i want this horse. what should i tell my dad? (the post gives better detail)?

Question

im in love with horses.
kay.i went up to jacksonville for 2 weeks and went with my cousin to stables. she has a new horse. his name is T.J. i fell in love with this horse. now she is selling him. and since she saw me get attached to him, she sad i could have him for half the price she is selling for. i have talked to my dad about A horse before, but he said no. but i rreally love this horse, and T.J got atached to me too. i havent talked to him yet, but im gonna soon. i just dont know what to say. i really want this horse. i love horses period.
(yes i know the costs of having horses and everything else i need to know. i did all the research.)
what should i ask and say?
ever since i got back, i couldnt get the horse subject of my mind. i always have a pain in my stomache and its just driving me crazy.
that is how bad i want a horse....
so what should i do?

Answer 1

Hi Angela, I was just like you so I can understand completely. You need to tell this to your dad when he is calm and happy, and just tell it to him the way it is. Perhaps come up with a way to keep a horse and a plan for saving money so. Though - I hate to tell you, I cried over a horse for three days when we decided not to buy here, and then I re-fell in love with a new one half a year later. Then another half a year later he became so naughty I was afraid to even ride him. I know it's really hard, and it'll hurt now, but you will get over it and still have a horse life if your dad says no. Hope it goes okay! Don't rush into anything.

Answer 2

Phrase your question as "what can I do to help this happen?"

Offer to get a part-time job and pay for half the costs of a horse, for example, or if you're not old enough for that, offer to do more chores around the house - e.g. offer to cook dinner on Monday nights, do the laundry for the whole family, or whatever. Make sure you're able to do this! If you don't think you can do it, don't even offer. Alternatively, you could offer to stop doing something that costs money - offer to stop renting videos or tell him you'll accept a lower allowance. It's not much, but it spreads the sacrifice around.

Remember, your Dad DOES love you, but a horse is a major investment - like asking for a car for your birthday! It means a lot of overtime (or a few less vacations or dinners out) and you need to be willing to recognize that. If you can make his life easier at home, perhaps it will even out for him.

Be sure to mention that your cousin will give the horse to you cheaper! However, your Dad is probably thinking about the long-term costs of a horse, not to mention all the problems that can come up (vets, what to do when the horse grows too old or sick, sanitation, driving you to and from stables, etc.).

Finally, realize that no matter what you do, your Dad simply may not have the money to do this for you. When I was young I wanted an emerald ring more than anything else in the world (don't ask). My Dad had just been laid off from work, and it broke his heart that he couldn't give that to me. I didn't realize how much it hurt him until a few years ago, when he asked me if I still wanted one (about fifteen years after the fact).

Good luck and God bless!

Answer 3

If you feel like you are responsible enough to care for a horse, then make a well researched plan and present it to your dad. Make sure you include everything from boarding costs to vet care. Call around and get prices on things, write everything down and organize it. He is more likely to say yes if he thinks you are serious and have thought everything through. Also, having a horse is like having a kid, so be prepared to spend lots of time and money on one. You say you are a good match with TJ, but have you ridden him? Make sure he is not too much horse for you since he is your first horse. If you can't get one right now, try asking him for riding lessons instead. There is always something new that our horses can teach us.

Answer 4

Its up to him since he is paying the vet bills when it gets sick, and caring for it when you are at school or busy. When he says no, take it well and be mature and you will improve your chances of him saying yes in the future.

You could also go the shameless begging route, by cleaning the whole house and bringing your grades up as high as you can.

I was horse crazy from girlhood until I worked on a horse farm at 16. I still loved them, but saw that it is so much work to keep a horse healthy that someone my age who would need to go to school and move out someday wouldn't be able to properly care for a horse for its full lifetime and that simply isn't fair to it.
Or my parents who would have had to care for it as it aged.

Answer 5

I live in Sebring and I will tell you to tell your dad that a horse teaches responsibility and builds character. Horses are very gentle and kind animals that need alot of time. I believe all teenagers should have one ......Good Luck....

Answer 6

best to talk with dad first 1/2 price is good but horses are expensive to take of feed, vet , shoes, and the tack

Answer 7

Tell your dad you want a snake, a big long live-rodent eating snake. Beg, whine, put on the waterworks. When you have completely exhausted him say, (Through your tears) "OK then, I'll take a horse..."

Answer 8

i am also in love with my horse. yes they are expensive but. they really are worth it in the long run. so if you really want to do it. then do it

Answer 9

You said you know the costs , You did NOT say you were prepared to pay them . . .
Are you expecting your Dad to pay ?
Try telling him you will pay for everything (if you have a job, if you don't then it would just be fake)