My 15yr old friends is in love with a 49yr old man!?

Question

Please help! He is SO great and everything according to her. I haven't met him. so idk...but it's so scary! what shoudl i tell her?

Answer 1

tell her not to mess around with him he is probably some child molester and a pervert. and tell her she is silly to be even thinking that this man may even want to be with her in the slightest. this man sounds like a pervert if he is promoting all of this.

Answer 2

WOW!!! That is quite an age difference!!! Yes he could get in trouble ( and rightly so), if he IS messing around with her.
Can she find no boy her age where you live? What is wrong with HIM if he cannot find a WOMAN his age. She is still a girl and a minor @ that. It seems kinda scummy and sleazy of this man. Obviously there is some major malfunction with his character and morals. If you are truely worried for her, you might want to bring this up to her parents. Have some kind of proof to back yourself up. But be forwarned, that your friend will possibly find out and become very angry with you. You would be doing the right thing, but she will not see that now or for a long time.
So, I guess you have to deceide if you want her to get hurt and feel guilty for not saying anything to have prevented this OR say something and be the better person knowing you have prevented something awful from happening. Good luck !!!

Answer 3

Well it is very common for young girls to develope crushes on much older men. She will outgrow this. It is a puppy love. If he is married tell her not to aspire to be a home wrecker. If he is not, tell her it is illegal for him to do anything with her and he could go to jail. If he is doing things with her I would tell her parents so they could take care of it. If there is a genuine love between them, which I doubt, it will still be there when she is of age and then they can act upon it then.
As for everyone on here calling him a molester and pervert, why would you say that? Maybe this girl just has a crush on this man and he doesn't even know. Or if he does maybe he just hasn't said anything to embarrass her. Like I said it is totally normal for young girls to think they have a crush on an older man or to even think they love them, like a teacher or a friends parent and such. It could be totally innocent. She didn't say a man was trying to pursue her friend. That would be a totally different issue entirely.

Answer 4

Wow, tell her parents. Make sure they're ok with this. The 15 year old doesn't know what love is yet. The 49 year old does. He may be taking advantage of her. If he's messing around with a minor he can get in a lot of trouble with the police. And if a 49 year old man doesn't know the effects of messing with a minor, he's not worth it. And obviously very immature.

Answer 5

I'm 30 and my husband is forty seven and had been married for nearly eleven years. We've got intercourse about three-four instances per week however he continuously makes sure I "get" mine earlier than he "gets" his. Every once in a whilst the "just do it" intercourse is exceptional (exceptionally if we are both worn out but particularly quite fairly need it!!) however i would no longer accept it on a general foundation. It feels like your husband has a sexual dysfunction. Have you ever talked to a counselor or your household general practitioner? How was once sex handled in his loved ones? If sex was once something that wasn't mentioned, treated as a "soiled" factor, and so forth. He may have a warped experience of what intercourse is/way. Talk to him about it however don't battle about it in view that it'll simplest make matters worse. If he's abusive for the period of sex (non-consensual roughness, if he degrades you, etc.), that is important signal of anything being significantly incorrect and you should search counseling immediately. If your husband will not go to counseling, you continue to must go to counseling as a way to understand why you are permitting yourself to be treated in this kind of poor method. Just right luck, sweetheart! =)

Answer 6

I'm 38 and a teacher. I have girls that age, or younger, flirting with me all the time. I can not understand why any guy my age or older would want a young girl. Does this guy want her? If so, tell an adult. If he doesn't, that teenage crush will go away...they always do.

There's nothing you can really say to change her mind. She's going to have to make that decision herself. Of course you can always remind her that in 10 years when she's getting out of college and looking for a career, he'll be getting ready to retire, and she may have to support him.

Answer 7

Tell her that an adult man that is interested in a 15 yr old girl is a deviate. He only wants to use her and control her. Of course she thinks he's wonderful because he's telling her exactly what she wants to hear to get what he wants. She is too young to be with a man that age and he is too old and knows better than to take advantage of a young girl. And if they get caught together it's considered illegal and rape.
janet

Answer 8

Tell her he'll be a pedophile if she goes through with it... and what could a 15 year old and a 49 year old possibly have to talk to each other about??

Answer 9

What would a 49 yr. old man want with a 15 yr. old girl? He sounds like a molester to me~~~ And a 15 yr. old doesn't know the first thing about being in love~~~ You should be very scared, and tell your friends parents what's going on!!!!!

Answer 10

First, tell her why you don't think she should see him. Tell her it's not healthy for her to be in love with someone old enough to be her dad. If she keeps seeing him, then tell a parent or some other adult that you can trust.