I moved in with him, but the house is a tip, he refuses to get rid of his parents stuff, even though they moved to Spain eight years ago. Also he says if we get married, we are not getting a house together, he wants to stay in his tip. Am I unreasonable to want a tidy house, and a nice place to live when we are married?
2007-01-07 10:43:23 · 14 answers · asked by TEE S 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he is a selfish wally so if i was you id say to him
its either me or the pairents stuff and the tip
if he says tip and stuff ( email me at rchrd_dodds@yahoo.co.uk )
then dump him then il make u forget about that pig ok
2007-01-07 10:48:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't know if you remember the cartoon character Andy Capp? He lay around all day sleeping on the settee while his harrassed wife ran about doing the housework in her wrap-around apron. Despite his inactivity, he ruled the roost - it was his house and things were done his way. You have got yourself an Andy Capp .He keeps his parents' things round about him because he has not grown up. I would not criticise him so much for his messiness - I am also very untidy and there are people who just don't 'see' mess - but for what you call his stubbornness. That is not a good sign this early in a relationship. You have some thinking to do.
2007-01-07 19:14:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump this guy! Every woman deserves to have a home of her own. If he wants to keep his parents old ram shackle, then he is free to do so, but when he says "we are not getting a house together", that tells me that he does not value you, and that he has already started a war against you in his mind. You need to find yourself a real man.
2007-01-07 18:51:04 · answer #3 · answered by Foxy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
HELL NO! lol, i am the same, my husband is the most untidiest person in the planet!!! but i still love him all the same, cant u compramise on things, say to him, u can keep ur stuff, if we can have our own house.. that's fair, just make sure that u choose the house! lol,
good luck with this x x
2007-01-07 18:51:29 · answer #4 · answered by storm.minx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO you are not unreasonable to want a tidy house. Better really pay attention he is giving you a sign, open your eyes before it is too late.
2007-01-07 18:49:56 · answer #5 · answered by Ms. Angel.. 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No you're not unreasonable but your boyfriend is entitled to have what HE wants as well. You have a choice either you can stick with this guy and HIS choices or you can move on. You don't get to dictate HIS life choices
2007-01-07 23:17:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well hes making it perfectly clear where you stand in the pecking order- and it clearly isnt first is it???
either tell him that you want to move into somewhere different if and when you get married or there is no you and him.
sounds like a very selfish bloke to me.
you could do better
2007-01-08 03:22:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he drives you mad now with his untidy house what will he be like after 5 years of marriage , married but living apart i don't think so dump the fool and find someone who really wants to live happily together
they are out there
2007-01-08 07:42:16 · answer #8 · answered by D D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its understandable he'll want to keep a few things from his parents- for sentimental value. But if he values objects and a place you arent happy with, more than you, then what future do you have.
You need to be blunt. give him an ultimatutm. if he cant contribute to a nice home for you both, you're wasteing your time.
2007-01-07 18:50:09 · answer #9 · answered by Kat 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you have such issues with how he keeps his house then you need to have your own place where you can keep it like you want to. if there is no compromise then there cannot be a relationship. marriage or not.
2007-01-07 18:55:08 · answer #10 · answered by cfalways 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋