help about my kidss?

Question

i have to take my 5 year old son and 7 year old son to get a physical check up done and also getting rectal exams (doctors suggestion) and i have used enema's and suppositories on my sons about a while ago and how do i tell them they will be terrified and throw fits.
i know they will cry

also my 10 year old daughter is going to see a gyn tomorrow because she has just started her period a month ago and i want to know if everything is alright

she wouldn't let me help her explain how to use a pad or tampon how do i tell her she will not sit still either and cry.
helpppp???

both my sons were breast fed and are constipated
i used an infant laxative on them idiot.
i think it is bc of the milk i had caused constipation and the doctor suggested rectal exams for both to see if tht is the cause and blood tests for all of us.

p.s. this is not for me its for my cousin she was over and got on my computer and i had never signed out.
for those who don't understand.

Answer 1

Well about you sons, I wouldn't go through the details of a rectal exam. Tell them what they're about to do won't hurt a bit, and calm them down and say they have nothing to worry about. It's better if you leave out the details.

I understand what your daughter is going through. She is probably feeling like she is growing up too soon by getting her period. I felt the same way. Tell her she will still be the same exact kid, except just one that gets her period. She doesn't have to any growing up right now. If you let her know that getting her period is a completely normal process and means that she won't have to be a woman anytime soon, I'm sure she'll be able to listen to your instructions on how to use a pad or tampon. [you'd better just stick to pads though, since a tampon will probably hurt.]

Answer 2

I advise you to ... throw them all out the window.

First, _why_ did the doctor recommend your sons have a rectal exam? These can only be really necessary when there's reason to suspect something serious. I don't think rectal "exams" are just randomly performed on children. I never had one as a child.

I sympathize about your daughter. 10 is awfully young to have a period. There are "starter kits" and things like that you can order that come with videos and varieties of pads and tampons that might make her a bit less weirded out and are educational (though I would avoid encouraging tampons at her age). It can actually be sort of fun to get your period. It's a special time. Perhaps a little present for the blossoming woman or any kind of special gift will make her period seem more like growing up than a monthly dirty mess.

And I suppose it's a good time to start thinking about when she can start the pill because it will lighten her period and probably make her teenage years a bit less miserable and embarrassing.

Here's a couple sites for her and you to look at:
http://www.startsampling.com/sm/20542/captureAddress.iphtml?item=20542&source=fromtransition_bgnav
http://www.beinggirl.com/
http://www.kotex.com/na/talk/educators/eduKitInfo.asp
http://www.healthywomen.org/healthtopics/teenhealth

Answer 3

Rectal exams on youngsters like that are rediculous and possible damaging to mental growth of your children. I would ask specifics but I have never heard of that and I worked in the medical field for some time now. There is no reason to give a child a suppository at this age unless they are violently vomitting constantly and its your last resort. Oral meds is so much better for these bashfull growning and developing years.

As for your daughter. Its a tough deal. See if her father has better luck getting through to her. Its a young age, but maybe the gyn or her pediatric doc/nurse may have good suggestions on start the conversation. See if you can find a video on the web (maybe a womens health sight or just a random search) and have her watch it privately away from anyone else. This may curve the anxiety and pass on your lesson.

Answer 4

You can't force maturity on these kids. You have to explain to them that the doctor needs to look at them so they're better. I don't know why you would give your kids enemas and suppositories though. To tell you the truth I think that would scare me more as a 5-year old than a rectal exam by a doctor.

Let the Gynecologist explain to your daughter the intricacies of tampons and pads. She'll appreciate it more coming from someone she trusts (not that she doesn't trust you, she's just nervous and would prefer to hear it from an unbiased source.)

Answer 5

You should tell them they have to see a doctor, but after wards you will spend time doing their favourite thing and let them both pick something. This will help them get their minds off it with something nice. Also I for instance am 17 and have already bin through 9 surgeries, so something like that would be nothing to me. The best way is to give them happy things like I said.

About your daughter, she is probably just really shy about her mother talking to her about her period. It likely just makes her uncomfortable. The best solution I can think of, is, if she doesn't allow you to communicate about her period with her, go to your local book store and find a book that explains stuff about why girls have periods, and how to deal with the problem. Give it to her, and say this will help. That way, she can read it in her own time with privacy and is still learning the necessities of life. That's how I got tricked into learning all that stuff.

Answer 6

Why are the boys getting rectals???? Unless they are having bowel problems, I don't see the need for it!! As far as your daughter goes, her PCP is sufficient for her first period. there is no need for her to see a gyno yet unless there are problems. My 11 yr old started @ 10, and her primary care doc handled things just fine with a good ole conversation...he didn't even have to look nor touch her!!
Back to the boys...unless they are having problems that you have not mentioned, I would not put them through that...check with the nurses at your facility, call another docs office before your appt, SOMETHING! just doesn't sound right....sorry

Answer 7

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Answer 8

You're a child. Stop asking ridiculous and fake questions. You don't have kids you're like 7 yourself (either that or some kind of pervert). I saw the other questions you asked (What is masturbation?). Please. You've been reported.

And for the future, when you want to be an idiot and waste everyone's time NO ONE BREAST FEEDS 7 YEAR OLDS. Go to bed, you have school tomorrow.

Answer 9

FIRST OFF YOU DON'T GIVE A 5 AND 7 YEAR OLD ENEMA'S. IF THEIR CONSTIPATED GIVE THEM CHILDREN LAXATIVES!!!! SECOND WHY IN THE HELL WOULD YOU GIVE A 10 YEAR OLD FEMALE A TAMPON TO USE?! SHE NEEDS PADS NOT TAMPONS, SHE A VIRGIN FOR GOD SAKE. I THINK YOU HAVE ISSUES AND I HAVE NEVER HEARD OF KIDS GETTINGG RECTAL EXAMS UNLESS THE DOCTOR FEELS THEY ARE GETTIN MOLESTED, AND WHEN THE DOCTOR EXAMINES THEM I HOPE THEY DON'T GET TAKEN FROM YOU BUT THEY NEED TOO BECAUSE YOU ARE AN UNFIT/UNSTABLE MOTHER!!!

Answer 10

FOr ur sons just make the doctor be nice and careful or tell them u'll buy a toy if they behave well. for ur daughter just let the doctor do the stuff for you and comprehend with the stuff he says. after she goes to the doctor she'll probably know enough so u wont have to talk about it.