It was the fall after my senior year in a private school. I'm very naive and never really had a bf, my parents forbid it. I went to college, meet a fellow Christan man we dated for the entire college year and then my family moved away 1000 miles. He and I tried to stay dateing but it was hopeless. I couldn't support myself without my family. 3 years went by we lost touch. One day out of the blue I remember his moms number. I came back to my home town to visit and "bumped" into Jeremy at walmart. Things were right back where they left we were passionatly in love. While I was gone I dated one other guy for 2 years but things didn't work out, I had only been with Jeremy and I was in love. On the other hand he couldn't handle the loss and became an alcholic and slept with several woman.
My whole problem is, I can't seem to forgive him for not trying harder when I moved away, and for turning into a slut bag. We're married now but it still makes me hate him sometimes.
2007-01-07 09:01:32 · 5 answers · asked by Jennilee H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we just got married in Oct and we have a wonderful relationship we click in everything except this. I have to deal with it everday since I now live here. It's like a slap in the face sometimes. And it really makes me want to pick up after him. :O
2007-01-07 09:08:33 · update #1
It sounds as if you were broken up at that point, so it shouldn't matter what he did. You moved away, and said you left because you couldn't support yourself without your family.
I would suggest you get counseling to work on this issue, because it could break your relationship apart.
I don't believe he didn't anything wrong, at that time you two were broken up. He didn't have 20/20 vision into the future to see that you'd get together again.
2007-01-07 10:02:21 · answer #1 · answered by Faith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he was just reacting (badly) to what happened between the two of you. He did not handle it well, but you now need to find in your heart to forgive him and find a way of getting on with your lives. Also get some counseling to deal with those and other issues that you dont want creeping up later in your relationship. Good luck and I'll be praying for you to have a long and happy marriage.
2007-01-07 18:14:53 · answer #2 · answered by lynjen31 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why on earth did you marry him, knowing this? Did you feel that marriage was going to make things all better? I suppose you could try some counseling, and maybe take him with you. I dont mean to sound harsh. It's referred to as reality.
2007-01-07 17:19:22 · answer #3 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can solve this. Women have a hard time forgetting the past.
2007-01-07 17:06:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Couple counseling and laugh yoga
2007-01-07 17:04:14 · answer #5 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋