My husband and I lived together and worked together for 7 yearsand now that we got married and I went to school he always tries to fight with me and hurt me. Whats up with that?
2007-01-07 09:02:22 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Take if from an abuse survivor......you have to get help. It will just get worse. Talk to your parents if you can.. or another trusted person. Have someone close to you for support then RUN.... run straight to the authorities.... there are abuse hotlines, and shelters for battered women. Please don't stick around to see if he changes, he won't. Don't wait for it to get worse, the next time you could be dead. Fortunately, my crazy ex went to prison for drug distribution and i was able to divorce him a bit easier, but it's still something you have to do. RIGHT NOW. Don't be a victim any longer!!!! Be a survivor!!!
2007-01-07 09:17:48 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move to a safe place while he is away from home. Whether it's with relatives, a trusted friend, or a shelter for abused women, get out of there without letting him know you are planning to leave. Then contact the police, get a restraining order (which won't stop him but it gives the police an edge if he finds you and tries to hurt you). File for divorce. Watch your back at all times; do not go out alone. Do not let this guy change your mind. It doesn't matter WHY he's begun hurting you; it does matter that he has. Get away from him for good!!!
2007-01-07 09:27:18 · answer #2 · answered by missingora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Control - Your question, how do you deal with getting a divorce...? Please say that that's what you're doing? Did you file a police report? Snap your neck? he's psyco/dangerous. Girl get a plan to get out of there because he sounds as if he's possessive and you're his property. I've never been in this situation, maybe someone else has better advice, but get out hon!
2007-01-07 09:09:24 · answer #3 · answered by Emerald Jones 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a dangerous situation and you need to get
out of that relationship. You deal with it as if it is your life
that you are putting in his hands and that alone should
direct you in the divorce. Abuse, especially physical,
should NEVER be tolarated by a woman from her hus-
band and if he does it then he should go directly to jail.
So be a woman and stand up for yourself and don't
tolerate his crap.
2007-01-07 12:41:18 · answer #4 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will be able to get help from these sites. There is a lot of links in here which will cover different behaviors like narcissism etc..Good Luck you deserve the best life you can get.
2007-01-07 10:44:15 · answer #5 · answered by dragon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your husband is in need of some help, and as for you I would get myself out of this relationship as fast as i can, I just came out of a bad relationship first my ribs got broke and than both of my arms, Honey it will not get any better the next time you might not make it out alife Get out and seek help if you need it.
2007-01-07 09:14:41 · answer #6 · answered by Alley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what's up, but you have to get away from him and stay away. If you feel you have no place to go, call your local emergency room and ask for help in finding shelter for abused wives. They are able to help you find the right people.
2007-01-07 09:06:15 · answer #7 · answered by krautlover2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You continue to remind yourself how abusive he has become and the divorce will be easier, because you will know that you are doing the right thing.
2007-01-07 09:16:08 · answer #8 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
File a restraining order, move out with family or friends, and file for divorce. Do not let him know where you are.
2007-01-07 09:06:36 · answer #9 · answered by cowboybronco01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First MS. Beat his *** don't let him put his ******* HANDS ON YOU. You need to put your foot DOWN or he is going to keep on beating you. That is not safe. It sounds like he might be jealous of you trying to get ahead in life. Stay and let him put you through school then leave his ***. FEEL ME
2007-01-07 09:41:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋