My boyfriend has a female friend who he hangs out with about once a week. She used to have feelings for him, but he talked to her about it and she stopped. I know that my boyfriend does not have romantic feelings for this girl nor did he ever. I also know that she does not like him anymore (she has moved on and likes someone else, now).
However, every time I know that he's hanging out with this other girl, I get this horrible, "He's cheating on me"-feeling in my stomach. I know for a fact that he isn't, but I still get this miserable, jealous, insecure feeling when ever I think about them just hanging out, together.
Can anyone give me tips on this? How can I go about to change this jealous feeling? I've felt this way for almost a year, now.
2007-01-07 11:51:03 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Talk to this other girl. Tell her all these feelings and im sure she'll understand. I Know what you are feeling because this situation has happened to me, but i was the other girl, and his girlfriend was jealous of me and told me about it. I told her that i would never make a move on him and that maybe she could hang out with us.
2007-01-07 11:59:08 · answer #1 · answered by marie73 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can change the way you feel. If you are jealous of his friendship, you are the one who bore the feeling. Relationship takes faith and trust, if you don't have it, you cannot have a relationship. Understood? The key to a good relationship is communication. If you feel jealous or uncomfortable, talk to him and solve it together.
2007-01-07 12:31:01 · answer #2 · answered by Hanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was the biggest monster when it came to jealousy while I was married. The only thing that helped me was a book titled "Jealously" by Nancy Friday. Mind you, my husband still cheated, but he blindsided me, cause I wasn't expecting it at that point. Silly me!
If you're sure that you are the one who's out of control though, the book is amazing.
2007-01-07 12:05:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have two suggestions 1. double date--that way you will have a chance to seee for yourself what's really going on..2. Try to trust your man and believe that nothing will ever come between you two....
2007-01-07 11:55:55 · answer #4 · answered by strickly2deep 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know but this one girl was just like u b/c i am best friends with her bf and now she acts like a totall bit** to me and its stupid b/c i have a bf. so just remember to get mad at her its not her problem
2007-01-07 11:54:48 · answer #5 · answered by carebear_destroyer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋