When i started a relationship with my husband i did not originally know he was married for 6 months.I thought i was in love with him and had just gone through a terrible divorce .He told me he was sorry for not telling me but that he was seperated from his wife and he loved me.I believed him but was suspicious i stuck around for three more months and i was going to leave but then i found out i was pregnant.He told his wife and she divorced him.We got married and i felt everything would be fine but there seems to be a shadow over our marriage.I dont feel like i can trust my husband.I also feel like something is missing emotionally.At this point we have been married almost three years and i hate my marriage? I cant stand the person my husband is which is manipulative and selfish person.He will not listen to my feelings and ignores me.You would think i was invisble he makes everything my fault!even his old marriage failing!
2007-01-07 12:40:25 · 14 answers · asked by Bella G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am kind of afraid to divorce though because he has a lot of money and could make my life hell.I would not put it past him to try and take our 3 yr old daughter from me.
2007-01-07 12:42:13 · update #1
I signed a pre-nup
2007-01-07 12:46:39 · update #2
*** the fact that he's got money means u and your daughter will be awarded more money so u can set up a life for yourselves where u don't have to worry anymore. u do NOT want your daughter growing up seeing her mother treated this way or you're gonna feel terrible when she lets a man treat her that way some day cause she thinks it's ok.
2007-01-07 12:45:04 · answer #1 · answered by meme 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hope to god he finds another woman to knock up. Then his attention won't be on you anymore. He is a liar and he is manipulative. Get an attorney and get out. And remember, as long as you are married, it is YOUR MONEY TOO! Start putting some of it away. Save up about 5-10K and use it towards an attorney. If you can hide more, do it. Don't think for one second that he won't cut off the bank accounts if you try to leave. You are not doing anything illegal--it is YOUR MONEY. Keep saying this to yourself. EVen if you signed a pre-nup. Pre nups only cover what is brought INTO the marriage. Everything else is marital property and has to be split anyway.
Also, he is threatening to take your child because it keeps you right where he wants you. If he realizes that you are going to leave, he may lose interest in the child (he may not, but you never know until you leave). Does he really want to stay at home and be responsible for a baby? Seriously?
Start making your plans now.
2007-01-07 12:48:24 · answer #2 · answered by ssc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your hubby is a real narcissist, he gets off on belittling you and other people he feels he can manipulate, I mean just ask his ex-wife, i am sure she felt a great deal of relief when he wanted to leave for you. You need to drag his butt to counseling, and if he won't go, you go alone, also get enough evidence on him that you will win any divorce problems, and make him run off with his tail between his legs. Men who behave this way are childish, and you can be sure that he is not only being that way at home, i am sure that he has crossed many people professionally. Don't let him tear you down, be strong, if he tries to take your child, don't worry you can make him take a physc. evaluation and therapists can smell a narcissist a mile a way. Oh and PS, you might want to start tucking away some funds, that he doesn't know about, put it in your families/parents name so he can't touch it in a divorce. and check the library for any legal and divorce references. good luck
2007-01-07 12:57:00 · answer #3 · answered by Veryfrustratedmommy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing is to get into a support group. If you're lucky he isn't controlling to the point you can't leave the house. If he doesn't want to get counseling to stay in the marriage, your best bet is to find a way out, before it gets too bad to leave. Take it from me, I've been there and are still trying to get out. Get friends and anyone you can talk to and let them know what's been and is going on. Especially if you think he is or could become dangerous. It's never a good thing to have a child(ren) grow up in a home with so much resentment and negativity.
2007-01-07 13:00:55 · answer #4 · answered by subar62 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot stay where you are not happy and trust is a big factor in a marriage. If your not happy how do you think you can make your daughter Happy and I wouldn't worry about ur hubby taking away your little girl. Most all judges do not count on just money to supply for your child unless he can prove you to be unfit you have already won that battle. Most states believe that a child's rightful place is with the mother. Good luck in this situation I know it must be hard.
2007-01-07 13:11:24 · answer #5 · answered by Sherman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he lied to you once and never told you about his other marriage, I mean he could be doing the samething to you as he done to her. He blames you for everythnig so he doesn't feel guilty about cheating on you with another women. What you should do is talk to his ex and see if he treated her like that when he was still with her cheating on you.. If thats true then divorce him...even if he is rich ...tell him not to take it out on your daughter.
I beat he's cheating on you right now..
If you need to chat you can always contact me K.. i'll try to help you more.
2007-01-07 13:08:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You prepare to leave. Either use the time with him to better yourself (return to school, save money, get in shape). You look around for housing that you will be able to afford. you accept the reality of what your life is now, how you got there and you learn from it. YOU stop going by feelings and go by what he is demonstrating to you-- he is untrustworthy and will lie to your face and blame you for his being a s**t. Good Luck
2007-01-07 13:56:30 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him , work and get child suppont for your baby. He does not deserve you, and before going into another relationship think in the consecuences look for a free man, single or divorced, no wife, and he will be only yours no shadows
2007-01-07 12:47:05 · answer #8 · answered by pelancha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally your beauty makes me dizzy.... now this question has exceeded even that dizziness....... What if your hubby's online wife had a girl on the side who had an online hubby who had an online mistress.... omg... I think I just.....um.....
2016-05-23 06:22:17 · answer #9 · answered by Barbara 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a A@@hole, and you already answered your own question as to whether or not you should leave, you practically said you don't love him anymore....
2007-01-07 12:44:03 · answer #10 · answered by Tabatha 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋