We have been married for a year and a half and the first year of our marriage was a bit ruff.... My husband had to have back surgery so he was out of work for several months, and we have had to deal with a couple of deaths in the family too..
2007-01-07 09:52:41 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Make a decision to work hard at getting the romance back into your marriage.
It will take work to consciously break away from the routines and distractions that have been the foundation of your marriage so far.
Sure, get sensual. Use ALL the senses. Improve the environment. Pick up the clutter around the house. Add a houseplant. Buy some fresh fruit and serve it with breakfast.
Serve a breakfast or dinner picnic in bed.
Massage his feet. Sincerely ask if there is something you can do for him at a time when you normally wouldn't feel like it.
Do the unexpected. Do one of his household chores......take out the trash, mow the lawn. Do it with a smile and a wink.
Doing something small with NO expectation in return is one of the most romantic things you can do.
Good Luck.
C-F
2007-01-07 10:19:28 · answer #1 · answered by Crispy_Frog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let too much time pass before becomming close again. If his back is feeling better and you both seem to have had time enough to greive . Plan a nice night together just lying on the bed talking or watching a movie, or mabe playing a board game. Not exciting enough? go for the bubble bath or shower together, light candles, play music, have some wine. Things will progress from there.
2007-01-07 10:01:28 · answer #2 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could surprise him with a weekend away. Leave love notes around the house. If he takes his lunch send a sexy little note in his lunch so that he'll be excited to come home and find you in bed waiting. Touch him when you guys are home. Not his genitals but his cheek, his back, his arm, Give him a little hug unexpectedly, a kiss on the cheek or the neck without a reason
Tell him you love him. Suggest a back rub, if his back can take it,
maybe run a bubble bath with candles etc, and bring him in there with you. Send him something at work with a sexy note attached.
I think you get the picture. Love and Marriage are work. no doubt about it. but you guys can recapture it all. Good luck.
2007-01-07 09:58:25 · answer #3 · answered by minion 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You guys have a lot of stress in your lives and no wonder things are not the way you want them to be. I believe you would both benefit from some marriage counseling and having some supportive friends in your life. Keep the lines of communication open with your husband, and let him know how you feel and what you want.
2007-01-07 09:58:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go back to what was passionate in your relationship in the beginning. What is it that you love about your man? Focus on the positives. Plan a surprise for him. Maybe cook his favorite meal or make reservations to his fave restaurant. Do something that is sentimental to both of you, like go back to the place where you got engaged or married...Or just talk to him and see what he would love! Good Luck!
2007-01-07 10:03:05 · answer #5 · answered by Lindsey M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When life is starting to get me and my boyfriend down and we start snapping at eachother I take a minute to look at the big picture. One day I planned a nice candlelite picnic on our balcony. Sometimes I just say lets go for a walk in the woods. Since he always treats when we go out I surprise him and take him out. Surprise him with his favorite desert and let him know you were thinking about him. Constantly remind him of why he chose you and that should make it all better.
2007-01-07 10:15:25 · answer #6 · answered by o'juiccy1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they say the first two years of marriage are the worst and having just got through my second year i believe'they'. its not a barrel of laughs being married is it?! but if you still love ur man just be there for him. fancy neals etc dont work with men they are just happy you are there even when they dont act like they give a ****. dont talk too deeply to him just get into bed one night naked and cuddle up to him put his head on your bust and rub his back they r all big babbies after all.
2007-01-07 10:00:23 · answer #7 · answered by alroka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a choice to LOVE the person each day. You can't wait to see what they are going to give you first. Love is sacrificial. When you give unconditional love on a daily basis, it will be returned. That will cause some sparks!
2007-01-07 09:57:06 · answer #8 · answered by oldrallychick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
marriage is sometimes tough.you have to give it everything youve got.ive been married two years and ive wondered before if we would make it.you have to be strong for each other.as for the romance,do you mean sex?if so,try new things,buy toys,anything to spice it up.if its more than sex just reassure him you love him and youre there.tell him you love him,kiss and hug him as much as possible.maybe that will help
2007-01-07 09:58:38 · answer #9 · answered by starr67 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your relationship back to when you were dating. Do something you first did together on a date, like a walk down memory lane, and tell him you miss those days. Recommit yourselves to trying to do romantic things for one another like you used to. It takes effort, but it will be worth it.
2007-01-07 09:57:20 · answer #10 · answered by McB 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋