She is 25 and I'm 18. I know I want to spend the rest of my life with her. She's perfect in my eyes. She told me she wanted to get married someday. I want to be married by the end of this year. Should I ask her? I know I need a better job, but I'll get one and I'll take care of her.
2007-01-07 09:08:49 · 37 answers · asked by J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NO too early she will dump you trust me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-07 09:11:29 · answer #1 · answered by KevZilla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I can tell you for certain even though I don't know anything about you, that this situation is bad and the probibility of it wokring out is next to nothing. Especially since your 18, Don't you want to make something of yourself so you can take care of her? Go to college and do some traveling you have the rest of your life to get married have sex, party, whatever man it's all you. Just don't do something that you will regret later. Since you've already stated that you need a better job I say, that's great! Find something you like and stick with it. woman are trouble and to have a good relationship takes a lot of compadibility...work on that first :)
2007-01-07 09:17:59 · answer #2 · answered by Jennilee H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of do you really know the person you asked .Are you sure y
ou want to commit your life based on a four day relationship.The attraction is new,and should be fun and exciting.Get to know each other and grow.Going into a marriage this soon will only end in divorce.So enjoy life and love while your still young.In the meantime you can work on your on your on a goal for a BETTER job.
2007-01-07 10:30:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know good and well that you can't be in love with some after 4 days enough to want to marry them. Get that good job first and get your life all straightened out, But 4 days I'm not buying that, what happen if you meet another say The love of your life, cause I don't think you have had time to fall in love, I think your just in love with love..
2007-01-07 09:16:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait at least another few months. I got engaged at 2 months and married after 3 months and while i am VERY happy with my husband now, I sometimes wish I had waited just because dating can be a very exciting time in a relationship. Also, if you ask her too soon, she may be put off by how quickly you are moving. Good luck
2007-01-07 10:27:40 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you ask her now it will freak her out. Just be with her for a while first and wait until the time is right. Get the good job you want, maybe live with her for a while. Don't jump right into it. You will scare her away. She said she wanted to get married "someday" not "today".
2007-01-07 09:12:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's way to early. It takes time to get to know a person and be certain you are ready to be in a committed relationship with them.
There is no need to set a timetable for marriage. When you are both truly ready, then it is time to set a date. In the meantime, relax and enjoy getting to know her better without the pressures and compromises that come with marriage. This will also give her an opportunity to see what an amazing, caring person you are.
2007-01-07 09:43:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love her, you will prove it by getting a better job BEFORE you get married! Personally I don't think you are mature enough to even think about marriage. This is not a slam. Allot of people weren't ready including myself! If I had to do it all over again I would have waited till I had a job nearing a career.
2007-01-07 09:16:38 · answer #8 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, spend some time getting to know her. That will help your relationship more in the long run if you do decide to get married. Four days is too soon for either of you to decide.
2007-01-07 09:24:09 · answer #9 · answered by Stareyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good grief NO, do not ask her. She might be silly enough to say yes, and you will be marrying without knowing each other. A recipe for disaster. Give it some time, at least six months, before you get so serious. If there's really something there, it will still be there.
2007-01-07 09:13:50 · answer #10 · answered by krautlover2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 days isn't necessarily too early in a relationship to know that you want to be with someone forever but it is too soon to ask for marriage. Even a fast moving relationship needs time to grow and develop. My advice is to enjoy your time with her and wait until you are stable then ask her to marry you. You are still young and your personality is still growing so your ideas and ideals may change. Good luck!!!
2007-01-07 09:14:07 · answer #11 · answered by girlinlove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋