i just found out i'm pregnant again ?!!?

Question

ok .. i'm 25 pregnant with my 4th child i don't know how i can possibly handle a 4th one .. mothers how do u balance .. age's 2-9
work, hubby, homework, chores ??
i dont need critisizm people just mothers out there to tell me
" you can do it " lol
i just found out 3 days ago .. that i'm 10 weeks fat .. man o man

Answer 1

The older kids will always help with the smaller ones. Play with them as much as you can in a group. Let them help as much as possible, like making beds, doing dishes, etc. Do chores as a group that way no one gets "stuck" while others are playing thus causing resentment. I had a couple clean off the table, I washed, and another dried and put dishes away (or boys). Another son took out the trash, etc., and that way it was done much faster. We rotated except for washing. Then they watched TV or visited friends. Just before bedtime they worked on homework and then bed. When one is stuck doing the dishes, it is very traumatizing to everyone. I worked and so besides our chores each day we all cleaned house on Saturday morning and that way we had the rest of the weekend free to play, visit, etc. We usually all played board games and watched TV together, as well as including our company. You will love it. Your family will come to mean a lot to you.

I cried when I found out I was pregnant with my fourth one. I told my husband no more sex until he had a vasectomy (that may not be the answer for you), but four kids is enough for anyone, for a woman and for a man to have to support (that is what I felt at the time) and our kids grew up pretty well and I love my fourth one dearly. You need to give each one some personal time every day. You may not be able to do it, but that is a goal to work for.

When they were really young I did not work and it was hard, so it is going to be extra hard for you, but just worry about one job at a time and try not to think of it as one big job so it won't overwhelm you, and you will get through it. Life goes on. The doctor told me my child would live in spite of me, because I didn't know much about taking care of children.

What kind of work do you do, maybe you could work at home. Maybe hire a housekeeper if you can afford it. I don't know how you can do it and work, maybe a babysitter who will come to your house. I did do that and that is so much better on the kids and yourself.

When I did start to work I worked at night so my husband could be home with the children at night and I was home during the day. I worked the graveyard shift, went to work after 11 when the kids were in bed and my husband was home, came home at 7 and got them off to school, went to bed, got up and fixed supper, and spent some time with the kids, and then to bed for a couple of hours, and then went to work again at 11. Did I mention I had four children and two step children that spent a lot of time with us. That was when husbands didn't help in the house.

Good luck, you will love every minute of it (almost), and you will be proud of yourself, especially as your kids grow up and do such wonderful things. They will get in trouble too, but just stand by them, be there for them.

Answer 2

Im 25 as well and pregnant with my 3rd..been pregnant 4 times though and had a miscarriage. My children are 5 and 1 1/2. I manage but it is hard enough and very time consuming..I get a sigh of relief when it hits 8 oclock..bedtime and im able to just sit and watch my tv in peace. I have a hubby that acts like a 4th child and it is very annoying at time. U can do it..if I can and other women out there can do it u will have no problem. If your other children are in school that helps out a lot. Just get your hubby to help u around the house and set some rules for your older children. If they are 5 and older they are very much capable of helping out. My 5 yr shes almost 6 does chores her own homework unless she is stuck on a problem,takes her own shower etc. Tell your hubby this is the time u need him most and im sure he will help u out too. This is a blessing and u should be happy not overwhelmed..trust that everything will be fine...hey im doing it..hard but doing it..u can too. Congratulations and Good Luck!

Answer 3

You can do it. Just try to get organized before it comes. Do u have a weekly routine to do a certain thing on a certain day. Can u enlist the help of family if nearby to help out with giving you a break for yourself ocassionally. You and your hubby should try to have an evening out at least once a week for dinner and a movie.
Also you can have the 9 year old help out with some chores.
I know u feel overwhelmed now but it will all work out.
God bless and good luck.

Answer 4

You can do it! Im 12wks now with #4, Other kids are 7, 6 and 4. Tho im in a bit different situations becuase my youngest will start school after the summer. So it will be just me and baby. Things are tough i know.. but you can do it. Its may take some tears.. some tiredness. Im not sure about you but my older kids (7,6) and extastic about having a baby in the house. I dont think i have to worry becuase i KNOW i will have thats xtra helping hands to help me if needed! Even now tho i do my cleaning when my youngest is at 4yr K.. thats only 2 hrs. but Even before he was in school i tend to do more work when he was napping or i just sat him down to do something quite and told him i had some work to do!Most of the time he wanted to help! My husband helps out a lot aswell tho. Thankfully i have a awsome hubby! Anyways i hope things work out for you. Mail me if you wanna have someone to talk to!

Answer 5

I have 5 kids..4 girls and 1 boy..Ages 15, girl 13, boy 11, girl 6, girl and 2, girl.. We have our own set plans..Everyone knows the role they play in the family even the 2 year old..Everything f=goes smooth The house is always clean and every chore is always done...I am married and work also..I started out from the beginning letting the children KNOW what is expected of them and there has never been a problem..Everyone does what is needed and everyone gets what they need..Daddy wants baby # 6...Oh,,,YOU CAN DO IT...

Answer 6

LOL, it's a lot easier than you think that it would be. I have five children myself, ages 3,4,7,9,11.
I do most of the housecleaning while the kids are at school and I enlist the younger ones to help me. Or while I'm busy I get them coloring books and colors out to keep them occupied.
Hubby...put him to work too. He can cook!!! Ask him if he would consider it to give you a break one or two days a week.
Homework...not sure if it's yours or theirs, lol. I go to college full time...and I usually do my homework when the kids go to bed or while the older ones are in school. If it's theirs....have them do it as soon as they get home.
Chores...this is the fun part. I've got two ways of doing that...I made an excel format calendar and chore sheet. It's a weekly calendar and they get a star on their day if they got their chores done. And the chore list just lists what chores they have to do daily. At the end of the week, they get a special reward for getting them done.

Another thing that I do is get one of those deskpad calendars and schedule everything out. It actually helps me to get everything organized.

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Answer 7

YOU CAN DO IT.

My house is a mess, the dust bunnies are having another litter under my couch, my children have started eating hot dogs and Kraft dinner as a food group, my husband and I have sex in the shower so that we can get two things done at once. I am 28 my life could not be more unbalanced than it is now.

My children are animals crazy and loud, my house is a zoo.

But I LOVE it that way and I don't know what I'll do when they are all grown up.

Answer 8

Congrats!! I am 30 with 4 kids - ages 3-13. It is very challanging but you can do it. You need to make sure that you follow a schedule. It is hard but needed. Also you need to make sure that you start having the older kids help with what they can. They need to pick up after themselves. Even the 2 yr old can start learing to do that. I hope all work out for you. Good Luck!!!

Answer 9

Just think yourself lucky to have all them healthy kids and a wonderful family life learn to enjoy your chores dont make them feel like a pressure or job enjoy them and your kids will co-operate more too.Theres some woman like me who could only dream of having that life some of us have a hard time trying to have one.So be bright about it..YOU CAN DO IT...!Good LUck

Answer 10

i am 24 and i have a third on the way. my girls are 4 and 16 months. this time i am having a boy. i know it's a lot of work but it is all worth it. you definitly can do it!!!! i might suggest tying your tubes or getting on birth control after this one though especially if you don't want anymore. i am going to either get my tubes tied or get an iud, they last for 5 years. good luck and congratulations!!!