the idea.
2007-01-07 13:02:06 · answer #4 · answered by fluttergirl2004 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I don't think it's wrong to show him the pics. But, you may scare him away because he may think you're only showing him the pics to change his mind. Then he may feel trapped. So you have to answer your questions yourself with a long talk between the both of yall and some thinking time. If you feel you can handle things then f him.
2007-01-07 13:00:32 · answer #5 · answered by miss info 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny how all these "anti abortion" guys change their tune when they are confronted with the dilemma themselves.
He is a loser. You have to make up your mind what YOU want to do: keep the child or terminate it.
Thank goodness you have those choices.
2007-01-07 13:05:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHOW HIM THOSE DAMN PICS AND DONT EVEN HESITATE! also take him to the website www.silentscream.org and make him watch the 11th week abortion video parts 3 and 4. THIS SHOULD REALLY MAKE HIM SEE HOW WRONG ABORTION IS!
2007-01-07 13:06:10 · answer #7 · answered by mommyto2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might change his mind about abortions, but it won't necessarily turn him into a good father or a better partner.
2007-01-07 16:10:22 · answer #8 · answered by keonli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him your keeping it either way he stick around hes just really scared
ps you are only four weeks so you could give it a couple weeks to set in before you make up your mind for real you'll get empowered and i think he'll stick around you can have time to wait and see this way
2007-01-07 13:10:36 · answer #9 · answered by momma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no thats some thing you dont do. its against the law. you dont have woman strolling as a lot as you saying > pick to work out my who who. nicely in the experience that they did that . woman might want to easily besides walk round bare . maximum adult men might want to assert particular. sound helpful. yet even as a guy is doing that its referred to as flashing its against the law.
2016-12-28 08:44:26 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋