me and my girlfriend have been having bedroom trouble,me more then her(ive lost my sex drive) i asked her to come and see someone with me as a couple,and she turned round and said,it aint got **** all to do with her and i should go on my own,this really hurt me that she wont support me,she is going for coucilling over a loved one dieing,and i said i would go with her for support,has she got the right to say something like that to me?
2007-01-07 09:09:14 · 19 answers · asked by half pint 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
maybe she is affraid that going to see someone will show the cracks in your relationship! if she was so rude about it, it sounds like she is not very nice to you. maybe it's not sex you have gone off, maybe it's her?
2007-01-07 09:14:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
she feels rejected. She just lost someone and is going through counseling for that. And now her girlfriend, her love has lost her sex drive. Even though you know you're not rejecting her, she still feels like you are and she's probably hurting. Have a talk with her. A serious talk. Sit her down, hold her hand and say, "Listen babe, I love you. I know your're going through this and that, I'm there for you. There is something going on with me where I've lost my sex drive. i don't know why and i need to find out. I really want you to come with me and help me find out what is going on."
Hopefully this will help. Good luck.
2007-01-07 18:26:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the first step is find out why she won't go. Something more concrete than that "it has nothing to do with her." As with any relationship, she may not be willing to open up about it to a stranger. There may also be a fear about opening up about a same-sex relationship to a counselor who may not be open to it.
I was dating a woman who had been raped. I tried to get her to go to a counselor with me, but I ultimately went by myself. This actually did help break the ice and allowed me to understand the situation better ( I was only 20 at the time). The base reason she didn't go? She came from a strict catholic family that wasn't open about relationships, never mind the whole rape issue. I was only the second person she ever told that she had been raped and she feared that the information would get back to her family.
2007-01-07 17:29:54 · answer #3 · answered by mncalristein 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
not exactly sure what you mean by "see someone with me as a couple" if this is a sexual liason or swinging kinda thing, then i can understand why she is freaked out.
either way, if she is going thru the death of a loved one, she will not be herself emotionally for quite a while.. she may just need some time and space to deal with that issue..
bottom line, her reaction sounded rough and mean, and i would hope she regrets what she said to you..
sounds like she needs some space to sort out her life..
2007-01-07 17:49:25 · answer #4 · answered by Jeff 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has the right to say no, but maybe she should have said it to you in a better way. Not everyone is comfortable with going to sex councilling, some think its too personal to share with a 3rd party. You need to accept her decision, but you also need to talk to her about your problem and come to some kind of solution to the issue. good luck
2007-01-07 17:15:50 · answer #5 · answered by beanie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She has every right to refuse to go with you - however it's not necessarily right that she won't go with you. You need to explain to her why you want her support in this and how you feel. Maybe there is more than bedroom troubles in your relationship xxx
2007-01-07 17:12:20 · answer #6 · answered by starlet108 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ouch. That must have hurt! Im going to be blunt here, and say that yes... your girlfriend should have agreed to go with you. After all... you did agree to go with her that time.
I reckon (I mean no disrespect here) that she is being very unreasonable, and could be more supportive towards you. After all... this does affect both of you.
Good luck, and I hope it all works out for you.
2007-01-08 20:02:45 · answer #7 · answered by jndk_solutions 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and figure out WHEN you lost your sex drive. Maybe your in a depression or fugue state and need help getting out. But be careful, most anti-depressants are also sexual inhibitors.
Also, one of the stages of grief is anger, so try to realize that her anger may not be directed AT YOU, just at life and unfairness in general.
5 Stages of Grief
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Five_stages_of_grief
2007-01-07 17:15:35 · answer #8 · answered by AdamKadmon 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't listen to oh to ruthless,as she chats,oh so much NONSENSE.Sit down and talk to her about what she said and why it's important to you,that she's there with you all the way,like it sounds like you are,if she doesn't leave and find someone new.
2007-01-07 17:53:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're problem could be connected to her problem if you are aware she is distracted from what you are doing.
This is a time for patience. I suggest you deal with her problem first...if she then does not care about you....then you may want to question if this relationship is worth it.
2007-01-07 17:14:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋