I was devoted to my girlfriend. I asked her to marry me last year and she said yes... We're still in college... I loved her very much... and then she went to join a sorority.... and the rules say she can't speak to me while on line to join it. She did just that though I didn't like it.... but even though I disagreed... I supported her because that's what a good boyfriend does... she has to sneak aroudn to see me... did... but then it ghot less frequent... to the point where we see each other 5 minutes a week.... she would tell me she loved me... even when she asked for a break from me... she told me she loved me. 2 days later, thanksgiving day, she breaks up with me.... says I need to stay away... things get worse as I chase after her... she drifts away... I give her her space... she drifts away. No matter what I do... she drifts away. 2 months later i'm still fighting... I love her very much but everyone keeps telling me to move on... Is it wrong to love someone this much (more holdon
2007-01-07 12:26:27 · 12 answers · asked by X Anonymous 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Is it wrong to love someone this much. I would do anything for her... lately she's been very offensive saying really bad things to me. I asked her why she makes me hurt this much and she said because it was fun. I am a good guy. I try to be a great guy... and even though she's hurt me so much and said so many mean things... I forgive her....... people keep tellign em to see a doctor. they'll help me get over her but I can't... I don't want to get over her. I shared so much with her and love her so much.... a friend of mine says that most girls are looking for a caring devoted guy like me.... but I don't want other girls.... I want her.... Wwhy do girls do this to guys? they want a good guy but then hurt him when they have him with no regret? Why do girls choose bad guys over the good ones? And should I seek help? I don't want too.... its liek someone forcing you to eat even though u don't want to eat. It's wrong and u wont do it... im just so confused and so hurt..
2007-01-07 12:29:15 · update #1
Before her I was a sad person. Depressed all the time... when I was with ehr I was so happy... I asked for an Angel in my time of sadness and then I met her.... Sicne she broke up with me... I lost my humor, smile, and laugh.... I don't know how to be happy... and moving on... won't make me happy... She doesnt want to speak to me and my only conneciton to her is through email... she says she wants nothign to do with me and wants to be as far away from me as humanly possible.... She was never liek this before she joiend the sorority. She was a beautiful girl and she was caring. Now... she's the opposite of who she was. I just don't know what to do about her either.
2007-01-07 12:33:33 · update #2
This is such a sad situation and I can imagine how bad it hurts. I think your best bet is to move on. I know that sounds hard right now but she's not the person that you think she is. You may need some couseling or just a good friend to talk to. Take it one day at a time :) There is someone better for you and to be honest this may be the reason that this is happening to you. God is making way for this person in your life but you have to go through this pain first in order to be strong for the person ment for you. I went through a similar situation. My boyfriend of four years got a white girl pregnant but we weren't together, but we were planning on getting back together. I thought I couldn't never get over that situation but I did and the person who was there helping me through it all is now my livein boyfriend of four years (not the same jerk guy) You can get through this its just going to take some time. Good Luck!
2007-01-07 12:56:41 · answer #1 · answered by step b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are smothering her. She's trying to get away and you are trying hard to hold on to her. It won't work! You must give her space and time to miss what she had with you. If she doesn't come around on her own, there's nothing more you can do. We can't have a relationship with someone who doesn't want one with us.
You have been trying to use her to meet needs in your life that only God can meet. When that happens, it becomes too heavy for the other person to handle. They are smothered, and they run, just as she is doing.
Give God all the love you're trying to give her, and He'll wrap you in His great arms of love and fill your heart, as no one else can
ever do. Then ask Him to send you the mate you need in your life. Maybe it will be her, and maybe not.
God bless!!!
2007-01-07 13:43:19 · answer #2 · answered by delmaanna67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she was using the sorority as an excuse. Ask for the ring back and tell her that you will talk about it (maybe) when she is ready to be with your again. In the meantime, don't call of speak to her (I know it's hard) but she has to have a change to miss you and want you back.
2007-01-07 12:30:29 · answer #3 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When people are in college; alot of things change, so I'm sorry that you loved her so much, but you need to find a new girl who will just eat up all the love you have to give!
Time will heal your broken heart!
You may need to get a temporary med. to help with your depression and your obssession of her, and you do need to leave her alone!
2007-01-07 12:31:35 · answer #4 · answered by Lucky 7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you're depressed. i'm sorry the guy left yet you want to be sturdy. you'll locate somebody else. end listening to your track...throw it contained in the trash!!! and that i understand you do not favor to bypass to adults about the reducing...yet it truly is a extreme challenge and also you're hurting your self bodily inspite of the indisputable fact that it is your emtions you want to attend to. search for suggestion from with a school counsler or someone you've self assurance that could assist you. Your mothers and fathers are in all likelihood extra understanding than you imagine. in case you've self assurance in God pray for his help also...Please end the reducing you may quite make your self very ill with that!
2016-12-01 23:44:09 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry honey, but the sorority thing was just an excuse.
hey you sound like a wonderful, caring guy, but she probably won't be back. my best bet is that she found another guy. SORRY!
the best advice i can give is graduate, make lots of money and settle down with a woman who is just as special as you are.
2007-01-07 13:20:36 · answer #6 · answered by angel1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow sounds like my ex. Hate to say this but she was playing head games with you and she was playing with your heart. I hope you are able to find someone that won't hurt you like that. That is so wrong!
2007-01-07 14:06:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're the only devoted one in the relationship.
2007-01-07 12:30:45 · answer #8 · answered by Joshua 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not wrong to love someone, but it is wrong to not let go of something that is holding you back from being happy. Listen to what EVERYBODY is telling you.....MOVE ON.
2007-01-07 12:30:42 · answer #9 · answered by mo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow...the woman you end up with the rest of your life is the luckiest woman alive. the pain will pass. you will find someone who loves you just as much as you love them.
2007-01-07 13:05:35 · answer #10 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋