At what point did romance die, and why are gentlemen unappreciated?

Question

I'm not talking about a needy, clingy man who sends you flowers every day and calls every 15 minutes. I'm talking about a true gentleman . . . confident, honest, healthy, respectful, successful, and romantic. Men like that have been all but banished in American society, because most women see them as being "boring", and go out of their way to hurt them and take them for granted.

Chivalry? Forget about it. If you open a door for a woman, she'll slap your face. Grab a woman that you don't even know and slap her on the backside? She'll think you're the sexiest bad boy alive.

Then women whine about how they can't find a good man. A bit hypocritical, don't you think?

Answer 1

Romance died with the feminist movement, though I think that it was great and all. Women never wanted it to end, we just wanted to vote have jobs and freedom. Sadly apart of us thought we had to loose chivalry too (which is terrible) so men stopped trying. Apart of us never wanted it to go away. Now that we want it the average young man doesn't even know how to act like a gentleman. I love romantic guys, I love it when a man opens a door for me(only happens once a month). Our society needs it these days.

'confident, honest, healthy, respectful, successful, and romantic' - I love these qualities but haven't met anyone like that. Open a door for me, buy me flowers, I'll love you faithfully, be by your side though sickness and health and rich and poor, till the day we'd die, again haven't met him yet. Anyone slaps my backside and I will break their hand.

(It sounds like you or someone you know had themselves taken for granted.)

Answer 2

Men were only gentlemen as long as women were ladies. Since this contract has obviously fallen through thanks to the feminist movement, neither end has been keeping up the bargain.

It's selfish of women to keep demanding that men act like gentleman when a genuine lady is so hard to come by. In fact, many women here would be offended at the prospect of being told to act like a lady. Why should men be obligated to give while receiving nothing in return?

Honestly, I'm happy for the trade off. I much prefer a relationship where I'm not supposed to show deference or humility, where we're both considered equal. But I'm sure I'll get some thumbs down for this answer because feminists won't bother to read until the end.

Answer 3

A "gentlemen" these days will be verbally appreciated, however his behaviour is not rewarded in this day and age.

A gentlemen implies a respectful relation, such as the former definition of marriage as a well known example. A situation in which the gentleman is highly sought after.

However, the marriage contact is a worthless piece of paper nowadays. If a gentleman marries he can (will in 33% of cases) be divorced against his will and taken through the court system. He will pay to raise any children resulting from the marriage without having any other role in the family in the slightest.

The woman will take it, but the gentleman is a fool.

With the primary reason for the gentleman being a stable marriage and to a slightly lesser extent any monogamous relationship, that reason no longer exists as a direct result of feminism.

Answer 4

Romance didn't die with all women. I keep wondering where all the good guys that are true gentlemen have gone, because they certainly don't seem to be anywhere around. And the ones that I know are married.

Most of the guys I've gone out with are only out for one thing and when they don't get it, it's "Catch you later babe." Or they want a woman that looks like something out of fashion magazine or a movie. I've all but given up on finding a nice guy who will be all that you've mentioned. It seems like guys only respond to the women who will abuse them and use them.

Case in point: A girl I work with treats her boyfriend like garbage a lot of the time and he hangs around and takes it. Another friend had his wife cheat on him and he took her back twice before they finally split over the other guy.

Your point is just as true with women. Ladies are unappreciated as well. No one banished the gentlemen, they are just few a far between and I for one have been burnt so badly that I guess I expect all men to act the same way. I don't like getting groped on a first or second date. It's a stereotype to say that women don't want men who are gentlemen.

But my advice: If women are saying that you are boring, you are looking at the wrong kind of woman. Try finding someone who works in the same field that you do, has similar hobbies, or better yet get involved in a church somewhere. That's a good place to find someone with higher standards. And there's always E. Harmony. It didn't work for me but that doesn't mean it couldn't work for you. They match you on a lot of different levels. You never know till you try. You have to quit expecting all women to be the same. Because we aren't!

Answer 5

Romantic men are in hiding because We are considered to be an evil influence by the feminist movement. Why? Because the very action of being romantic is deemed to be an assault on Their "right" to self esteem. Yet the funny thing is that women still enjoy an hypercritical outlook towards romance: They love being loved and in love but do not want to appear to be happy with the concept of love for fear that Their peers will think Them old fashioned and letting down the women's movement. Just go out and ask them.

Answer 6

Just in case you didn't know:

confident often passes as arrogant
honest does not equal boorish
healthy is a broad term (like a healthy 85 year old)
respectful is an overused, vacant term
successful can mean work-obsessed and distant
romantic often means pawing at you for a quickie

Can you even fathom how many men "go out of their way" to hurt women? Both sexes are guilty of this.

Chivalry, I admit, is dead. But that pertains to women and men. Women slam the door in my face as many times as men do.

If a man slapped MY backside he'd be in jail before sundown.

Women whining about things? Sounds like you've got a little whining of your own.

Hypocritical? You should talk.

Answer 7

i will take a genuine Gentleman any time and that i will consistently %. him over a moron. All genuine gentleman have been banished ? God i'm hoping no longer i'm nonetheless looking. you're saying in case you open a door for a woman she'll slap your face ? what baby of female have you ever been assembly? certainly no longer a woman. slap my backside and that i will slap you on the face because of the fact your no gentleman. Its all approximately who you %., in case you %. sh** for a companion it particularly is merely what you will get. adult adult males and female a like. do no longer positioned all us female in the some type for we are no longer all the comparable it rather is merely that presently we are out quantity by potential of the ding bats. i will see why some guy experience and think of that way yet hay you picked them over a good female ninety 8% why because of the fact there extra relaxing, .there seems or because of the fact thy the place EZ to get.. For the two guy and female make extra perfect selections and you would be happier.

Answer 8

I admire a man that still has the intestinal fortitude to be an intelligent, chivalrous gentleman.. Glamor and style are on their way back for both males and females...the latter you mentioned are insecure and don't know how to be strong: they think that being a rude bully is being strong. They don't like straight forward assertive people that can handle themselves in sticky situations in a stylish manner..

Answer 9

Well I believe chilvary is a two way street. A woman can't expect a guy to have these qualities without having them in return. Plus, men do this as well as women, we sometimes relate our current loves to our past loves so we become suspicious when the person does these special acts of love and kindness and negatively retaliate.

Answer 10

I don't think it's true that most women like a "sexy bad boy." I like it when I meet a nice guy and he holds the door open for me. Maybe you've just been meeting the wrong kind of women. Where do you go to meet women? I have guy friends who complain that they can't meet any nice girls, but then I find out that they spend most of their time trying to meet girls at a bar. Nice girls generally don't hang out in bars. I may be way off base with the whole bar thing, but trust me, there are tons of women out there are looking for a gentlemen.