It was a shock to me- I can only guess at the pain she is going thru- She is a wonderful person; how can I help ease the burden of this sadness, both now and in the future- anniversary of the death, things like that. I've heard that Christmas is a bad time of year for suicides- is this true? Why? I'll appreciate your input.
2007-01-07 08:57:24 · 8 answers · asked by chikensnsausages 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I feel for your friend and for you. My son attempted suicide many years ago but survived, for which I give thanks. My dear friend's son did commit suicide last autumn and I feel so inadequate to help her in spite of the near death of my own son.
I can only say that you must remain constant in your friendship. Don't be tempted to say, "I know how you feel." We are not in her shoes and cannot truly understand. But, of course, you love your friend and need to allow her to vent her grief and anger upon your shoulders if she needs to.
I think the first time the significant anniversaries come around like birthday and Christmas, it is terribly hard. The pain does ease a little given time but never really goes away. Be patient and just be there for your friend.
2007-01-07 09:13:44 · answer #1 · answered by Ross 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just let her kno that your there for her whenever she feels like talking. Simple words like Im here for you, makes a big difference. Comfort her and talk to her, eventually the hurt will go away with time. I've been down that road she is now, but my best friend died in a car wreak. You sound like an excellent friend so just let her kno your here for her, words like that can really help. Best of luck.
2007-01-07 17:26:29 · answer #2 · answered by vw chick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is offer your condolences and then drop the subject if she doesn't seem to want to talk about it. She'll talk when she's ready, but trying to force her will only push her away. Just let her know that you're there for her if she needs you. Just knowing she has your support will be a comfort to her.
2007-01-07 17:06:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't do much now. The best you can do is be there and help her in any way. Or try giving her some space for a while. X-mas is supposed to be a happy time, it's no time for suicide!
2007-01-07 17:00:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been lucky enough to never know anyone personally that's had a sucide. I just say be there for her. Let her know that you care just by being the shoulder for her to cry on, or the person to distract her from the pain she must be feeling.
2007-01-07 17:01:58 · answer #5 · answered by <3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go to your friends home and help the family in preparing meals, cleaning. Talk to them of topics like weather, river or anything regarding nature.
This way your friend will feel secure and good about yourself.
2007-01-07 17:10:22 · answer #6 · answered by prashmanic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing you can do for your friend is to be there for her. not just now but 2 wks. and a month from now. you might also try to encourage her to get counseling later on as reality starts sinking in. main thing is to be there, as there's not a lot you can say, but just to wait for her to start getting it out. she'll want to talk then.
2007-01-07 17:10:18 · answer #7 · answered by geezer 51 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend time with her. If she snaps, take it calmly and don't react. Take her out or visit her. If you knew her brother, talk about the nice times you all had with him.
2007-01-07 17:03:03 · answer #8 · answered by Developing Minds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋