here's the deal my doctor is a great doctor but he has a horrid bedside mannor and is very opionated I feel a pregnant woman (ME) is very vulnerable to this and I am rather nervous about my appointment tomorrow as he may cause me to act a fool if he is mean he has been my doc for about eight years and I will be in my fourth month of pregnancy so I will probably have difficulty finding a new one (I have one in mind) should I change if tomorrow dosen't go well or deal with it?
2007-01-07 10:04:37 · 18 answers · asked by tasha l 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I say he is great because he delivered my son and I am appreciative of this but I feel like I was naive and now being more adult and ladylike his poor sarcasm annoys me by acting a fool I mean crying and getting overly emotional!!
2007-01-07 10:16:32 · update #1
You are still early in your second trimester, so it's really not too late to transfer care if you want to. Since you already have a child, I would suggest talking to other mothers that you may have met and ask about their experiences with their physicians and whether or not they would recommend them to you. It's very important to have a trusting and confident relationship with your ob/gyn so that you are comfortable sharing information and asking questions. If you feel that you are not being respected, this means that your ob/gyn is not doing his job. My husband has been an ob/gyn for several years, and he believes that a patient should always be comfortable with their provider because communication is KEY when providing the best medical care. You should never feel like you cannot ask questions or that you cannot expect kindness and compassion from your ob/gyn. It sounds like your ob/gyn is not fulfilling his end of the bargain. By all means, switch!
2007-01-07 10:24:57 · answer #1 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not comfortable then you need to find a new doctor. The worst time I can think of to be made to feel stupid or inept is when you are pregnant...especially because you will have many questions, some of which aren't always comfortable ones to ask. You need to feel that your doctor's bedside manner is good...otherwise when you go into labor you will feel uneasy with the situation. Don't hesitate to switch, and do it now before you get further into your pregnancy. You want a great relationship with your dr...don't forget..toward the end of the pregnancy you'll be in the office at least once a week and will be on edge if you aren't happy with his attitude.
2007-01-07 10:08:48 · answer #2 · answered by kath_08012 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean except mine problem was with the nurses in the office not the doctor, the gave me a nurses hotline to call anytime I had any kind of question or concern but every time i called they treated me like an idiot and it was my first pregnancy and i didn't call that often maybe once a month. I would wait and see how tomorrow goes and then decide. Good Luck!
2007-01-07 10:08:32 · answer #3 · answered by mdoud01 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would seek out a new doctor. I don't understand how you can say he is a great doctor if he makes you act like a fool. To me that has to go hand in hand.
Remember that you are PAYING him for a service, so please don't let him belittle you, that's crazy... if you are not satisfied I would advise you to seek alternate options.
Doctors make a ton of money from their patients, some don't seem to care about that, and some become doctors for all the wrong reasons.
Good luck with your pregnancy !.
2007-01-07 10:10:42 · answer #4 · answered by thatswhattheytoldmelastnight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If tomorrow doesn't go well then YES get a new doctor. As you progress throughout your pregnancy you are going to need someone you trust, and can be completely comfortable with. Heck, even if tomorrow goes well, maybe it's worth seeing if this other doctor might see you....
2007-01-07 10:09:04 · answer #5 · answered by naenae0011 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you are asking this you are obviously not comfortable with your doctor. You need to find a new one that you feel comfortable enough to ask all your questions, tell your concerns to and most importantly trust. I would not want someone in that important of a role being judge mental of me, because then you might feel embarrassed to ask questions or be open with them.
2007-01-07 10:14:05 · answer #6 · answered by Lindsey M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a new one! You are going to be having a baby with this guy there.The last thing you need is attitude from someone in the delivery room. I had a horrible midwife during my daughters birth and she was more of a focus than my baby!!
2007-01-07 10:09:04 · answer #7 · answered by blahblahblah 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Change...you don't want to be stressing out like this everytime an appointment is looming, do you?
You have a right to feel comfortable with your care, and have every right to switch doctors.
2007-01-07 10:13:03 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you're not comfortable with this doctor. Really, you own him nothing, even if he did deliver your son. You need to do what's best for you and your baby. And if I were you, I would deffinately switch to a different ob/gyn. Hope everything works out for you!!!
2007-01-07 10:42:54 · answer #9 · answered by Jacki T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing worse than a creepy doctor when you are giving birth...a vulnerable time physically & emotionally. Run, dont walk to find a new MD.
2007-01-07 10:12:01 · answer #10 · answered by birdie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋