like sleeping alone. i have a large appetite in the bedroom but sometimes i wish hed sleep in another room afterwards. he takes offense when i sleep downstairs but i just hate when he wraps himself in me. i cant breath and find it difficult to sleep.
2007-01-07 10:58:15 · 12 answers · asked by alroka 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No ur not horrible, its just takes some getting used to.. it a new experience for you, you probably make him feel awful and unwanted not sleeping with him, you should tell him how u feel, and see if you can both come up with a solution... x xx
2007-01-07 11:04:35 · answer #1 · answered by storm.minx 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No you are not horrible. I too felt the same as you do. I don't know how you felt before you got married but in my case I really didn't WANT to get married to begin with. It was basically a marriage of convience, yes Ioved him but there were things that happened in the marriage that eventually destroyed that. Once divorced I was happy again, able to live my life my way and very happy to be "on my own". No I do not get "lonely" because I have friends who's company I enjoy and a certain "special" someone but living with someone else is totally out of the euqation that is my life. There is nothing wrong with wanting to have your own space, however I recommend that you be honest with your husband, maybe the two of you can opt for twin beds in your bedroom rather than sharing a bed, see what sort of options you can come up with together, because that is what marriage is all about, working together.
2007-01-07 11:52:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I left the church shortly before I turned 19. As soon as I turned 18, the pushing started. I had an interview with my Bishop about marriage, and how it was important that I started looking. They transfered me to the singles ward right away. I was constantly being set up, even so far as people making bets on how long it would take me to get married (I guess you could say I;m fairly attractive). If my parents had missionaries over for dinner, jokes were cracked about them coming back to marry me. My Dad had even talked to me about being married before I turned 19. I hadn't even MET anyone yet! Not long after, I QUIT!! The pushing was the main factor at first. But, followed by a lot more and making me very firm in my decision. My family in fact did the same about a year later. Now, I have been dating my boyfriend of 2 and a half years, we live together, and are in the process of buying a house. My parents are now the last ones to push us towards marraige.
2016-05-23 05:14:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i couldnt think of anything worse than not sleeping in the same room as my fella!!
i have been on my own for short periods and enjoyed both.
you obviously havent adjusted well to married life.... why dont you just say dont wrap yourself around me quite so much as i find it hard to sleep like that but i like being in bed with you and see how that works.
i would also take offence if my other half decided he was off to sleep downstairs !!!
2007-01-07 19:29:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being wrapped up in the arms of the person who loves you and who you love is a part of marriage! Didn't you know that your husband was going to want to sleep with you? I like to sprawl across my queen sized bed also, but it is so much better when you sprawl in to a warm body. Maybe you should have thought about all that comes along with marriage before you consented to marriage.
2007-01-07 12:04:16 · answer #5 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a long time being on your own you have got so used to your own space it takes a long time to be able to let someone share with you it's not selfish it's just that is the way you were only it has now changed so NO you are not horrible
2007-01-07 11:04:22 · answer #6 · answered by Bernie c 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are not horrible! That is really normal. My husband and I have had separate rooms for a couple years, since our first child was born. It actually works really well. And we still work at keeping the romance alive. Read this article, show it to your husband:
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2006/01/09/AR2006010901549.html
2007-01-07 11:08:31 · answer #7 · answered by Kate A 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him, don't raise your voice or make him feel like he is doing something wrong - just explain that the two of you are different and that you need space.
2007-01-08 23:43:50 · answer #8 · answered by intelligentbutdizzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...if he loves you he will understand...at the end of the day, we cannot live totally for the other person...there are some comfort measures that should not be questioned...good luck
2007-01-07 11:03:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is the old "the grass is always greener scenario"
2007-01-07 11:08:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋