What are some normal feelings with dealing with deaths?

Question

Last july, a friend of mine got in an 4 wheeling accident and died. Then in October another friend committed suicide. Two weeks later another friend had gotten crushed by a car and died. I went through about 2 months of hating life and not caring about anything. Little things also got to me a whole lot more and i talked to a friend of mine about ALL of this. I feel better now and i'm happy bout life. i recently found out this friend i talked to called me psycho emotional. i don't know why he called me that. i think it's because i did freak out at little things more and i just wanted to know if it was normal to get angry at small insignificant things while dealing with deaths especially suicide.

Answer 1

I am very sorry to hear about your losses and I want you to feel better and realize that you did not have anything to do with them. You are in a state of depression and it normal to be upset at things especially if you can't feel in control of them. I am going to give you the 5 stages of grief and anger is one of them. As for your friend, he must just read a psychology book or something and now he thinks he's a "ARMCHAIR PSYCHOLOGIST" :) SWEETIE I HOPE YOU GET THROUGH THIS AND YOU ARE NOT.WHAT EVER HE SAID HE YOU WERE. i DO HOPE THAT YOU TALK TO A PROFESSIONAL AND AS WELL AS FRIENDS OR FAMILY TO HELP WITH THE GRIEF.

Answer 2

No, I don't think you were "psycho emotional". Absolutely, anger, even rage, indifference, depression, all of these are normal reactions to loss. And you experienced a lot of loss in a short amount of time. It sounds like you dealt with that fairly well, actually. Suicides in particular give rise to many feelings, and often the people left behind are torn between anger and guilt. That's very normal. For many people, it can take a few years to work through all of those emotions, and some people never resolve them. But for people who have never experienced the death of loved ones or close friends, grieving may come as a shock. When you grieve, everything can seem either completely flat or magnified many times. It is easy to see how others may have a hard time relating. I am sorry for the pain these losses caused you, but I hope you might consider a way to use your experience to help others. Families of suicides, in particular, need a great deal of empathy, something you have the experience to provide.

Answer 3

First off, I am so sorry for your losses. That is a lot to deal with and for your friend to call you any name whatsoever is just wrong. I lost my step dad in 99 and then my mom died in 2000. I was such a mess for a long time. I was mad at God, mad at life, mad at my family, mad at myself. I was confused and hurt and I went through about every emotion out there. I wouldn't say there are any normal emotions when dealing with death, but any emotion you had was okay and you had every right to feel any way you did. I'm glad you're feeling better about life now!

Answer 4

There is anger and denial among other emotions and they are all normal to experience. You probaly just talked to someone not equipped to understand what you're going through if they said that about you.Talk to a school counsler, everything will be confidential or a parent. It's hard to lose someone close to you.