What I mean is, right now I work full time, and I'm barley making it.
My brother offered to pay for me to go to school in Southern Cal; but Going to school there would mean living in So Cal for 6-8 months and working part time, I would only see my new husband ( of 3 months) every few weeks - if that.
On one hand- I'm offered school- ( cosmo- that's why its only 6-8 mo. ) and I know that after I get my lic. I'll make more money than I do now working at a diner.
on the other hand, we just got married and, It's a long time to be without my hubby.
I guess what I'm asking is- is the trade off for going to school going to be worth is? have you ever spent time away from your love?
2007-01-07 08:55:18 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We've talked about it and he told me that he thinks it's a great idea. And, In a way I do too- I'm just so, conflicted.
Also, We have a lease so it's not possible to move ( plus, we got a great deal.)
2007-01-07 09:04:00 · update #1
Well, in simple terms- Is the trade off worth it?
on one hand you will only see your husband every few weeks ( but you can still call and write - that makes a big difference.) - you school is paid for- and you have the opportunity to earn more,
on the other hand, you can see your hubby everyday and work at a crummy job with little or not room for advancement.
I THINK you should go for it- long distance is a strain on a relationship, but more couples fight and divorce over money.
it'll be hard, but worth it.
2007-01-10 14:31:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be worth it. I had the option of marrying my boy of 3 years while he was in the navy and living wherever for 4 years. I took the school option and im glad i did. Now when he gets out we will both have good paying jobs. When you get back from you schooling you will have a good paying job so that you dont need to scrape by and live paycheck to paycheck. Im sure it will feel like a long 6-8 months, but in the end it will be worth it. Love always finds a way.
2007-01-07 17:01:35 · answer #2 · answered by Chrissy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It a hard choice but your husband has to understand that in the end this will be good for the marriage and your future children. With a better job you'll be able to have a better to life for you and your family. I think its nice that your brother is offering to pay for your school and im sure he does it because he cares about your future. You can see your husband on the wknds. Good luck.
2007-01-07 17:02:10 · answer #3 · answered by LD82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the 2 of you have talked aboutt his and he is ok w/ it then do it. But you need to ask yourself if you can stand being away from your husband this long? Its great he is supporting you. You have the opportunity to make your dream come true its now in the palm of your hand but its your decision. I hope you decide and everything works out for the best good luck.
2007-01-07 17:10:26 · answer #4 · answered by 2wild4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say its worth going, you have to be able to support yourselves and your family, you won't have this flexibility when you have kids. If he's in with it then thats great. Even better take him with you. I think you know what that answer is, you just want someone to tell you the easy answer is the one you should use. School is best, what good will you be doing for anyone if you don't try to become the best you can be at what you want to do?
2007-01-07 17:29:09 · answer #5 · answered by Krista 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk it over with your husband and maybe he will be willing to move or maybe you can find a cosmo school closer just tell your husband that this well help in a long run because it will allow more money for the future
2007-01-07 17:00:11 · answer #6 · answered by cosmo26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you are married, doesn't mean you can't have your goals. Yep, things will be hard, but if your relationship is strong, you can make it together. My guy and I have been together for 7 years, and he came out to Cali to go to school-we didn't see each other for 3 months! Please communicate with your hubby. It makes all the difference. And he sounds like a good one-I mean, he's supporting you in your goal..
2007-01-07 17:12:56 · answer #7 · answered by buebla 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Actually, we have. When we got married in April of 2000 we spent that Aug-Dec apart while he was at school and I worked. Frankly, if your going to be apart, do it now. Separation will be more difficult when you have been together longer.
You have to weigh the pro's and con's for yourself. When my husband and I lived separately it was the wisest choice for us at the time.
2007-01-07 17:03:24 · answer #8 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cant you find a school near where you live. if not i think the two of you should be fine because you will have to do a lot of phone conversations and that will make you two stronger with trust love and appreciation for one another
2007-01-07 17:00:39 · answer #9 · answered by babybg_one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it school is way more important you have the oppurtunity now, your hubby will be there for the long haul,6-8 month is nothing in a life time in a few years you will be sick of him so do it now!!!!
2007-01-07 17:19:09 · answer #10 · answered by ponitail 55 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋