Should i confess to my parents?

Question

I am 14, and recently smoked my first joint and got drunk. I hated it, and never plan to do it again, but i feel guilty. My parents are very understanding but i am unsure if i should tell them. What do you think?

Answer 1

Yes, I think you should. Just let them know what you did and even though you never plan on doing it again, have them help you to NEVER do it again. They can give you insight. This is all considering that they are very understanding of course.

Answer 2

Confession is good for the soul - but very bad for your lifestyle as a teen.

If you think your parents will understand and not go off the rails before you finish telling them the whole story, then you can try. Beware though, because even the most understanding parents can go completely ape-sh**.

My advise is this. If you feel you have learned your lesson, then just wait until you're older before you tell your folks. You've had your experimentation and didn't really like it, so there is nothing more your parents can add to the experience. If the subject ever comes up in talks with your folks, you can always mention it then.

Answer 3

I understand how awful you must feel, and my heart goes out to you. Wait for an opportune moment... one where your parents are in a good mood, the best time would be right before bedtime. Then, just confess in a sincere manner, tell them how guilty you feel and swear on your honor never to do it again. Don't be afraid of crying either... it will help them understand how bad you feel and they will see that you are really being honest. If you don't you'll feel awful for the rest of your life... even if they get mad, it only lasts a little while and is nothing compared to horrible guilt. Trust me... you'll feel much better after having a good talk with them.

Answer 4

If it would make you feel better, than go ahead and tell them. However, you do not need to tell your parents everything...you need to have something to tell them when you are older, so you can all laugh about it then. But it is really great that you have such a great relationship with your folks...and it is really great that you did not like the bad stuff...you will be much better off without it. Sounds like youre on the right track...keep it that way. And do not feel guilty, almost everyone experiments with those things, the important thing is that you don't keep doing it.

Answer 5

Yes. Better you tell them, then they find out on their own. Sit them down when they're not busy, upset, or stressed out from their day. Tell them, "Mom, Dad, I want to talk to you." It's ok to be nervous. I know I would want my kids to tell me, if they did that. Just reassure them how much you hated it, and that you promise you will never do it again. Your 'rents will probably be upset, that's typical, and it's ok. They will probably say that they're disappointed in you for doing that, but they will probably say that they're proud of you for being honest with them. Don't get upset, if they ground you, that's part of the consequences, but keep in mind, they mean well, and they're doing that to make sure you don't do it again. They may even start keeping closer tabs on you, until they feel they can trust you in their own way, again. But, like I said before, it's part of the consequences of your actions, not because you told the truth. Life sucks as a teenager, but when you're old enough to be a parent, trust me, you would want the same respect and honesty from your kids, as your parents expect from you.
A great relationship with your parents is open an honest communication.

Answer 6

I think if you told them exactly what you've just said, they'll be very understanding. Tell them everything including why your curiousity got the better of you and how awful your experience was. You may have to sit through a lecture and may have to endure some punishment, but at least you're parents will think you to me a little more mature in understanding the choices and decisions you make.

Answer 7

You should sit your folks down and say what you just did in your question. I am a parent of a 14 year old and a 15 year old. The 14 year old just admited to doing something REALLY stupid, and her dad and I were so glad to hear it from her, and not from the cops, or someone elses parents. EMBARRASSING.
Kids are so afraid that their folks will hate them, or kick them out...Parents are so afraid that their kids will not feel they can talk to them. So basicly, you would be doing them a favor by talking to them.
Even Jeffery Dahlmers parents still loved him.

Answer 8

experience is one of the best teachers we have. we hear about all these things that are bad for us but the ultimate lesson learned is the one you did. I am not saying everyone should try everything. thats bad for them. I do believe you are about to become an adult. You must make that decision about telling your parents, but I agree with the person who wrote that if they find out from an outside source they wont trust you. I think I would also tell your buddies that you just dont want any more of it.

a word of caution--if you do tell your parents they are quite likely to ask who provided the dope and alcohol. now youre talking about a whole new ballgame. I would say "look mom, dad, I did it, I knew it was wrong but I had to find out what the big deal was. I honestly dont care for it and as I have said I have no plans for future use. But please dont ask me to rat anyone out, there could be serious repercussions on me if I did. or words to that effect
this actually happened to me. I got caught taking alcohol to school
it was stupid but at the time it was cool. I didnt get caught at school. a friend's mom smelled alcohol on him and he ratted me out. My parents found out, confronted me and asked where did you get the whiskey? my reply was that I promised not to tell. well that went over like a turd in a punchbowl. My father got up and made a fist and thats when I blurted the name of the alcohol supplier. In my case, the beating I would get from the supplier was preferred over my father beating me. I told my buddy this and to my surprise he understood. well I have rambled enough, look be true to yourself walk tall, face whatever you have to face with a brave heart. You have actually given me hope in the teenagers of today. I think youare going to be allright. good luck and always stick to your princples.

Answer 9

The more you share with your parents, the better they can relate to you where you are at. They will better understand what challenges you face and will be more able to help you.

It's hard to believe one's parents had similar challenges in their childhood because our society keeps changing so quickly. However, while the fashions may change, the topics of sex, drugs, peer pressure never do.

It's good you have approachable understanding parents. Use your resources when you have them.

Answer 10

Your parents are not meant to know everything. Learning from your own mistakes is an important part of life. Don't feel guilty. We all go through it. The most important thing is that you learned your lesson. If they don't ask, don't tell.