I want a divorce. Been married a long time. I have finally decided to come clean and live my life being true to myself. As a lesbian. Do I tell my husband that, or do I just let him assume it is just all of our other problems? We will still be getting the divorce whether I tell him this or not. He knew when I met him that I had been in a few relationships with women and that at the time I considered myself bisexual. I have not had a single lesbian relationship in all of the time that I have been married, although I am in love with a woman, nothing has been done about it. HELP!
2007-01-07 12:30:28 · 10 answers · asked by Shawn 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
just be honest with him. if your heart truely lies with women then tell him that. don't let him think he's a bad person though, that's not fair. just explain you have finally decided to live your life the way you didn't think you could before and that he's a good person but you just feel the need to move on. hopefully he can understand and feel he can move on too. but he will be hurt and upset so be nice about it! GOOD LUCK TO YOU BOTH!!
2007-01-07 12:44:07 · answer #1 · answered by onyx maiden 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have any children together? Hmmm, I can understand if there are children involved but get it over with, your only making your heart hurt the more you let it linger on and maybe he can move on with his life. My brotherinlaws ex-wife was a lesbian when they married and had a kid together . He moved on and married my sister whom had two kids from previous marriage and now they have a child together. Go ahead and tell him. It will bruise his ego but hey theres women out there that will build it back up after a few dates.
2007-01-07 12:47:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
And he still married you? knowing what he knew about you? why? Okay ya again, why don't people LOOK BEFORE THEY LEAP!??? Marriage is for the long HAULERS!
How can you be in love with a women if your MARRIED to your husband? ohhhhh your having an emotional affair?
JUST TELL HIM WHAT YOU TOLD US! The truth.
2007-01-07 12:54:19 · answer #3 · answered by SecretFriend 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Life is to short not to be happy, so I say tell him and go be with the one you love and who will make you happy.
2007-01-07 13:42:17 · answer #4 · answered by aloneathome 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are totally confused, many years with no realtions with women then inlove with a woman, your need psicologycal help and therapy, to help you understand your preferences and feelings
2007-01-07 12:49:28 · answer #5 · answered by pelancha 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him your a mo. That should ease his pain. I mean, it's not like he could change you. it takes the blame completely away from him and places it on genetics.
P.S. You should've never married him in the first place, that was a bit selfish, don't you think?
2007-01-07 12:42:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you're in love with another person, you've been emotionally unfaithful regardless if you've ever touched that person.
You should tell your husband why you're leaving so that he can have closure and move on with his life.
2007-01-07 12:45:27 · answer #7 · answered by penhead72 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, you are a lesbian and that's nothing to be ashamed about.Would you tell him if it were a man?
2007-01-07 12:42:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell him. I think that it is less painful if you are leaving him for reasons he can't fix. He can feel that it wasn't his fault.
2007-01-07 12:50:34 · answer #9 · answered by Bek 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just divorce.....you don't need to explain yourself
2007-01-07 15:37:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋