why do women go off nookie after child birthand marriage?

Question

i have tried to romance her i do most of the house work i have a full time job she is just about to go back to workafter 9 months off

Answer 1

Hang in there bud, it will happen for you again. Every chance you get make sure you let her know that she is still sexy!! It is very hard with new fat layers, stretch marks, bags under your eyes etc. to believe that your man still thinks you are hot. MAKE HER BELIEVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

Answer 2

You know, men change too! Why is that? Seriously, part of the issue is hormones! They can really mess ya up for awhile after a baby. Then there is the stress and fatigue. Perhaps you could take care of the baby for a bit and see what it is like. I think all first time dads should wear that pregnancy apron that simulates the feelings of pregnancy. Guys that have tried it are much more understanding. Try some romance and some patience. When a woman is taking care of a crying baby all day, and night, and then the man comes in and expects her to meet his needs too...well, how many kids does she have then? And what about the guys that lose their drive???

Answer 3

It isn't really that hard a question is it, although one men dont understand.

Childbirth: You push a baby out, you are sore for days and probably bleeding, if you had to be cut then there are stiches that you don't wanna rip and need to wait for them to heal. Breast feeding makes your nipples sore and a baby needs so much attention that you are constantly tired, sex is at the very very back of your mind for a long time.

Marriage: Woman can sometimes feel, whats next and get bored thinking the excitements gone.Sex once married has to constantly be spiced up, Role play, dressing up, fantasies and other things, maybe toys and games.

Answer 4

Maybe because your motive for romance was to get sex instead of telling her that you will always love her and be commtitted to your marriage and your new bundle of joy.

Try non sexual affection and give her time.If it takes a woman's body approximately 18months to recover physically from birth think what happens mentally.

She may also have other things on her mind like the stress of going back to work and leaving her baby.Have meaningful conversation with the motive that it is just the right thing to do for her.

Remember marriage is never about the"me" its always about "you"

Answer 5

never been married, but i can explain the childbirth thing..... i gave birth to a 9lb baby boy, which was pretty f*cking painful... and i had to have lots of stitches, which made life in general very painful for about 6 weeks...... not to mention only getting 3 or 4 hours of sleep per day...... also, your hormones are all over the place, which can cause post natal depression, and a lot of women are self conscious about their appearance after having a child....... i know that it took me a while to get my confidence back...... i really wish men could go through childbirth...... then they would appreciate just how much it effects your mind and your body. if u are asking this question coz your wife/girlfriend has given birth, and has gone off sex, then try to see it from her point of view. try to support her, and when she feels special & attractive, then her sex drive should return.

Answer 6

Ok.....here it is....the big seceret.....We have a child to raise, a house to clean, dinner to make, bills to pay, and for some of us a full time job outside of the home. We are expected to be super woman for our boss and susie homemaker for our family. We do love you, you do still turn us on, but after all of the above has taken place in a 10 hour space of time and we still haven't gotten 5 minutes to even pee alone, sex seems like another chore at the end of a VERY LONG day.

Answer 7

Childbirth is a difficult experience even though a woman's body is built for it. It takes time for the physical and emotional stress to heal. But afterwards one's energy is focused more on taking care of the child and sex tends to be moved way down the list of priorities. A boyfriend or hubby has to be very understanding of the situation in order to accept that this is the way things are and it takes time.

Answer 8

Dump her. She is a type of woman a man should never marry. Really I am sick of the way these ladies behave. They think that everything is all about them, and that their men should be so happy about their pregnancy. Why the hell should any man feel happy about his woman being pregnant if she starts behaving distant towards him and uses him to meet her needs, yet thinks she can ignore his needs for most of her pregnancy, and then after she has had the baby she still thinks she can ignore his needs.

Answer 9

Well i have know idea what is wrong with her, if all she has to do is take care of the kids and no house work god i would be having sex once aday at least. talk to her there is no reason unless the bady is new born and up every two hours. she has no reason not to want sex any more and if she doesn't then tell her to get some therapy.

Answer 10

This is the sort of question my husband would ask.Im like it at the minute. To be honest its probably due to tiredness, no matter how much house work you do she still may feel tired. she may also feel unattractive after havin a child no matter how much you tell her she doesnt. perservee

Answer 11

Because nothing in the world can prepare a woman for motherhood. In one day her whole life is turned upside down and it stays that way. It takes time to adjust (learn) - but adjust we do.