should i tell her?

Question

I am going to live with my mum soon its only an hours drive from where i live now but the thing is im in love with my best friend and i dont no wheather to tell her b4 i leave. I will still visit her and keep in contact but i just want to tell her how i fill coz i would love to no what could happen. Im bi and i havent told her. i dont no if she is bi or if she feels anything for me but sometimes i feel like she sends me signals and im confused about how she really feels. I could take a risk and tell her and hope for a good reaction or risk her flipping out on me which would be bad but i dont think she would stop being my mate. It hurts so much not knowing how she feels or if anything could happen between us coz i love her so much but should i tell her the day b4 i go?

Answer 1

first and foremost, only tell her when you are certain she needs to know. in all honesty though, you've already answered your own question. re-read what you wrote .. and you will find it.

you are only confused because you are merely sitting on the fence.

in my opinion, bi-sexuality is a 'temporary term' for accepting who we are. many of us justify this by convincing ourselves we can have our cake and eat it too. wrong.

one day, someone (male or female) will come along and sweep us off our feet. realizing this is the right thing for us, well our choice is then chosen for us. try as we may, we realize hey, this isn't so bad after all. we accept ourselves and those around can do the same. if they do not, well don't jump back in that closet to appease them - remember the cardinal rule of life. you come first .. the rest are just chapters in your story.

good luck hon, it's not going to be easy, but perhaps what i've written may ease the transition.

bga

Answer 2

How old are you?

You say you are bi, but are you male or female?

If you're under 21 and a guy, go for it.
If you're under 21 and a girl, I'd play it cool for a while longer and see if anything more concrete develops before you make your statement.

If you're over 21, of either gender, trust your heart and your instincts and why are you going to live with your mother?

Answer 3

I don't know...if she isn't bi than she might feel scared to go around you since you like her and she doesn't like you.And it would be too awkard for her.Just ask her if she is bi and if she says no don't say anything about how you like her.Or you could ask her if she's willing to try it with you.If she says yes than tell her how you feel about her.I hope that helps and I hope your relation ship becomes what you want it too.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

I let my best friend go and didn't get another chance for seven long years (we just celebrated out tenth wedding anniversary). It is ALWAYS better to regret something you've done than something you lacked the courage to do. Carpe Diem my friend.

Answer 6

if she is your best friend... then by now you would have an idea about her lifestyle and opinion on things like being bi.... if you must do it... then do it and take the risk

Answer 7

I don't think you should tell her the day before you go. Maybe after the move you can tell her how you feel. I wish you the best.

Answer 8

go ahead take a risk , hope 4 the best .

Answer 9

yes i think you should its all about taking risks. you dn't want to regret not telling her for the rest of your life and probably miss out on a great gurl

Answer 10

I say tell her...if she don't feel the same way at least there never be that what if?