I told my close female friend that I needed time apart from her---not for good,only for a short while(time limit not set).Also asked her to be honest (for once) if she felt anything for me--wud she take this as me calling her a liar???
I had to get over my feelings for her as she only only wanted to be friends and said she "don't deserve my feelings".
It's been 1 month, I've tried to get in touch: by text\phone\sent a card+gift--have apologised for my behaviour,said that her friendship a lot to me -- no response from her yet...
How would a girl feel after hearing this???Hurt???Angry???
Will she ever speak to me again???
How long would she consider "no contact" as being for??? Will she ignore me for good???
Will she 'eventually' get in touch? A few months?
WHAT CAN I DO TO SHOW HER HOW MUCH SHE MEANS TO ME+THE FRIENDSHIP???
2007-01-07 09:21:13 · 15 answers · asked by sircrazydude90 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
MORE INFO:
We’re ATTRACTED to each other, flirt with each other, we’re in touch practically everyday(before falling out), can only open up too me, feels very comfortable with me, enjoys spending time with me etc
2007-01-07 09:23:48 · update #1
Only tried to get in touch after New Year--card sent at xmas.No other contact attempted
2007-01-07 09:27:44 · update #2
i think ur confused about what you want xactly, and your only trying to figure it out with time alone, but you went abou tit slighty the wrong way. you say you want time apart and imply you want to be "just friends" with her, and ask her to tell you if she really does love you, making her say she does only want to be friends to not be put on the spot, humiliated and made the fool when your saying you dont love her as much as she loves you. i would be hurt too. AND angry. she probably needs time to reflect too,and decide if she really wants to be your friend again without the feelings. she also may not be 'ready' to continue being your friend.
2007-01-07 11:02:04 · answer #1 · answered by Night Train 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should be flattered that you have such strong feelings that you feel the need to distance yourself from temptation in an attempt to secure your friendship. I'm sure you're aware how you would come to resent her if you were constantly rejected by her, as she would become exasperated from your attentions as well. It would definately drive the two of you apart. It's unfortunate she's being so childish about it, and if she is this offended by it, you have to ask if she really ISN'T interested. Maybe now you're gone, she's decided that she DOES want you around, and is pissed off cause you left her for a while. Maybe try to email this question and the answers to her, your question was very well worded, she could not find offense in it, and it would completely lay it out for her what your true intentions were. You seem like a nice guy, if she disses you forever over this....man, something wrong there! Good luck!
2007-01-07 17:27:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay..I think there are some hurt feelings her. This girl may have been a bit hurt or caught off gaurd when you told her you need time away from her. You said she only opens up to you, when you said you needed time apart that may have made her feel abandoned, hurt, and vulnerable all over again. YOu said she says she doesnt deserve your feelings... that could be major low self esteem talking. She doesnt feel too great about herself, she feels she doesnt deserve to be happy. I would just write her one final letter expressing yoru feelings and let her know that when she wants to talk to you you are only a phone call away. Make it clear in a nice way the ball is in her court now. It may suck waiting to find out when or if she will contact you but it is the best thing to do right now. Give her space and time to reach out to you again.
2007-01-07 17:28:17 · answer #3 · answered by kristen r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If some guy told me this I'd probley take it to mean they never wanted to speak to me again. That's because it's happened to me. If I don't have any contact with a guy for a month, I try my best to move on. Yes, I would be hurt, and wouldn't want to risk getting hurt all over again. You can't just put someone on hold like that. Maybe she'll talk to you again, but her trust is likely gone for good. If you really value a relationship, you've got to work through things. Good luck.
2007-01-07 17:27:57 · answer #4 · answered by micha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow you really did a number there didnt you? First you nailed creepy...nice job, then you just hit bitter/angry out of the park for a homerun. Then you got a first down on the obsessive behavior play. Nice work on the gift card too...back to creepy again...and then you are lying to yourself and her by saying the friendship is all you care about, which she wont buy for one second. Do her a favor and find some other girl to stalk.
2007-01-07 17:25:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd imagine that this girl is going to become slightly scared of you, she might get a restraining order. I advise you to forget about her and find someone new to obsess about. someone that maybe shares that feeling with you so you can hold hands in the park and buy gifts for each other, speak to each other on the phone daily write sweet love letters to and write comic books about (this is what me and my ex-girlfriend used to do) We would sit together all day and sleep together at night until she died in a car crash, good luck in finding that true love it only happens once. sadly it over for me now.
2007-01-07 22:17:09 · answer #6 · answered by youlistentomeiamyourmother 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u guys are probably made for each other but with what u said to her she is probably hurt and angry especially if she wanted more i no i would be upset
2007-01-07 17:30:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You go to he house and tell her how mush she really means to you this is a girl tha has had it done to her it makes a girl fell batter
2007-01-07 17:26:20 · answer #8 · answered by Caitlin Layton 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OOPS leave it up to her she would of read your text so....she will respond in the end. Other than that move on, well move on anyway you are wasting your time...
2007-01-08 03:30:16 · answer #9 · answered by cinders 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...find someone else. Tell her somehow you're sorry if you caused any bad feelings and you are moving on and won't bother her anymore.
Cheers!
2007-01-07 17:24:44 · answer #10 · answered by tublugator08 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋