why is it?

Question

when someone has a different name ,ppl always say oh they are going to be picked on or they won't get a job ,i teach my children to be respectful of all cultures everyone is not going to be a Jennifer or Michael, so we hold their differences against them ,in my children's classes there are very fewtop 10 names,there are more London,Liam,Skye,and Brielle

ppl are entitled to their opinions and this question included mine. no i would not give my child a mainstream,i'm raising employers not employees , leaders not followers

what is a weird name versus an acceptable one?

Answer 1

i completely agree with u. i get so pis.sed off when people make dum comments like ur child will never get a job with a name like that, what tha hell r u thinking, no one will ever be able to pronounce that, or my absolute favorite- they sound ghetto. that especially bothers me because ne one with an ounce of intelligence nos that a name can not b ghetto seeing as how tha ghetto is a place, it does not catagorize names.

many people rnt willing to except something differnt or cant even respect someone elses tastes in names. its beyond ridiculous ta think that their opinion is tha only right onw and it reigns supreme above other peoples. different cultures have different naming styles n people should just excpet it, they dont have ta like it just get over it.

u dont c people who like unusual names jumping down peoples throats just cause they dont liek the usual mainstream names like marie, michael, etc. we deserve tha same respect as others who do like common names. theres no need for people to be so close minded and assinine about other peoples likes n dislikes.

ok im done. just venting lol.

Answer 2

i say that not to be mean, but to help, because it's true.
i have a unique name and it's hurt me throughout my life. I can't tell you the mean things I've heard even though I am well educated and from a good family.
When I was in high school every time I called a certain friend on the phone and his older brother picked up the phone he would yell "that tree monkey is on the phone for you." even though he has never met me, has no idea what I look like and is judging me by my name. i'm not kidding.
The point is that you can't change other people's biased ideas, but you can prepare your child for the world. wouldn't you rather give your child a mainstream name than watch him/her suffer for the rest of his/her life.
"Freakonomics: A rogue economist explores the hidden side of everything" has a great chapter on names.

Answer 3

You're right, and I think it's great your children are growing up respecting other people and their cultures. My name is Gisela and no one can ever pronounce it on the first try. It's pronounced (Hee-Say-Lah). Sure it's a set back but I'm doing pretty well in school and I have several friends of different races, religion, and orientation. As for being made fun of, kids can make fun of any name if they want to be mean. I think Shakespear said it best, "A rose by any other name would smell as sweet."

Answer 4

You are very correct but there are some people in this world whom are not like some of us who teach our children not to pick on others because of race or their names or the different cultures

Answer 5

I think everyone should learn respect for each other regardless of their names, however that kind of utopia doesn't exists. I know that because I work with a young woman named Blaze. And instead of drawing strength from her unfortunate name, she embodies the reason people have such a negativity to unique names.

Answer 6

People are just strange.

I've read responses on here for names like Peter - he will be picked on in school!

WTF? I know tons of guys named Peter or Pete and nobody picks on them because of their names! It is a traditional name. Big deal!

Now, having said that, I also worked with a woman named Precious a few years ago, in a professional business setting and honestly, she did have to work twice as hard as anyone else to overcome her name and earn the same level of respect. Not fair.

I applaud you for teaching your children to look beyond these shallow issues and have a little more depth to their characters.

Answer 7

I recommend the book Freakanomics to anyone interested in this topic. It has been proven many times that something called 'Name Discrimination" exists, specifically in the corporate world, as well as with colleges. People with names that are not traditional, or are even traditional with creative spellings, are far less likely to get an interview than someone with equal experience and a legitamite name with some history behind it. Sad, but true. That's what I have always meant when I recommend rethinking an overly creative name.

Answer 8

You are correct I was turned away because my given name is Ty'Bijah( Ta Bye Sha) and I was told some very racist things, IE I hate America, and I am a terrorist, When I am Black and White, grew up in USA and all. People do judge you on you name, first or last people want to put people in a box, like hello you look like a bill.

Answer 9

Did anyone see the other posting from someone with long list of potential names like "Bawb" and "Gyna"? Take a quick look and say those names out loud. Sounds pretty obscene, huh?

THIS is an example of "different" and not cool!!

Answer 10

Right on! I wish more people thought like you in teaching respect instead of ignorance. My husband has an unusual (by US standards) ethnic hungarian name and people call him the right name. If someone wants to know you, they'll get your name right no matter what it is! It gets mixed up by the telemarketers so we know when they call so it's kind of helpful.