Im afraid to age. Mostly bc I fear my husband wont get turned on by me when I do. It wont happen any time soon. Im 26 and look 19. The question is this: Will it not really matter to me when the time comes? Am I going to be an insecure wreck? How can I inbed in my brain that its okay for me to age?
MEN: Are you still sexually attracted to your wife even though she's not youthful anymore?
2007-01-07 11:32:51 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your all great! I already feel a little better!
2007-01-07 11:42:51 · update #1
One of the primary sex organs is the brain. Use yours! To preserve your superficial, skin-deep beauty, stay out of the sun and use moisturizers, drink water and exercise and eat moderately. Don't smoke at all and avoid drinking to excess. Then, focus on what makes you a fascinating and sexy woman--how you live your life. Participate in activities that stimulate your mind and give you joy. A happy woman is a sexy woman. Find things that you and your husband can enjoy together, like some kind of sport or travel or going to ballgames or the theater or whatever. Just make it an activity that makes you interact with one another. You sound very insecure and maybe you've been focusing on how you look more than your intellect and personality. A confident woman is also extremely sexy--as long as her husband doesn't have his own masculinity issues. Work on how to make your life interesting and fun and include him. By the way, he's going to be aging right along with you. Hopefully, he isn't a superficial, one dimensional, self-centered egotist who is only concerned about having arm-candy for a wife. If he has a brain and a personality, he'll find you sexy no matter what your age.
2007-01-07 11:45:17 · answer #1 · answered by Yo' Mama 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Look at it this way, it beats the alternative (death). I'm 42 and I didn't like hitting 30 and I didn't like hitting 40 but it had nothing to do with my appearance but how my years had been spent and where I was in life at those points in time...
Work on your insecurities and stop worrying about what will happen years down the road...take care of yourself the best that you can and if your man doesn't want you when you hit a certain age then he's not worth your time so move on...
Life doesn't end simply because a guy (or gal) doesn't want us...it only ends when we let it (barring death)...
2007-01-07 19:35:35 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Youthful physical beauty fades with time - it is inevitable. Taking its place is a mature beauty entwined with more wisdom and love only becomes deeper with time. Getting 'turned on' is 90% formed in the mind of both sexes. I'm 60 years old and have been told I look ten years younger (even tho my body knows for a fact that it is 60). My husband is 52 years old and he is very much physically attracted to me. We've been married for 14 years with normal ups and downs, but as each year passes we seem to enjoy each other more and more. Both of our appearances have aged - no getting around it - we just keep doing the things together we enjoy while making each other feel wanted, needed and most of all, loved.
2007-01-07 19:42:44 · answer #3 · answered by Decoy Duck 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are young, lol. No one likes "aging" and seeing the changes we go through, but it isn't realistic for anyone to expect their spouse to look the same at 50 as they did when they were 20.
My husband and I have been happily married for 33 years and yes, we're still "attracted to each other". He is the only man I've ever loved, and I love him more today than I did when we were young. Although the years have aged us, he's still the same person I fell in love with, and that's who I see when I look at him.
I understand your concerns, but if your marriage is based on love and respect, that won't change. The years have strengthened our love, it has grown and matured. I wish you the same.
Bless you both.
2007-01-07 19:45:58 · answer #4 · answered by Mugsy's Place 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My parents were in their 80's when they passed away
and they were married for 55 yrs. I am 56 and not asham-
ed to say it because I take good care of myself and do
not have a pot belly and can run 3 miles a day and take
vitamins and am still attractive to my wife and she is still
attracted to me after we have been married for 20yrs. So
just remember age is nothing but a number and it's
what a person makes of themselves physically and
spiritualy that will make the difference not the numbers.
2007-01-07 20:11:12 · answer #5 · answered by RudiA 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel but my guy is 23 younger than me. We are going on 2 and1/2 years. I worry all of the time. I think it is normal. Wonan have sooooo much more pressure to age gracefully. I am 43 but don't even look close so I guess that is a plus. I don't think anything will make that fear go away, it's natural.
2007-01-07 19:39:52 · answer #6 · answered by openminded 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have expierenced that those who fight the hardest to stay young (looking) are the ones who age the worst. If you enjoy yourlife, enjoy every age/phase of your life don't run from age, face it headon and keep an open mind and sense of humor you won't age badly. At 53 I have very few lines/wrinkles because I've never been one to deny my age nor fight it. My sister on the other hand looks to be 10 years OLDER than myself yet she is 7 years younger...because she has been battling age since her early 20s. The fountain of youth is not an outside goal...it lies within us all.
2007-01-07 19:38:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you and is mature then it will not matter. I met my husband when I was 22 and in the best shape of my life. I am now 37 and have gained some weight and he loves me more now than before. I have intrigued him mentally and spiritually to a point where the physical is less important than it was before. Only growth in your relationship can give you this.
2007-01-07 19:37:21 · answer #8 · answered by kyle g 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Take care of yourself naturally. It's a fact of life that people age.,so don't get paranoid. If two people love each other and are committed it's the most wonderful thing to share all your life together and grow older together. I myself am 41.
2007-01-07 19:42:39 · answer #9 · answered by rhonda y 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hon, HE is going to age too---wrinkles, potbelly, ear hair--the whole shebang.
Just keep yourselves in love, by doing fun things together, and unexpected/surprising things PRIVATELY, and he will always love you!
Our tiny town's paper had a "happy 60th Anniversary" to a couple in town yesterday, and I was blown away....They looked NOTHING like their wedding pics, but were still smiling in the anniversary pics....Bless you both, and best wishes...
2007-01-07 19:41:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋